Without a cake and life is not sweet, or Why can't I lose weight?
Tatyana broke off and bought herself a whole cake. And she ate it whole, washed down with sweet tea the first half and tears of resentment at her weakness - the second …
"Well, come on, zip up, please!" - Tatiana persuaded her favorite dress, brushing off a strand of hair constantly sticking to her forehead. Big corporate tomorrow - 15 years for their sales department. And the dress was not buttoned. Absolutely! Tears of resentment began to blur my eyes. “That's how it happened, eh? - Tatyana asked her beloved poodle Tortik, who was interested in watching her efforts. “It’s to blame for the ill-fated cakes that were eaten after dinner yesterday. And the day before yesterday. And last Friday too …"
Mentally scolding the dress, cakes and tomorrow's corporate party, Tatiana hung her favorite dress back in the closet, honestly promising herself to fit into it in a month - for her birthday. Sighing heavily, she took out the unloved - slightly shapeless, but always helpful - and went to turn on the iron.
Tomorrow - on a diet
Tatiana has already promised herself to lose weight a hundred times. In this, she saw the solution to all her problems: if she would lose weight, she could go on a date, and her parents would not be ashamed to appear. Returning from work, she turned on the computer, made tea and a sandwich, and carefully studied different diets, choosing something suitable for herself. Only nothing suitable was found, and Tatiana postponed the search until the next evening.
Last year, she didn’t eat sweets for a whole month, but then there was a big check at work, she had to quickly write a bunch of reports, and the boss also shouted - in general, Tatyana broke off and bought herself a whole cake. And she ate it whole, washed down with sweet tea the first half and tears of resentment at her weakness - the second. After that incident, Tatyana even wanted to buy diet pills, but for some reason she did not dare.
By the way, Tatyana was much slimmer at school. No, she never looked like skinny from the covers of magazines, but still two sizes smaller than she is now. At the graduation party, proudly receiving a gold medal from the school principal, she was in that very favorite dress and terribly uncomfortable high-heeled shoes, which her mother insisted on and which Tanya took off with relief after the official part.
At the graduation ceremony at the university, she had to buy a new dress, although Tanya really liked the old one, but it became a little too small for her. It was revealed on the morning of graduation day because there was no time for a dress before. Somehow everything piled up then: exams, a diploma and that unpleasant and still not forgotten story with Dimka from the second group, with whom they were going to get married after university, but he suddenly changed his mind and left to look for work abroad. Tanya did not want to go to graduation (as, incidentally, she once entered the finance department - but her father insisted), but she had to, so she went to the nearest store and bought the first dress that was suitable in size - that very shapeless and unloved.
Vicious circle?
Tanya did not want to go to the corporate party either. She always felt so tired after work that there was absolutely no desire to stand all evening in uncomfortable high-heeled shoes, and even in this stupid dress. Tatiana sometimes even thought about changing jobs. She knew her business very well, but often did not have time to do everything on time, worried about this and stayed up late at work. Yes, and the relationship with the boss was not very good, because he wanted everything at once and faster, and Tatyana did not know how.
“Eh, I had to not listen to my father and go to the architectural one,” Tanya thought sometimes, because she loved drawing so much at school! But the train had already left, and Tatyana patiently endured the boss's discontent, sometimes complaining about him and a little about the life of her poodle Tortik, who faithfully shared her evening cakes with her.
Perhaps many are familiar with Tatiana's problems. We often find ourselves in an unloved job, are busy with what our soul is not about, we endure the nagging of our superiors, but we can’t (or don’t want to?) Change anything. As a result, dissatisfaction with life and ourselves accumulates, and we begin to “seize” this stress, trying to get at least a little pleasure and relief from delicious food. Then we blame ourselves for our weakness, but again we cannot help ourselves. Is there really no way out of this vicious circle?
Congenital properties
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, which examines the mental properties of a person, will help us to understand this issue. A set of certain innate properties in this psychology is called a vector. Each person has certain qualities that add up to his character and attitude to the world.
People like Tatyana have an excellent memory, are able to study well and with high quality, carefully analyzing the information received. You have probably met such people - these are the best students in the class, excellent students, professionals in their field. They perform any work flawlessly, because quality is important to them, not speed. They calmly and thoroughly understand the details, bringing their work to perfection - be it head or hand work. All these qualities are inherent in the developed anal vector.
Outward signs often help us to recognize such people: they are usually short in stature, tend to be overweight, and have broad facial features. They are always leisurely in movement and speech. The main values for a person with an anal vector are home and family, loyalty and friendship, respect and traditions.
A person with an anal vector has such a property as an excellent memory. He uses this property in everything: in the profession, in personal relationships, and in relation to life. He tends to remember everything: the necessary information, and all his former partners, both good and bad. Such a person likes to accumulate information - this is his innate desire, which he gladly realizes. However, this same property can also prevent an anal person from starting new business if his first experience was unsuccessful.
Out of place
Each of us is familiar with the concept of "stress". The state is not pleasant. When does it arise? System-vector psychology notes that if a person cannot realize the qualities assigned to him in society and in personal relationships, then he will experience great discomfort. For example, a person with an anal vector is able to perform work efficiently, strives to be a professional, so he does everything slowly, diligently understanding all the details. If he is constantly rushed and urged on, they try to force him to do it quickly, and not qualitatively, he experiences discomfort.
In a state of dissatisfaction and stress, a person begins to "seize" stress, accumulating excess weight. He cannot limit this, since he does not have an innate ability to self-restrict (only a person with a skin vector is capable of this). On the one hand, a person experiences fleeting pleasure, but on the other hand, he feels guilty for his weakness.
The problem is that we often don't understand what is the cause of our stress. We feel that we are uncomfortable, but we cannot find the right "medicine" for our suffering. The reason for this lies in a lack of understanding of the mechanisms that lead to certain reactions to stress, so we are guided in life blindly, often following the lead of other people. As a result, we find ourselves in the wrong job, doing something we don't like - in general, we are in the wrong place. Can this be fixed?
There is a solution
There is a great way to understand what qualities nature has endowed you with and where to apply them. To do this, you need to master systems thinking in the classroom on System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan. When we begin to understand ourselves, to understand what drives us, what desires and abilities we have, we have the strength to change our life for the better. Lectures on systemic vector psychology help us understand where resentment and guilt come from, what circumstances can lead to stress and associated overeating, and also help us understand what and how we can change so that we have no desire to eat excess food.
Here are just some of the results to solve the described problem:
“I woke up and fell asleep with the thought of chocolate - the day began with a large bar - now I remember it less and less often and I only regale myself sometimes - the martyrdom, a needle-seated desire and a sick addiction to sweets have gone … The weight slowly but surely leaves … sometimes a little -Slightly returns … but the overall result is minus 5 kg! This is when doing nothing …"
Irina P., administrator of the drama theater Read the full text of the result
"I lost 18 kg, almost returned to my natural weight."
Eva Bolbachan, linguist Read the full text of the result
“How I lost 32 kilograms in 9 months… Before the training, there was a terrible lack of pleasure from life, deep depression and lack of any desires. The main way to get at least some pleasure was the obsessive desire to eat. There is immensely. And I could not do anything with this desire. After training in systemic vector psychology, I came to life, moved, desires appeared, and the opportunity to satisfy these desires appeared. As a result, the obsessive hunger disappeared, began to eat less, move more, things in life increased, somehow everything started spinning. And the weight started to go away …"
Vladimir P., computer economist Read the full text of the result
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