A hyperactive child: punishment or a gift from God?
It is not uncommon for such a child to be diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) from a doctor. And the course of treatment begins, aimed at "soothing" him. But even such drastic measures rarely bring results. What really happens to the child, and how can you help him?
He does not sit still for a second. During a walk on the playground, every time you just have to pray that you don't break your neck anywhere. A second ago, with a whoop rushed down the hill, and now where is he? Oh yes, now, it is already hanging upside down, its legs hooked on the horizontal bar.
If, by chance, the day turned out to be rainy, our whole house turns into a dump in half an hour. A variety of objects are removed from all boxes. Some kind of chalabuda is being constructed from the sheet. A spaceship lurked in the left corner: chairs in a row plus wings from a kite. And in the middle of the room there is a huge pile, in which there is nothing to find - parts from the designer, spare parts for cars, mother's hairpin, father's hammer, forks-spoons from the kitchen …
All this, of course, touches our friends and relatives. And tell me, what should parents do? Now school is on its way, and my child is not able to sit at the table for five minutes! How will he learn at all? At the neighbors' place, the future schoolchild is already writing prescriptions, so much so that you will admire: stick to stick. And he reads books to parents aloud. What do we have? There are squiggles-crooks in the album, and patience is enough for a couple of minutes. I generally keep quiet about reading: the colorful illustrations of the book were secretly sent from my mother on colorful airplanes …
How to calm him down?
Many parents are really worried about such "increased" activity and restlessness of the child. They begin to seek help from child psychologists, and after fruitless efforts in this area go to a child neurologist. It is not uncommon for such a child to be diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) from a doctor. And the course of treatment begins, aimed at "soothing" him. But even such drastic measures rarely bring results. What really happens to the child, and how can you help him?
Riddles of the human psyche
The secret of the nature of the human psyche is revealed to us by the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan. It determines that the psyche of people is formed by eight vectors, each of which assigns to its owner different characteristics, desires, qualities and properties. At birth, each child is already endowed with his own individual set of vectors (3-5, and sometimes more), mosaically forming his individuality.
Mobility and restlessness are characteristic of children with a skin vector. They are very active, move a lot, goal-oriented and ambitious. Strive for leadership and social achievement, they like to compete and be the first in everything.
Such natural features are natural for them and do not at all need medical or pedagogical correction. But it is necessary to create optimal conditions for the maximum disclosure of the abilities of the skin child. Only a systematic look at the structure of the psyche of such a baby can help in this.
Rest only in our dreams…
A child with a skin vector naturally has a great need for outdoor games, for constant movement. One area of possible application for such qualities and properties is dance or sports.
It is appropriate to offer dancing to that child who, in addition to the skin vector, also has a visual interest in culture that sets him a desire for aesthetics and beauty.
Sports clubs can be useful for all skin children without exception. In addition to the regular physical activity necessary for a skin child, sports can also offer him a competitive struggle for first place (competitive sports). Here he will be able to realize his desire to achieve success, to be the first.
If, due to circumstances, it is not possible to provide the child with such training, you can at least partially compensate for this by compulsory morning exercises, jogging, etc. And, of course, more active outdoor games.
We structure space, time, information, energy
A person with developed properties of the skin vector strives for self-control and discipline, and in adulthood is able to perform this function for society. They are great managers, leaders and organizers. To help your child develop these qualities and properties to the maximum, it is necessary to create adequate conditions for him as early as childhood.
The first and main condition is the daily routine and discipline. This allows the dermal baby to organize and structure its activities over time. Often, parents of skin children complain that the child does not adhere to the regime at all, is very overexcited in the evening, it is impossible to put him to bed on time.
Nevertheless, the regimen is what skin children need most. Be patient and try to organize the main regime moments at the same time of the day - getting up, exercising, walking, eating, etc. In the future, your baby will stick to them with great pleasure. After all, this is his natural natural aspiration.
It is better to stop active and outdoor games a couple of hours before bedtime so that the child has time to calm down. For the evening time, the skin child can choose construction or puzzles as suitable activities. After all, the future brilliant design engineer is also the owner of the skin vector, and the creation of various designs is his natural ability, which also needs to be developed.
Feel free to present your first diary and a colorful timetable to your skin child of school age as a tabletop or wall poster. The task of the parents is to teach him how to use these useful tools. This will help him to record and remember all significant and important things, and to do them on time.
The structure and organization of space is also an important condition for the adequate development of a skin child. It is advisable to divide the child's room into zones - a place for classes, an area for games, an area for rest and sleep.
So that he knows how to distribute his energy adequately, from childhood discuss with him the order of affairs in terms of their significance and energy consumption. For example, in the morning you need to do the most important or most significant things, and leave the quieter or less significant activities for the evening.
What is the strength in, brother?
As already mentioned, children with a skin vector have the ability to construct. In addition to assorted puzzles and constructors, it is good to provide such a child with the opportunity to attend various circles of the corresponding profile.
Also, the strong point of skin children is logic, the creation of cause-and-effect relationships, they easily learn counting skills. Another area of the future social realization of such people is entrepreneurship, business and trade. They are well-versed in relationships based on benefits and benefits, rationality and pragmatism.
From childhood, it is appropriate for such a child to offer various tasks for logic, counting and arithmetic. In order not to turn into a boring routine for him, you can introduce new elements into the task. Later it can be a creative solution to various problematic tasks.
There are no children without talents. Each child is naturally endowed with unique properties, with the adequate development of which he becomes a significant member of society, living a rich and happy life, realizing himself among other people.
The inhibition of this process is set only by ourselves, adults. Instead of complaining about those qualities that the child is deprived of (there is no perseverance, scrupulousness, etc.), it is better to turn our attention to those talents that are bestowed on him by nature itself.
The system-analytical approach offered by the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan allows you to recognize all the abilities and talents that your child is endowed with.
Disclosure and awareness of the unique pattern of the psyche of your baby provides a unique opportunity to create optimal conditions for the development of a future genius. Register for a free cycle of introductory online lectures at the link:
