My child is going to first grade. What to prepare for?
I went through kindergarten graduation, and we were presented with a first grader's kit. I can not belive it! My son is going to first grade! How should I perceive this: as a holiday or as a difficult test for the child and parents? How to prepare both yourself and your baby for a new and important stage in his life? How do I know how quickly my child will get used to a new lifestyle and will be successful in school?
How time flies! My baby is already so big. It seems that just recently he was born, he learned to walk, talk, eat with a spoon. When he smiled at me for the first time and said "mom", I cried with happiness. When he took his first steps, I was always there so that he did not fall. When he started going to the kindergarten, I hid behind the door of the group and roared softly when I heard him cry. When he was learning to ride a bike, I always ran alongside so that he would not go out onto the road. I have always tried to be close to my child, from the first day of his life to 7 years.
And now graduation in kindergarten has passed, and we were presented with a set of first graders. I can not belive it! My son is going to first grade! How should I perceive this: as a holiday or as a difficult test for the child and parents? How to prepare both yourself and your baby for a new and important stage in his life? How do I know how quickly my child will get used to a new lifestyle and will be successful in school?
Let's figure it out in order with the help of the knowledge of System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan.
Every person is unique
From the point of view of the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, each of us is born with an individual set of mental properties, which is called a vector. A total of eight vectors are distinguished. Each vector sets its individual properties to the human psyche, which are manifested in a person's character, his aspirations, abilities for a certain type of activity, innate talents and even a type of thinking. On average, one person carries 3-5 vectors.
The innate set of vectors will determine how the child can enter a new stage in his life. For example, a child with a skin vector will quickly get used to school. He naturally adapts well to new conditions. With the correct upbringing of a skin child, his flexible psyche quickly adapts to changes, so he does not feel stress. Such a kid will not miss home and will quickly join the new team. If he does not master the material and does not cope with the homework, for which it is difficult to sit him down, he can beg a classmate to write off the homework or come up with a clever explanation for the teacher.
Being in motion is a natural desire
But with discipline in the lesson, it is more difficult for a child with a skin vector. He is often credited with hyperactivity, and the teacher repeatedly leaves notes about restlessness in his diary. It is simply impossible for a skin child to sit quietly at a desk for 40 minutes. By nature, such a person must be a breadwinner (this is his social role), therefore his body requires constant movement.
It is important for the teacher to understand that in any class there will be skin children, so every 10-15 minutes it is better to warm up and exercise for the children to give them the opportunity to jump without waiting for a change. Changing tasks or task conditions additionally motivates the skin guys to perform quickly. Most likely, the physical education lesson will be the favorite for a child with a skin vector. Here is his desire to be the first as nowhere else to the place. Higher, stronger and faster is the motto of these guys.
And for us, parents, it is important to give the baby the opportunity to run in the yard after school, and only then sit down for lessons. Competent building of relations according to the scheme "did the homework - got the carrot" will deprive the parents of the need to force the child to sit down for homework. A clear daily routine will help develop self-discipline in your child.
A special point in the upbringing of skin children should be the exclusion of corporal punishment and humiliation. Of course, you cannot beat any children, but for a skin child, one blow with a belt can be the beginning of a severe mental trauma, which often further leads to theft and masochism.
I want to see my mom
But the "golden" and the most obedient children, most likely, will ask to go home and miss their mother very much in the first days of school. These are the carriers of the anal vector. A new environment, an unfamiliar team and a new teacher - all stress them. It is better for small owners of the anal vector to get acquainted with their school and teacher in advance, come to the class, sit at the desk.
During the summer, a backpack, school uniform and all school supplies should be bought with the baby. Let the child even dress like a schoolboy at home, walk around with a knapsack and play school with mom and dad. Such preparation will help him get used to school everyday life much faster and enjoy his studies.
With the right upbringing and well-deserved praise, such a child will study well, bringing fives and words of gratitude from the teachers to the house. Having an excellent memory and perseverance by nature, a baby with an anal vector will listen with pleasure to the teacher and happily do his homework.
However, in the process of studying, he may have difficulties when he will need to solve logical problems at speed. Here, skin children are likely to get ahead. Children with an anal vector take time to slowly learn and understand the conditions of the problem. If you don't rush them, then they will do everything perfectly. In general, being the best is very important for them. It is a child with an anal vector that the score "four" is often not satisfied with.
But the physical education lesson, most likely, will not be his favorite. From birth, it will be difficult for short and stocky babies to "jump" over skin babies.
I don't want to go to school, it's very noisy there
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan gives us clear characteristics of the human psyche, knowing which, we can easily understand the reasons for everyone's behavior. So, if parents hear from their child that he does not like school because it is very noisy there, this suggests that the child is a representative of the sound vector.
The sensitive auditory sensors of these children suffer greatly from the loud cries of children during recess. Silence is the most comfortable learning environment for a sound child, so the teacher should explain the material in a quiet and calm voice, allowing the little sound people to focus on learning.
The problem is that not all teachers are used to teaching and responding to discipline in the classroom in a calm tone. Harsh cries of such teachers cause irreparable harm, first of all, to sound children. Loud noise, offensive words and obscene language at home, at school and in the yard drive a child with a sound vector into a shell, from which he would prefer not to leave. If the child is mistreated in this way, he or she can have serious learning problems and may even develop autism.
Each child has its own approach
It is important for us, parents of future first-graders, to understand our children, know how to help them integrate into school life and enjoy the learning process. Systems thinking allows us to look at the child's psyche from the inside. His behavior, motives and desires become clear. There are answers to many questions regarding the upbringing of a child.
After the first free online classes in Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology, parents become truly close friends of their child, gaining important knowledge about the correct development of the child. There is an inexplicable feeling of involvement in the life of the baby, it becomes clear how to help the child adapt to school life and enjoy learning.
And most importantly, do not be afraid to talk about your child with the teacher. Even a brief description of your child's character and habits, based on systemic knowledge, will help the teacher find an individual approach to the future first grader.
Register for the next free online lectures on systemic vector psychology by Yuri Burlan by following the link and, together with your child, prepare with pleasure for his first academic year!