Things to do in retirement to live happily ever after
When a person thinks about what to do in retirement, he often imagines that he will finally devote himself to his favorite hobbies, will travel, pay more attention to his family. What problems does a person face when they retire?
When a person thinks about what to do in retirement, he often imagines that he will finally devote himself to his favorite hobbies, will travel, pay more attention to his family. However, in reality, after the initial euphoria from the emerging freedom, a significant part of pensioners begin to experience stress due to lack of demand, inability to adapt to rapidly changing social conditions. To prevent this from happening, you need to prepare for retirement in advance.
Pension problems
What problems does a person face when they retire?
Loneliness. Children have grown up, left or not. Relations with them may not work out. Habitual communication that was at work is also gradually fading away. There is a lack of connections with people, a social vacuum, and with it - fear of death and depression.
Poverty. For many pensioners, the state pension is only enough to meet the minimum needs - to eat, pay the rent, buy medicines. And there are no own savings. Dreams of travel and new pursuits are shattered by lack of money.
Unnecessary. It is very important for a person to feel needed. This need has deep psychological roots. Man is a social being and for millennia has survived only in concert with other people. In each of us there is an unconscious fear of being outside of society, of being unnecessary. And this feeling does not depend on age.
The feeling of being in demand in society gives the greatest pleasure. And a person lives while enjoying life. There are no desires, no pleasure, then the incentive to live is also lost.
Sometimes a pensioner wants and can work, but he is not hired. In our society, there are still strong prejudices against workers "aged". And this is despite the fact that the quality and life expectancy have increased significantly and the WHO classifies people under the age of 44 as young, and defines the age of 45-59 as average.
Physical limitations (disability, chronic diseases). This problem significantly limits self-realization. Health must be protected, a healthy lifestyle must be maintained. After all, the body is the only tool given to us in this world to live.
The second component of health is mental balance. The sooner a person gets to know his psychic, reveals his true desires and abilities and lives in accordance with them, the more likely he will maintain his health for a long time. “In a healthy mind - a healthy body” - they say at the training of Yuri Burlan “System-vector psychology”.
Two ways of living in the "third age" are shown in the films "Frostbitten Carp" with Marina Neyelova and "Trainee" with Robert De Niro. The heroine of the first learns that she can die at any moment from a fatal illness. She is lonely, her son is far away and busy with her career. She can only prepare herself for death - buy a coffin, prepare a commemoration, lie down and wait for her departure.
The hero of Robert De Niro is also lonely. After retirement, he enthusiastically goes into hobbies and travel. But life is empty when no one needs you. And he volunteers as a trainee in a large company, where his life experience and understanding of people help young and inexperienced people to look at the world in a new way, to overcome crises.
It depends only on us - to wait for death in retirement or to make other people happy. For the quality of life to always satisfy us, we need to prepare for the “third age” in advance.
What can you do for a retired pensioner - creating your own guide
An additional source of income for retirement. A person should have at least food and a roof over his head. He cannot live without this. If the state does not care about its citizens, a person who stops working feels anxiety about the future: he no longer invests in the common, which means that he is not needed, he may die of hunger.
Society should take care of the elderly. Every able-bodied member of society invests in the creation of pension reserves. Otherwise, we would not be human. However, government assistance is still insufficient. It only meets the minimum needs of retirees. Having more is our responsibility. Unfortunately, we are not taught this.
Soviet-era pensioners relied only on the state and did not think about how to increase their pension. Moreover, she was equal to the average salary and allowed herself not to deny anything.
The current retirees lost all their savings during perestroika. This bad experience still prevents people from saving money for future retirement, trusting banks and funds.
Yet reality has changed. Now, if we want to be provided more than the minimum in retirement, we need to take it into our own hands. There are plenty of opportunities to improve your financial literacy and invest in non-state funds, deposits, and open your own business.
When children offer help, there is no need to refuse. Soviet-trained people have modest demands and do not know how to receive. The heroine of the film “Frostbite Carp” says: “Don't. I have everything”when the son leaves her money.
But it's okay when children help their parents. First of all, they need it themselves. When they help, they have more satisfaction in life. It is not for nothing that one of the main commandments of human existence is: "Honor your father and your mother, so that your days on earth may last …".
Here is how Yuri Burlan says about it:
A family. What can a retired woman do if not grandchildren and great-grandchildren? Research conducted together with doctors and biologists by Dan Buettner, author of the book Blue Zones. 9 rules of longevity from people who live the longest”, showed that retirees who live with their children are less sick and have fewer accidents.
In this case, of course, it is not necessary to live with the children. You can just communicate more, get together at a common table on holidays, help in raising children. Maintaining emotional ties within the family gives a good psychological state, a sense of continuation of life. We see the future in our grandchildren and great-grandchildren, help them with our rich life experience.
