Swear words on culture and the future. Threats everyone should be aware of
Many are already sincerely convinced that swearing is an integral part of the Russian language, supposedly it helps to express strong emotions, relieves stress and has a beneficial effect on health. Why have such words always been considered forbidden for use in society? What happens if we start to use mat in colloquial speech?
Earlier, adults scared teenage boys that if they swear, then when they grow up, they will become impotent. Now no one scares anyone, almost everyone swears: both adult men and women, teenagers and even children. Mata is not averse to cultural figures, leaders of various ranks, especially various bloggers and rappers.
Have you noticed a tendency: obscene language from forbidden, taboo becomes normative? Many are already sincerely convinced that swearing is an integral part of the Russian language, supposedly it helps to express strong emotions, relieves stress and has a beneficial effect on health. True?!
Mat is always about sex
To begin with, any obscene word in all languages of the world is the genitals and everything related to the sexual act. Not dirty words, which are also called toilet vocabulary, but obscene ones. Abusive words in the origins are natural words, they are sometimes used in intimacy in order to liberate themselves. Why have such words always been considered forbidden for use in society? What happens if we start to use mat in colloquial speech? Let's figure it out with the help of system-vector psychology.
Sexuality and Reproduction: Enjoyment of Intimacy and Instinct
Unlike humans, animals do not have sex, but only reproduction. The act of reproduction in animals is a simple instinct for procreation, which is given by nature. The time comes, he wakes up and must be realized at all costs.
In humans, everything is different. People strive for each other not only for the sake of procreation. Unlike animals, humans have sexuality, which includes reproduction. Sexuality is much larger, richer and more versatile than reproduction. It develops in the process of growth and maturation of a person, and it is different for everyone. On this path, there can be psychological trauma and delays in psychosexual development. The individual characteristics of sexuality also depend on the vectors of a person, the degree of their development and implementation.
Sexuality, unlike reproduction, is always intimate. In public, people don't do it and don't talk about it. Therefore, the words about this are not public, they are intimate.
The meaning of the mate in war and in peaceful life
The peculiarity of swear words is that they remove cultural prohibitions, bring us closer to instincts suppressed by cultural restrictions. It is not for nothing that obscene words are used in war, when a person needs to go into battle, and he is not capable of killing. What cannot be done in a peaceful life is necessary in a war. Because if you cannot kill first, they will kill you. How to rebuild the psyche?
Matom. Between a peaceful person and a belligerent person - one step, a step through cultural norms and taboos. It is by swearing that the protective layer of culture is removed from a person, which restrains his simplest animal instincts, the prohibition of sex and murder. He becomes capable of killing other people. But if an ordinary person is moved from civilization at one moment to military conditions, then for him everything that happens will seem shocking and unacceptable - this is how the integrity of human society is protected by taboos and prohibitions that have been developed for thousands of years.
When we start using swear words in everyday life, outside the war, we destroy cultural barriers that keep our psyche from showing aggression, a gap appears for the accumulated frustrations to splash out. Together with the destruction of the cultural layer, we lose all that moral and sensual that a person is nourished with. We imperceptibly erode what makes our sexuality intimate, intimate, hidden from outsiders, we lose social shame.
Just sex, nothing personal …
When we lose the intimacy of our sexual relationship, we lose the ability to enjoy being intimate with each other. Along with the mystery, the depth of human experience goes away, emotional closeness is lost, everything is reduced to a brief physiological moment. That which can strengthen and deepen the relationship between a man and a woman, making them a single whole, turns into a banal act of satisfying the carnal need.
As a result, the person remains as unhappy and lonely as he was before. In a man, for a short moment of satisfaction, only emptiness settles in his soul, he does not grow wings and does not have a desire to turn the whole world for Her.
Often there are attempts to compensate for quality with quantity, but in the end - again disappointment and emptiness. All this leads to sexual deprivation, sexual impoverishment, disappointment in life in general.
