Droplets on the forehead from a frozen heart. Alone with the fear of death
For centuries, man has been seeking salvation from the fear of death, resorting to rituals, prayers, scientific works. In search of deliverance, one attunes himself to the fact that fear is a sign of weakness; another considers it to be the payment for sins; the third fights, cultivating willpower. But in any case, they are his eternal captives.
Fortunately, it is possible to get out of fear.
The reincarnation of souls, the heavenly kingdom, the afterlife - you are ready to believe in anything, just to get away from realizing the finiteness of your existence. However, faith is not supported by facts, while the fear of death is justified by the departure of relatives and friends, terrible footage on TV and a sense of threat from this world.
But if death is inevitable, then is it possible to stop being afraid of what must necessarily happen?..
For centuries, man has been seeking salvation, resorting to rituals, prayers, scientific works. In search of deliverance, one attunes himself to the fact that fear is a sign of weakness; another considers it to be the payment for sins; the third fights, cultivating willpower. But in any case, they are his eternal captives. An article alone with death will tell you about the nature of fear and the only sure way to defeat it.
The roots of fear are in the primitive savannah. In the same place, one should look for the answer to the question of how to overcome fear.
Native to the savannah
… The fear of death has haunted us from time immemorial. The enemy lurked among the lush greenery of the primeval forest. Dexterous, strong, quick, not knowing pity and not knowing about regret. Weak, without teeth or claws, humans are excellent prey for this striped hunter.
Who can warn about the danger? Only one whose eyes are so wide open to the world that even the movement of air changes in his understanding of the surrounding landscape. No one else is able to see the enemy among the hundreds of variegated shades of savannah. To watch closely is the vocation of these people.
Then, looking into the eyes of a predator for the first time, he was so afraid for his life that it was already impossible to forget the threat. That special primitive man, who was the first to notice the predator, experienced a panic fear of being eaten. His fear was felt by others and rushed to run away from possible death. But what happened if he did not notice the enemy in time, was blind? Yes, yes, he was the first to be torn apart by a predator …
They are the same today as they were then. They look at the world with amazement, as if they are looking for something among the stone facades. We meet with them daily. And every time it seems that the world is gazing with admiration into their amazing eyes. They are the first to notice spring flowers, count the veins on the blossoming leaves and distinguish yesterday's shades from today's …
Today the circle of fears and phobias has expanded significantly. We fear. We are afraid of the stupidest things. But at the root of almost all fears is the same FEAR OF DEATH.
The roots of all fear
The primitive fear of death has perfectly adapted to the modern world. Not only that, he excelled in the art of disguise. Numerous phobias are his brainchildren. No matter how different they are in manifestations and signs, the root cause of each of them is always fear for their lives.
Today there are about 40 thousand phobias, and over the past 10 years their number has tripled.
In our time, such a person may develop a phobia of death. A person can stop sleeping only because during sleep he stretches his legs with his feet forward - like a dead man. He is afraid to close his eyes because he stops seeing the light. He tries to avoid mirrors so as not to notice the similarities with deceased relatives.
The slightest changes in the world around us cause inexplicable alarm. A harsh word thrown by chance may be associated with hostile intent, and an incomprehensible act may even pose a threat to existence. As a result, a person begins to be suspicious of others, finding their actions aggressive. From a bare spot, he may have the most illogical fears: fear of insects, fear of elevators, fear of a fight … The list is endless.
Experiencing shocks, a person subconsciously mobilizes his physical strength to protect his own life. However, the body cannot be constantly on alert. Failures begin - heart palpitations, vasoconstriction of the muscles, abdominal cavity, mucous membranes, dilated pupils. Poor health and a new problem - fear of disease. And now he is already intensely reading the medical reference book and finds all the diseases at once.
There are not enough books to describe all human fears. Feel the fear of blood, mice, injections, flying … (underline as necessary) Know that they have the same root.
When the ground leaves underfoot …
Methods of psychotherapy are very popular. This treatment comes down to realizing the irrational nature of fear. To achieve this goal, the patient is exposed to the object of fear, that is, "help" to be face to face with his phobia.
Not understanding the roots of fear, psychotherapists stimulate a person to create in his imagination pictures of his own death. Such treatment can aggravate the disease, or it can bring temporary relief - until the inflamed consciousness is afraid of something else. And then everything starts over again. Vicious circle.
The number of phobias is growing steadily only because modern science is powerless to eradicate their source.
Step to freedom
It can take years to diagnose and treat phobias. But life is crumbling under the pressure of fear, and time cannot be returned. Fortunately, it is enough to understand the cause of fear to get the tool to get rid of it. And the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan helps in this.
System-vector psychology examines the innate qualities of the individual. A certain set of psychophysical properties set from birth is called a vector. A person with a visual vector is able to notice more than others. This means that he receives information about the world around him as much as possible with the help of sight; he manages to isolate images from the chaos of shades; he was the first to notice the stripes of the tiger in the multicolored grass.
However, in addition to keen vision, the optician has a large emotional amplitude - in order to instantly warn the flock of danger with his fear. In this case, the entire emotional amplitude of the visual vector fluctuates between two states - fear and love.
Fear is a primal fear for your life. This is a state of "in oneself", fear - for oneself. He is the progenitor of all phobias.
The way out is to bring the vector from a state of fear for oneself to a state of fear for another (yes, this is what we call empathy and empathy).
At the same time, it is very important to understand that the development of the vector occurs in puberty, therefore it is important not to frighten visual children with scary tales, not to injure them with dramatic events. For example, going to a funeral plunges a visual child into such a heavy feeling of fear that in the future it will be reflected in his whole life. He will start to be afraid of everything that is horrible, and eventually he will come to that very fear or even phobia of death.
Not frightened in childhood, taught to empathy, the spectator lives a different life. And he is able to experience much deeper and more joyful feelings - LOVE for people, for the world, for life.
How to develop your visual child and how to get rid of fears, if you have already formed them - you will learn in detail about this at the training in system-vector psychology.