It is especially important to share experiences and communicate with people with anal and visual vectors. For them, this is the meaning of life. But there is another type of people for whom this alone will not be enough.
Work while you have strength. People with a skin vector may be thinking about what kind of business to do in retirement. This will not only be a manifestation of their innate desire to maintain social status, but also a good increase in their pension.
Today, when many types of business have moved online, it has become possible to work remotely, to invest as much as possible. You can learn online professions - writing texts, doing design, adapting your professional skills to the requirements of the time. For example, a doctor can write texts on medical topics. You can train children or engage in teaching. You can turn a hobby into a source of income - sewing, knitting, making souvenirs, toys and selling them through social networks. There are already such examples of enterprising pensioners.
If there is interest, a goal in life, energy appears to realize all your plans.
Take up a hobby. Dancing, amateur theater, handicrafts, painting, gardening … There are many ideas for what a man or woman can do in retirement. But it is better not to be alone in your favorite business, but to find a team of like-minded people. After all, it is not interesting to do only for yourself - there is no one to share the joy of success with, no one to please with the fruits of labor. Collective problem solving always inspires, gives strength to develop and improve.
There is a program in Moscow called "Moscow Longevity". Its participants study together, dance, sing, draw, play sports, vote for innovations in the life of the city. The lessons are free. This project of the mayor of Moscow aroused great interest among older Muscovites. In 2019, more than 200 thousand people came to classes.
Participation in public life. Retirement is a great opportunity to do community service. There is no longer a busy work schedule and dependence on wages. You can work for the sake of an idea, for the sake of the meaning that you may not have been able to feel in your work before.
Participation in the activities of public organizations - environmental, patriotic, religious, promoting a healthy lifestyle - allows you to feel your importance, need, to feel the union with other people, and therefore to get a comfortable psychological state. This prolongs life.
Volunteering is an area that people over 55 can try if they have a desire to benefit society. It is a myth that volunteering is for young people. People of the older generation have experience that can be useful for the current generation. Among the volunteers, 28% are older people. The desire to help does not depend on gender, age or education.
In the Unified Information System "Volunteers of Russia" you can choose any direction or project in which you want to try yourself, undergo training and start volunteer work. The movement of "Silver Volunteers" is also developing in our country, in which people over 50 participate.
Study. There is an understanding of the importance of education for retirees in many countries at the state level. It is more beneficial for the society to have active members who not only serve themselves, but also benefit it. And for the pensioners themselves, study is one of the reasons for active longevity, because it creates new neural connections and keeps the brain in good shape.
In France, there are programs that teach health maintenance, competent contact with medical organizations. In the USA, Japan, Korea, Great Britain, Poland and other developed countries of the West, pensioners are trained in different areas.
Russia does not yet have a legislative basis for training pensioners, but it will appear because the issue of the quality of life of pensioners is a matter of preserving human society. Although in the cities it is already possible to find programs for training pensioners. There are many free online courses. And no one has canceled personal initiative yet.
By the way, about online courses. An older person today will be very useful knowledge of a computer. You need to be able to work with the Internet, mobile applications, electronic services, so as not to feel helpless and out of touch with reality in a world that has significantly moved to the virtual plane. To keep abreast of current events, to study, to find a job to your liking, to communicate with relatives and friends online - these skills are already essential. What can we say about the time when we will have super-fast 5G internet!
It is useful to learn languages. It trains the brain and memory, broadens the horizons, helps to get acquainted with the cultures of other countries. Smart, creative people are more easily involved in everything new, keep up with life.
Such people come to Yuri Burlan's training "System-Vector Psychology" - with intelligence. People who are interested in psychology want to understand themselves, find out their true desires, understand others, form a healthy outlook on life, get rid of fears, resentments and depression, and realize the meaning of life.
What training gives to pensioners
- Understanding your desires, which means the ability to find your favorite job, which you can do in retirement.
- Awareness of the importance of uniting with other people, restoring and maintaining ties with relatives. A person who has undergone training is not in danger of loneliness.
- Understanding the importance of self-realization, the need for society at any age, which gives energy to continue to be active even after retirement.
- Taking responsibility for your life. The people who have completed the training do not expect the state to solve their problems and put all their efforts into society. And as a bonus, there is more money.
With this knowledge, you will not find yourself on the sidelines of life after retirement. They give awareness, understanding what you want to do, what level of life to have and what to do for this. And for those who are already retired, new opportunities open up. Retirees with systemic thinking let their children live their own lives, do not complain about old age and loneliness, find a job that they like.
Wisdom doesn't always come with age. She comes with knowledge of the psyche.
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