The state of loneliness: why I'm not like everyone else
“I don’t need anyone! Leave me all alone! - I scream into space within myself throughout my life … Why do not my career, relationships, or money inspire me? These categories do not evoke the slightest response in me. What am I looking for? Where is that button that will shoot me into life, dissolving the loneliness of my soul? The one that leads to the state of being able to live?
“I don’t need anyone! Leave me all alone! - I scream into space within myself throughout my life … Then why did my constant state of loneliness become so unbearable for me? Where did this black abyss of despair and all-consuming longing come from that opened between me and the rest of the world?
The feeling of loneliness accompanies me in the background, merges with me, becomes my second self. But do I really want it? The state of loneliness affects me so oppressively that this universal emptiness seems to test my inner resources for strength.
The state of loneliness: my lifetime excursion
When I look around, I see people: they form pairs, families, collectives. They interact with different feelings and do not seem to be familiar with loneliness.
But why is all this not enough for me? Why am I not inspired by my career, my relationship, my money? These categories do not evoke the slightest response in me. What am I looking for? Where is that button that will shoot me into life, dissolving the loneliness of my soul? The one that leads to the state of being able to live?
I feel myself out of the game, an outside observer, tacitly present, but more like a strange inanimate object, the purpose of which is poorly remembered, therefore, at best, they are perceived as furniture.
Loneliness, on the one hand, is desirable, because all these incomprehensible people around are fed up with it. I don't feel any contact with them. They, like ants, scurry about according to only one known law. On the other hand, loneliness hurts me painfully, because there is no one around like me, and I do not understand why I am so different from everyone I know. But I want to feel what it is like to live, to live like all other people.
The reasons for loneliness
It is important to understand that the feeling of loneliness does not arise just like that. A person experiencing such an acute feeling clearly observes and feels his own difference from the people around him, because the values of the majority - the values of the material world - are not a priority for him. He is constantly in search of something important, but often even himself is not able to designate it for himself. Such a person is defined at the training of Yuri Burlan System-Vector Psychology as the owner of the sound vector.
Behind this concept lies a huge volume of the psyche, abstract intelligence, the desire to cognize the meaning of life, what is hidden, a constant and frantic desire to find the mechanism that sets the gears of the process of the existence of the Universe in motion.
The vector determines what desires a person, its owner, will realize in order to get maximum satisfaction from life, his ways of achieving happiness and joy from living his unique reality.
Each desire is given for a single purpose - for its fulfillment, realization, satisfaction. Only in this way does a person live. Or does not live, but exists, if he tries to ignore these needs, to hide from them - in loneliness, for example. It is very easy to get lost in the modern world: a person is imposed with false goals, attitudes and priorities, and he no longer quite understands where he is, and where - the polyphony of the media, relatives, friends, the desire to be “like everyone else”. Therefore, he often perceives loneliness as salvation in an attempt to understand himself.
When the needs of the psyche are not met, signals appear that indicate that something is very wrong, there are problems. How the body reacts with illness - the soul, the psyche reacts with pain. Loneliness seems like an acceptable and welcome way out in this state.
In the sound vector, the states that arise if its desires are not fulfilled are the most difficult, because sound desires are the strongest. For this reason, a person with a sound vector is able to experience complete emotional devastation, an especially acute feeling of loneliness, when he does not see around people who are able to share his sense of life - a feeling of the uselessness of his own presence on this planet, some kind of erroneousness of his existence. There is a terrible depression, blacker than night, often accompanied by a reluctance to live.
The problem of loneliness can be solved
Cope with the severity of these conditions is possible if you understand what led to their occurrence. At the training System-Vector Psychology Yuri Burlan very clearly reveals these causal relationships.
The more the sound engineer is convinced of his own otherness, the less his desire to make contact with the outside world. The more evidence he finds that everything that people rejoice in does not have the slightest meaning and meaning for him, the stronger his loneliness and the greater the gap he feels between himself and the rest of the world.
This awareness initially fuels the self-centered sound engineer, but very soon it becomes unbearable. It's like a brand on your forehead: "doomed to eternal loneliness."
And the more a person is fenced off from the outer world, the more he goes into the inner one, plunges deep into himself, thereby strengthening his own loneliness.
Overcoming loneliness lies precisely in this plane. By understanding and realizing the reasons for closing oneself from the world around inside one's own limited consciousness, one can get rid of this oppressive state.
For a representative of the sound vector, the most difficult thing in overcoming the problem of loneliness is that it is desirable for him, since it is in solitude that he can focus his thought in search of the meaning of life. However, the disclosure of meaning is possible only when focusing outside, when knowing oneself through other people - on differences.
It is incredibly important to be aware of your properties alone in order to change the state of loneliness to the joy of interacting with other people and living life in accordance with your real desires.
A lot of people who have solved this and other tasks for themselves at the training System-vector psychology share the inspiring results:
Forget about loneliness forever
Discovering your inner world with the help of Yuri Burlan's training in System-Vector Psychology, realizing that I am not alone and that there are people experiencing the same states, the same loneliness among seven billion people on the planet, you can experience incredible relief.
For the sound engineer, the understanding that, it turns out, a person is a “social being”, having no opportunity to live or realize himself outside the community of other people, becomes revolutionary. This means that there is no way to get satisfaction from life without interaction within society.
The search for ways to get rid of loneliness ends at the stage of accepting one's own characteristics, given by nature. A map of the area for orientation in the nooks and crannies of his psyche is presented by the training System-vector psychology. You can register for a free online training using the link.
