How to establish contact with an opponent of live communication?
It is natural for a sound engineer to speak little and think a lot. But there are other people who, despite the desire to communicate easily and freely, are forced to be content with little. They choose to write, and not to call or meet in person for completely different reasons …
Calling him on the phone means getting an indistinct grumble in response and a persistent feeling that your call is out of place. Live adequate communication also does not come out. It was as if numbness was imposed on a person during picking - you can't get a word out of him. You can understand such silent people and even “talk” them in your own way with Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology.
Are you here?
Only messengers and e-mail pull coherent sentences, and sometimes even emotions, from a mysterious introvert. You are even amazed at what spiritual depth lies in a person and how carefully he hides it in person. With system-vector psychology, this paradox becomes understandable.
It is easier and more natural for the owners of the sound vector to express themselves not by oral, but by written word. The sound engineer is constantly focused on his internal states, this is how he is arranged. In a conversation, it is difficult for him to immediately answer the interlocutor, because, as often happens, he does not follow the course of the discussion, but listens to his thoughts. Replicas of others are perceived by the sound engineer as a background or are not heard at all. It all depends on how much he is immersed in his thoughts. With knowledge of the natural features of the sound vector, one can find an approach to such a "shell".
The right to silence
Have you noticed those who cover their ears with their hands in the subway or always protect themselves from the thundering city with headphones? Sound specialists have super-sensitive hearing. For them, it is unbearably loud and even painful that what is normal and familiar to the rest.
From constant ambient noise, the sound engineer loses the ability to concentrate on his thoughts, and this is vital for him. Therefore, more and more often he seeks shelter from the endless clanging of trains, cars, voices, avoiding personal meetings and telephone conversations. After all, even a sonorous falsetto of the interlocutor can knock the sound engineer out of the rut of concentration. He also often dislikes his own voice.
The degree of rejection of the sounds of the external world depends on the state of the sound person - the more painful his contact with people around him, the less he finds sense in this, the more he avoids communication. Therefore, do not try to raise your voice, trying to reach the sound engineer - it will work exactly the opposite!
It's better to write than to say
He focuses on meanings. And the attempt to express the depth of their inner searches in a conversation turns out to be too flat. It is easier for him to convey the volume of sound thought in a written word. It is not for nothing that the owners of the sound vector often find themselves in writing. Sound specialists and other professions often prefer written contact over oral, both in work and in personal relationships.
When we write, we have the opportunity to look at the written thought from the outside, to think a hundred times in order to convey the meaning as accurately as possible. If the correspondence touches on a topic that resonates with the inner search of the sound engineer, the transportation of meanings from within oneself to another person fills him with pleasure, and his interlocutor is captured with depth.
This does not mean at all that communication with the sound engineer is doomed to occur in complete silence. You just need to lower the volume and increase the meaning of what was said - and the sound engineer will reach for personal contact with you.
What else prevents you from speaking?
It is natural for a sound engineer to speak little and think a lot. But there are other people who, despite the desire to communicate easily and freely, are forced to be content with little. They choose to write, and not call or meet in person, for completely different reasons, for example:
- owners of the visual vector are afraid of the negative reaction of the interlocutor;
- the owners of the skin vector save time by written communication, because in a conversation one cannot do without "how are you";
- it is difficult for owners of the anal vector to start a conversation and even harder when they are interrupted.
People want communication to bring joy, but they are shackled by fear and expectation of a catch. Accurate understanding of the interlocutor relieves stress on both sides and allows you to find an approach to a wide variety of people.
To receive and give pleasure from eye-to-eye and soul-to-soul contact, register for the free online training System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan.