How to change yourself and become happy
Why is it not enough for a person to simply live? We want to understand how to change our life for the better in order to get joy and pleasure from life. Or at least not suffer.
Remember the book The Wizard of the Emerald City? The fairy-tale characters wanted to change themselves. And they succeeded - helping each other to achieve their goal: the Scarecrow became wise, the Lion became fearless, the Tin Woodman found his love.
Reading this story, at some point we felt the happiness of guessing - and the Scarecrow is actually smart! Therefore, we were not disappointed when the heroes met with a fake wizard. By that time, we understood that our friends already had everything we needed. All they had to do was to take the last step - to realize it.
Life is not a fairy tale
Let's dream for a minute. Why shouldn't our "author" - the one who created us - treat us as humanely? To lay in every person at birth everything that he needs for happiness. Well, or at least make it so that we do not want anything else, except for what we have initially. The lion did not want to become smart, and the Scarecrow was brave. And in living nature, no animal has any other desires except attainable ones.
Why is it not enough for a person to simply live? We want to understand how to change our life for the better in order to get joy and pleasure from life. Or at least not suffer.
Why is the world so arranged: a person wants to be happy, but he feels unhappy? We will tell you how to change this in this article.
I feel bad
A young woman writes on the forum: “It seems that I am not a fool - higher education, work, husband, children. It would seem - live and rejoice. And nothing pleases me. Why is life so hard?"
You want a good life, prosperity, success, you dream of becoming internally free and happy. But you can't budge - it's not clear where to start, what exactly needs to be done, thoughts come: “last time it didn't work out - and this one won't work”, and in general there is no strength and energy to change anything. It's hard, bad, even howl!
Some people are haunted by the inner feeling of the meaninglessness of existence, others - depression, fears, resentment, lack of money, disagreements with children, misunderstanding with a spouse; everyone has their own set of life difficulties.
Sometimes this "bad" doesn't even have a specific name. It seems that everything is bad!
Where is the remote control for my life?
In order to get rid of a difficult condition and somehow change our life for the better, we study articles with advice from psychologists, go through trainings for success and personal growth, master affirmations, meditation - which a person will not try in the hope of changing his life. Modern Goodwins are happy to offer us their services. But when once again we return to the “broken trough”, there is a feeling that we are spinning the same plate, spinning in an endlessly repeating scenario. And this is a bad movie.
At such moments, the alarm sounds inside the question - how can I change myself? Is this even possible? After all, I am already an adult, formed person.
We answer - it's possible!
Yuri Burlan's training "System Vector Psychology" gives an exact plan for how to change your life for the better. For this you need:
- Understand yourself (your mental structure).
- Understand what exactly is happening to you and why.
Already in the first free evening online classes, each person (provided that he is able to hear and perceive) begins to understand how he works, what motivates him, what are the reasons for his bad conditions. This means that he gets the opportunity to get rid of them.
And then the question of how to change for the better no longer arises - you understand what is good for you.
A lot of people have already gone this way. For some it was easy and painless, others had to break their habits, completely get rid of imposed stereotypes. As a result, everyone was able to get their own result. And there are already more than 20 thousand of them.
One article will not contain what Yuri Burlan explains during the many hours of training. But we will touch on some points.
How we work
Any doctor, before starting treatment, has been studying the structure of the human body for many years. It is impossible to perform an operation without knowing the structure of the organs.
So it is with the psyche. To figure out how to change yourself, you first need to know yourself.
If in bodily structure people are very similar to each other (with rare exceptions), then mentally we are all completely different.
The human psyche consists of a set of vectors (from one to eight) that we receive from birth. Each vector determines our properties, desires and aspirations. Along with this, nature endows us with the appropriate abilities for their implementation.
Remember how the initially smart Scarecrow wanted to become wise? Likewise, each of us has only those desires that are given to us by nature. We only want what we can achieve. This is provided to us by our mental qualities. Why is it not always possible to get what you want?
I want to change my life - why can't it?
We develop according to our vectors in childhood, and then we realize ourselves all our life. And if our development was going in the right direction and in adulthood we realize our properties, then there is no desire to change our life. The man is happy.
But if we are worried about thoughts of how to change ourselves and our life, it means that something was wrong in our childhood or there were difficulties in implementation in adulthood. It is possible to fix this by understanding the roots of the problem. We will consider how to do this below.
If the desire to change yourself did not arise from you, but for example, your wife or mother convinced you that it was time for you to start a new life and change yourself. How to be in this case? By understanding and realizing your true abilities in the best possible way, you will be happy and successful. It is pleasant for others to be near a realized person. Then the close people will no longer have a desire to change you.
So, everything that we really want, we can get by understanding the structure of our psyche.