Mat completely destroys the lofty notions of intimate relationships between a man and a woman, reducing them to a banal animal mating. As it was in Yekaterinburg on the dance floor, when a girl and a boy performed sexual intercourse in front of all the dancers. The girl-philologist and the boy-policeman are not bad guys in general, but with impaired life orientations. And others laughed and filmed what was happening on the phone. By condoning such cases, we deprive ourselves and society as a whole of the basis for creating deeply satisfying pair relationships. The more mate is included in colloquial speech, the less intimacy remains in sexual relations, the more the relationship between a man and a woman is devalued. In such conditions, even desiring love and happiness with all our hearts, we will not be able to realize it.
A wounded heart doesn't hurt
And yet there is nothing purer than human sexuality. An intimate relationship between a man and a woman is sacred. A man feels like in paradise, and a woman feels like a paradise gate. This is the highest pleasure given by nature, necessary for building human relationships, when one begins to feel the other as himself.
When children 12-13 years old listen to rappers who use foul language, their sexuality is devalued. They do not develop a desire to find a loved one, to start a family, to reveal each other for many years, to protect their relationship with respect and trepidation, to maintain intimacy.
It is girls who receive the greatest injuries - they become incapable of love, light and deep feelings.
When a girl hears the first obscene word from people who matter to her (from her father, from her mother), she completely loses her sense of security and safety, loses the ground under her feet. These shocking moments for the child's psyche go deep into the unconscious - she may not remember what it was, but the influence will remain throughout her life. Abusive words heard from parents devalue intimate intimacy between a man and a woman, form an aversion to sex, to oneself as a woman and to men in the future.
When a man in front of a woman expresses aggression with swear words, he devalues sexuality, humiliates her intimate desires, and defiles intimacy. When a woman swears at a woman, a woman subconsciously begins to perceive sex as a matter of punishment, aggression, dirt and humiliation.
A boy brought up with a foul language becomes incapable of building relationships. When a man loves a woman and she loves him, they get married. And then he has an internal conflict: "I express aggression with obscenities, and then I do it with a woman." Intimate relationships are unconsciously associated with obscene words, dirt, punishment, disgust: “I want intimacy with her and get great pleasure, because by nature I have been given this. And then? And then disappointment. Than? That she belonged to me. She is dirty since she sleeps with me. I reject her. I swear by this, insult, humiliate. There were many women - both with this bad, and with that. And it was good, but in the end it was still bad. " A man suffers all his life, moves away from a woman and cannot understand why this is happening.
When a mat is constantly present in speech, there is not enough in a relationship - orgasm, pleasure, psychological closeness, understanding and trust, stability. The opposite is also true - when a person experiences sexual shortages, mate is more common in his speech.
What awaits us if we don't stop cursing?
The widespread use of swear words is not as harmless as it seems at first glance. If mate enters the social standard, then the desire for intimate relationships among people, of course, will persist, but the ability to create deep and lasting relationships will disappear. Men and women will become unable to create stable couples, give birth and raise children.
Unfortunately, this is already being observed in society. Swearing becomes a psychopathology that, if left unchecked, will destroy marriages and affect demographics.
Symptom of general trouble
We adults ourselves imperceptibly transmit this psychopathology to children and adolescents. A total sense of the injustice of life, devalued labor, nepotism and corruption and, as a result, lack of faith in social justice - this is what the next generation received from us. Unhappy marriages, quarrels and screams, loneliness of mothers, with the last bit of strength pulling the webbing of life, irresponsibility of fathers running away from their children - this is what the growing generation is observing.
Rappers with their obscene songs only express their attitude to life, obscenely devaluing those values where they are not allowed. A total teenage mat is a protest against a society of injustice, where they have only an insignificant chance to take place in a pair relationship, to achieve success with their work.
While adolescents will feel their uselessness in society, the impossibility of realizing themselves, they will obscenely express their attitude to what is happening, destroying themselves and the whole society.
It's not cool anymore
Yes, we need a ban on the use of mat in society, on television, in social networks and other open Internet sites. But prohibitions do not achieve much.
The main thing is to teach our children to feel and love, read the right books, choose a good environment. Soul development is the best vaccination against the desire to swear.
But it is not enough to invest only in your child, you need to properly educate and protect the entire generation from the mat. We need to help them to adequately realize their talents in society. It depends on them what kind of world we will live in.
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