How can you find love? The dirty woman inside me
It's no secret that we ourselves set the direction for our relationships with people. If so, why, wishing only happiness for ourselves, do we sometimes go a completely different path? Sometimes, in order to understand this, you should look into your past, maybe even into childhood …
What could be more beautiful than love? Any woman dreams of loving and being the most beloved for someone. Unfortunately, not always a perfectly imagined picture turns into reality. Sometimes images of our past become an obstacle to happiness, sometimes forgotten, but invariably influencing our lives. How to deal with inner demons and let love into your life?
Looking back
Relationships in a couple are sometimes like a kaleidoscope. Troubles, quarrels, mutual accusations, grievances - everything mixes into one lump, in which you cannot tell who is right. In many ways, apparent harmony over time is replaced by the harsh reality of mutual misunderstanding.
It's no secret that we ourselves set the direction for our relationships with people. If so, why, wishing only happiness for ourselves, do we sometimes go a completely different path? Sometimes, in order to understand this, you should look into your past, maybe even into childhood.
How can childhood events affect the relationship of an adult woman with men? "None," someone might think, "childhood is like childhood: everything, like everyone else, already remembers little." However, sometimes even insignificant events, in our opinion, require comprehension.
Little Galya, wrapped in a towel, was carried out of the bathroom. She sat in an armchair and waited for her mother, her beloved grandfather was reading the newspaper next to her. Galya suddenly wanted to show her grandfather how beautiful she is! She took off the towel, got up and said: "Grandpa, look!" Grandpa screamed: “What are you doing! Well, quickly hide, close the shame, you will freeze! " Galya felt confusion, a new word sounded in her head - shame.
Woman and childhood trauma
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan notes that the formation of female sexuality begins in childhood. A little girl forms an opinion about herself through the attitude of significant people towards her. Unfortunately, it happens that loved ones by their behavior do not always help to form a positive opinion about themselves.
“Anya was 13 years old when she decided to experiment with her appearance. She really wanted to be beautiful. She bought hair dye and dyed herself, put on her mother's lipstick, put on a short skirt and went out for a walk. The meeting with my mother was unkind - she dragged Anya around the yard, put her at home in front of a mirror and said: Look, you are a real prostitute!"
Everyone knows that "a girl must behave herself." However, many parents accept this statement with unnecessary zeal. Excessive upbringing can be expressed in excessive zeal for the purity of the soul and body of the child, puritanical upbringing, or even in constant criticism of the child.
Adults can convey a negative message to the girl through insults, inappropriate "innocent" jokes. Incorrect remarks about the child's genitals or foul language from parents can also have a negative effect.
Such "little things" in the future can most directly affect a woman's attitude to herself, her relationships with men.
Rethinking
The past is the past, whatever it may be. Can a woman with an already formed sexuality level out the negative moments brought out from childhood? Or is the “wrong” childhood a sentence?
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan shows that any difficult situation for a mentally healthy person is solvable. Rethinking past events, your relationship to them and to yourself gives powerful results for any woman.
How is rethinking given? Through understanding the reasons for what happened. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan talks about the human psyche, highlighting eight sets of mental properties - vectors. Each vector is manifested by its characteristic properties, desires, peculiarities. The vectors determine what a person will be like, his thoughts, actions, perception of the world.
Each person has several such facets, which, when combined, form his uniqueness. A modern person has, basically, 3-5 vectors.
If a nimble and flexible girl with a skin vector was subjected to constant criticism, even in a comic form, by puberty she may develop masochistic tendencies. In this case, in adulthood, for paired relationships, she will subconsciously look for a person prone to verbal sadism. In such a relationship, she will not be able to receive respect and love, but only stress relief.
If a girl has an anal vector, in her unconscious there are categories such as clean and dirty. Even hints about her indecent behavior from relatives are enough for her to come to the conclusion: "I'm dirty." In adulthood, this can manifest itself in the inability to enjoy emotional and physical intimacy, because "a dirty woman is not worthy of happiness."
Having studied all eight vectors and their features, we fully embrace knowledge about human nature. With the help of this knowledge, we can understand ourselves and the deep reasons for the behavior of people who once hurt us. To understand this is so clear that to be able to pass this understanding through oneself and even come to the conclusion: "he did this because he could not do otherwise."
After all, it's one thing when a person says bad words to us with malicious intent. It is quite different when a person speaks by his nature, and he, himself not understanding it, rushes about in irritation or anger and suffers from this himself. And we look at him and understand the reason for his condition, and suddenly we notice that there is no more resentment. We "live" our positive or negative states. Understanding these patterns, even when we meet a stranger, we can see what vectors he possesses and in what state of his vector, which means that we can assess his desires and capabilities. Understand how he relates to others, whether he is capable of compassion or hurting other people, etc.
A deep rethinking of past events leads not only to getting rid of grievances, psychological trauma, but also removes the traumatic consequences of long-standing events. Through rethinking her past, changing her inner attitude towards it, a woman can again realize: "I'm fine, I'm clean and I have the right to be loved."
Inspirational woman
From that moment on, a woman's life begins anew. After feeling freedom from the oppressive weight of the past negative, she can afford so much! Do not hesitate to communicate with other people, treat your body with love and respect, allow yourself to be beautiful. And most importantly, such a woman can be ready for a relationship full of love with a worthy person.
It is pleasant to watch how a woman is changing, who has expelled some false statements or prohibitions from her subconscious. She begins to behave differently, to speak differently, even her gaze changes. All these little things, evoking the response of the people around them, change their behavior. With surprise, a woman may find that her man's attitude towards her has changed for the better.
Even the smell of a woman changes, which greatly affects the interest in her on the part of men. On this topic, you can find many reviews from those who have already completed the training:
“Men just went crazy - they get to know each other, ask for a phone number, make compliments, let them go ahead, give their hand, give way, make gifts. The feeling of inner strength and self-confidence as a woman has grown by 100%. When you know that everyone (or almost everyone) wants you, it ceases to be important and you relax and suddenly become yourself, and not a cowardly, angular monster.”Olga M., specialist in service and tourism, Krasnodar Read the full text of the result
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