How to get rid of obsessive thoughts
I have not heard enough advice from psychologists and comrades in misfortune. What methods have I not tried so as not to think about the bad. And I was engaged in running, and I watched positive films, and began to meet with friends more often. Deliverance comes for a short time, then everything comes back again. While doing something, you forget about the bad. But as soon as you are left alone with yourself, these terrible thoughts again come into your head. Nothing helps…
"The second day is somehow strangely aching in my stomach … What if I die?" - it's not even a thought, because you try not to think about the bad. And yet, somewhere in the subcortex, the panic fear of death clamped by consciousness strives to break out and paralyze with its hopelessness. Anxiety clutches the heart with a clawed paw: "I have to go to the doctor, otherwise I will think about it again day and night."
I can't sleep at night, annoying thoughts about illness and death creep into my head. You listen to every sensation within yourself. That's how it is always - all the time you think about something terrible. You are afraid either for yourself or for your loved ones. Afraid to even plan two days in advance - what if something happens? How to get rid of obsessive thoughts?
I have not heard enough advice from psychologists and comrades in misfortune. What methods have I not tried so as not to think about the bad. And I was engaged in running, and I watched positive films, and began to meet with friends more often. Deliverance does not come for long, then everything comes back again. While doing something, you forget about the bad. But as soon as you are left alone with yourself, these terrible thoughts again come into your head. Nothing helps.
Some say: "This is neurosis, drink sedatives." Others: “Obsessive-compulsive disorder. We need to go to a psychotherapist, he will prescribe medicine. You will accept, and everything will pass. " But is it really necessary to sit down on pills? How to get rid of anxiety and obsessive thoughts on your own, without drugs and psychologists? Is it possible?
Maybe. To do this, you need to understand how your psyche is arranged, where thoughts generally come from, and what is the reason for your specific obsessive negative states. Yuri Burlan at the training "System-vector psychology" helps everyone to understand this.
What is a thought and why is it needed
During the training, we understand that:
- Thought serves desire. As long as a person has desires, consciousness will give rise to thoughts. They, as signals, speak about the state of our desires.
- Desire is the essence and nature of man. It is impossible to get rid of desires, therefore, from thoughts too.
- You can learn to understand your desires and implement them correctly. Then there will be no negative thoughts.
In other words, there is a true desire - there will be correct, constructive thoughts on how to realize it. You don’t understand your desires, you don’t realize them - thoughts will acquire an annoying and negative character.
So, for example, instead of thinking about how to help other people, we are afraid for them. Or you can study and memorize huge amounts of information, or you can endlessly scroll through past unpleasant situations in your head. You can count money, assets and liabilities, or you can add car numbers.
The nature of obsessive thinking is influenced by the vector of the human psyche. Let's take a look at this with examples. And the participants in the training will help us understand various negative states and ways to get out of them.
How to get rid of obsessive thoughts and fears?
This question worries the owner of the visual vector most of all. Emotions, feelings - the meaning of his life. Too many of them were given to him from birth. And all this wealth must be realized. You need to live, you need to feel. The emotional peak in the visual vector is true love for a person, a deep and bright feeling. When you love and die is not scary.
But when emotional stress occurs, for example, a painful break with a loved one or prolonged forced loneliness, the viewer goes to the lowest point of his emotional amplitude - fear. Begins to be afraid of everything - from insects and black to people. This is also a strong emotion, only with a minus sign. It is then that he focuses on fear, anxiety, anticipation of trouble and trouble.
In such a state, a visual person develops a fear of his own thoughts: "What if, if I think about something bad, it will come true?" Anxiety accompanies every step. He becomes superstitious and easily suggestible.
How to get rid of obsessive thoughts about the disease?
Most often this is a question of a person with visual and skin vectors. The very first and strongest fear of the spectator is the fear of dying. In combination with the cutaneous vector, for which health is an important value, hypochondria can occur - a painfully oppressed state, suspiciousness, which is accompanied by an obsessive fixation on illness and death.
Such a person is fixated on the sensations of his body. The slightest discomfort, short-term pain cause a lot of experiences, anxiety about a possible serious, incurable disease.
Julia describes this state as follows:
How to get rid of obsessive thoughts about death, says Alexander:
Obsessive bill
In the presence of a skin vector, such a form of obsessive thinking can arise when a person constantly recounts everything.
Anastasia experienced for herself what it is:
A person with a skin vector in society is responsible for the safety, control, accounting, and economy of material resources. He counts very well. And if these abilities are not realized or he is in stress, then compulsive counting begins, which becomes for him a real problem that cannot be controlled.