I want to change and I can't start
A person with a skin vector is born fast, dexterous, flexible - both in soul and body. Since childhood, he thinks in terms of benefit-benefit. By obeying the daily routine, he learns to organize himself and other people.
The skin vector gives a person a desire for sports achievements, saving resources, leadership and leadership, making money, and inventing new technologies. People with a skin vector strive to change both their lives and themselves, and everything around them - the environment, things, impressions. Everything new brings them pleasure.
The anal vector, on the contrary, gives its owner thoroughness, slowness, attention to detail, a tendency to bring everything to perfection, an analytical mind and an excellent memory. And the desires are appropriate - to study, to become a professional in their field, to transfer experience. At the same time, the novelty frightens off. Consistency is what is comfortable for a person with an anal vector.
Skin vector and anal vector. Opposite properties and completely different desires. And in one person both of these vectors can be combined.
With a good scenario, this gives a person ample opportunities for adaptation in a modern city. We think and act quickly and clearly, do several things at the same time and have time for everything; and are also able to quickly switch when the properties of the skin vector are required, and slowly, deeply and efficiently perform the task when the situation requires it, using the abilities of the anal vector.
But there is another side of the coin - where speed and speed of reaction are needed, we slow down and fall into a stupor (that is, we react with the properties of the anal vector where opposite, skin properties are needed), and in a situation that requires a thorough approach, we begin to flicker, hurry and twitch (we react with the properties of the skin vector). Or another serious condition - when our skin vector strives for success (“I want to change”), and the anal vector slows down (“I can't start”). In such a situation, a person is literally torn apart internally!
By learning to understand ourselves, we can change bad life scenarios and make the most of our properties.
And fear and tears and love
Two vectors that make their owner a highly intelligent person - visual and sound. A person with high intelligence often has a desire to change himself and the world around him for the better.
Emotionality, sensitivity, the ability to enjoy beauty and create beauty in our lives - these are the qualities of a person with a visual vector. The need to give love, to show kindness and compassion are the best manifestations of such people.
And in a bad state, a person with a visual vector directs all the power of his emotional amplitude with a minus sign to the people around him. This results in tantrums, emotional blackmail, tearfulness, painful attachment - "don't go to work, I can't live this day alone without you." Fears and all kinds of phobias arise. Fear of heights, darkness, spiders, claustrophobia, aerophobia - any fears and phobias have one root: this is the natural fear of death inherent in a person with a visual vector.
Having understood our nature, we understand how to change our life and stop the emotional swing from “I love everyone” to “I hate everyone”. When we bring our feelings out, give love and attention to other people, bad conditions and any phobias go away. Read the reviews of people who succeeded.
The meaning is found
The sound vector stands apart in the human mental structure. He is the only one who does not strive for earthly goods, is not interested in everyday pleasures.
His desire is to understand the issues of life and death, the structure of the Universe, the purpose of man.
Sounds and meanings - this brings the highest bliss and hellish pain. Silence, pleasant sounds of classical music, the ability to listen attentively and delve into the mystery of the universe with your whole being is happiness. Loud sounds, screams, and insults force you to close your ears in order to protect your psyche from suffering. The soundman withdraws into himself and this only aggravates the situation.
The sound vector in a bad state brings severe suffering to a person - depression, suicidal thoughts. Others perceive such a person as immersed in themselves, egocentric, incapable of communication.
To change himself and get rid of a difficult condition, a person with a sound vector must understand his special purpose. Remember: there is no desire without opportunity. And the desire of the sound engineer to understand the meaning of the universe does not arise by chance. This is his life task. Brilliant abstract thinking and an incredible ability to perceive meanings are given to him for this.
Just as in the visual vector, by changing the focus of attention from oneself to other people, through the realization of one's properties outward, the sound engineer opens up answers to existential questions.
Read the reviews of people who confirm this with their experience.
How to change and is it necessary?
Each of the vectors and their combinations determine the unique mental structure of a person. Let's add here also the features of the development and implementation of the vector - our uniqueness is beyond doubt.
People don't choose their psyche. This has a deep meaning - each specific person is born exactly the way he is needed here and now for the preservation and development of the human species, of which we are a part.
Understanding yourself, awareness of your desires and capabilities not only relieves a person of bad conditions, but also allows you to maximize yourself for the benefit of society, to feel needed, which makes life happy. It is by using our properties and talents to the maximum that we get the greatest pleasure.
Don't change yourself. As the author of a children's fairy tale endowed his characters with everything necessary, so wise nature has given us everything we need for happiness. You just need to understand yourself and realize what is in us.
Just as fairy-tale heroes helped each other to reveal their abilities, so a person can become happy in society, change his life for the better.
Get to know yourself for real, develop your potential and understand how to change your life for the better, perhaps at Yuri Burlan's online training "System-Vector Psychology". Free lessons coming soon!