How to get rid of obsessive negative thoughts?
The owner of the anal vector thinks so. He is tormented by memories of past situations - they did not listen to the end, interrupted, did not appreciate, did not repay, in general, offended. Disgraced, said something, or did something. Often heavy thoughts of resentment do not let you sleep, make you toss and turn and sigh in bed.
Why is this happening to him? Because the past is extremely important for him and he has an excellent memory. He remembers everything to the smallest detail - both good and bad. But sometimes he uses his memory for other purposes: instead of studying and analyzing information, he tends to dwell on negative memories and carry his resentment through the years. He is the only one who is capable of experiencing a real feeling of resentment and, sometimes, hatches thoughts of revenge. And then his thoughts constantly revolve around this, not letting go for a minute, not losing strength under the influence of time.
In the presence of a visual vector, a person may experience strong concern for the life and health of loved ones - spouse, children, parents. After all, the family for him is a great value, and the possibility of losing it plunges into horror.
Hear how Ian describes his obsessive fears for those close to him:
How to get rid of obsessive thoughts about a man?
This is the headache of a woman with a visual vector who is emotionally dependent. Such a woman has many feelings, and the object to which they are directed is one. It also happens that a man does not share these feelings. And a woman can no longer live without him, because he is the only source of emotional experiences for her, even if negative ones.
If they communicate, she can demand love from him, break into tantrums and emotionally blackmail, feeling drained and feeling relief after that. And if they are not close, then a woman lives in dreams and thoughts about a man, which cannot be thrown out of her head by an effort of will until the cause is removed. She falls asleep with thoughts of him and wakes up with them.
This state does not allow you to experience the joy of mutual feelings, and, of course, you need to deal with it. Tatiana, after Yuri Burlan's training, told how to get rid of obsessive thoughts about the person you love so painfully:
How to get rid of depression and obsessive thoughts?
This is the desire of a person with a sound vector. For whom thoughts are both the greatest blessing and unbearable suffering. It depends on what state he is in.
Fortunately - because his life purpose is to think, create ideas. When he is a philosopher, writer, programmer, inventor, his thought is working in the right direction. From an abstract idea something appears, materializes. Suffering is when the greatest abstract intelligence is not realized and there are too many thoughts about what is difficult to comprehend, to clothe in a concrete form. In my head billions of endless questions rush: "What's the point?", "Why all this?", "Why am I like this?" The condition is aggravated by obsessive thinking, constant internal dialogue, from which you can go crazy.
Not receiving an answer to his many questions, the sound engineer does not realize his desire to know the meaning of life, himself and the world around him, therefore he finds himself in a state of deep depression. Very often he feels a dead end, because he is not even aware of his desires, because they have nothing to do with ordinary human affairs. He wants to cognize the First Cause, but no one but him is interested in this, so he feels himself a stranger and globally alone in this world. I do not want to live, to the extent that mentally he begins to choose a way to leave this life. Suicidal thoughts can also become obsessive.
This is how Ekaterina felt before the training:
How to get rid of obsessive thoughts in your head
We felt how people with different vectors feel, which obsessive thoughts do not allow to live peacefully and enjoy life. The reason for all is the same - insufficient realization of innate desires, unconscious substitution of true desires for false ones, obsession with oneself, one's states and problems. Also, in each of the vectors, you can distinguish your own reasons:
- in the visual vector - the inability to express and correctly direct their feelings;
- in the skin vector - the inability to lead an active, healthy lifestyle, insufficient social implementation;
- in the anal vector - using the property of memory for the constant experience of past grievances and unpleasant situations;
- in the sound vector - ignorance of one's desires, which means the inability to understand what needs to be done in this life; a sense of the meaninglessness of life.
Why don't we fulfill our desires? What's in the way? Ignorance of their properties, mistakes of upbringing in childhood, psychotrauma, as a result of which these properties are not fully revealed, stresses that negatively affect implementation. You can learn more about all this at the training "System-vector psychology".
Awareness of individual reasons during the training eliminates many psychological problems: fears, resentments, depression, and therefore obsessive thoughts associated with them.
Training advice System-vector psychology, how to get rid of obsessive thoughts, one - to understand yourself, then there will be a solution in each specific case.
- How not to be afraid to express your feelings?
- How to achieve maximum social realization and decent wages for your work?
- How to understand loved ones and get rid of perennial grievances?
- How to sense the meaning of life?
If you are worried about questions, come to the free online training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan for answers.
