Sexual experimentation as a way to revive the senses. Anything that is not forbidden is allowed
There are different ways that, according to generally accepted ideas, can make your sex life more varied and vibrant. These are special positions, up to the Kamasutra, various erotic toys and devices, role-playing games, love in unexpected places (on a table, in a car on the side of the road, on a beach with a sinking heart that you will be caught) and even group sex. What to choose so as not to be mistaken? How to offer this to your partner? How to regain your former passion and not spoil the relationship?
For some time now, I have a problem: for some reason, sex has ceased to be as bright as it used to be, and there are periods that I don't want anything at all. It seems that everything is fine with my husband, but somehow it became boring in bed, the spark left the relationship, the flame of passionate love for her husband extinguished, when his one touch caused a discharge of electricity in the body, and it began to whine sweetly with desire.
Now it is gone. Kisses are becoming more and more on duty, more and more often, in response to the hug of my husband, I want to refer to a headache. Of course, this worries me, because the relationship between a man and a woman is largely based on sex. I am already afraid of losing him, and this makes me wonder how it is possible to revive the sex life?
What to choose?
There are different ways that, according to generally accepted ideas, can make your sex life more varied and vibrant. These are special positions, up to the Kamasutra, various erotic toys and devices, role-playing games, love in unexpected places (on a table, in a car on the side of the road, on the beach with a sinking heart that you will be caught) and even group sex.
What to choose so as not to be mistaken? How to offer this to your partner? After all, he may not like it. Is experimentation the only way to bring back the old passion? There are many questions, but no answers.
In fact, you just need to understand what happened and how you can cope with the problem without risky experiments, about which it is not known in advance whether they will help or harm.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan says that the cooling of feelings is a natural consequence. Physical attraction, based on unconscious odors (pheromones), lives up to three years. Therefore, it is not surprising that after a while partners feel that physical passion has cooled down, or even completely disappeared. This is inevitable, but this does not mean that the relationship ends there. Passion can be revived and prolonged indefinitely if you know the laws of building relationships and psychological and sexual characteristics - your own and your partner.
Experiments - there are only two limitations
The basis for special, long-term, deep sexual experiences, and for women, the main condition for orgasm is an emotional connection between partners, trust. Only in this case, any proposed experiment in pair will be perceived absolutely naturally and with maximum pleasure. Moreover, it will not be a posture spied somewhere or a way of caressing, read in a magazine, but the realization of an absolutely natural desire to please his partner the way he really wants it.
Sometimes such a mutual creative search gives the most unexpected results, reveals discoveries that have not yet been realized by anyone. However, experimentation is not an end in itself. The goal is to give maximum pleasure to your partner and get pleasure.
In this case, there is no limitation in the experiments, except for two. First, everything should be carried out on mutual agreement and for mutual pleasure, without prejudice to third parties (which can be caused, for example, during sex in public places). Second, the intimacy of sexual relations must be preserved, therefore, the involvement of third parties in the act of intercourse is unacceptable. After all, it is emotions, closeness and intimacy, that is, the visual component of sexuality, that turns “simple technical somersaults in bed” into endless pleasure. So group sex should be deleted from the list of experiments right away - it destroys the relationship.
Make your partner happy
And yet, vivid sexual relations are not always, and most often not at all the result of an inspiration, an intuitive choice of means of stimulation and arousal, and even less a consequence of their mechanical enumeration. Only accurate knowledge about your own sexuality and your partner's sexuality can make them unforgettable. Such knowledge is provided by the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.
First of all, you need to remember that the key to getting the maximum pleasure from sex is first to remember about the pleasure of your partner and only then about your own. And it should be mutual. Systemic-vector psychology explains how to please a partner.
At the bodily level, each vector manifests itself through its own erogenous zone, the stimulation of which allows us to get maximum pleasure. In the skin vector it is the skin, in the anal one - the anus, in the sound vector - the ear, and so on. Knowing about the erogenous zones of a partner, depending on his vectors, gives us the opportunity to experiment accurately and with a knowingly successful result.
The largest palette of human stimulation tools with a skin vector. Probably, this is how the care of nature manifests itself when a person with a rather low libido is given so many opportunities for arousal. The huge surface of the erogenous zone (skin) with the most sensitive nipples, foreskin in men and the clitoris in women is an opportunity to add variety with the help of oral stimulation, so beloved by all skin people.
And also nibbling, scratching, erotic massages with aromatic oils, light strokes and strong, deep hugs. And how sensitive are the hands of the leatherman! He not only gives pleasure to his partner stroking, but he himself enjoys stimulating his hands.
Experiments, novelty, changes - this is generally all of the skin. Here's where to turn around. Sex in unexpected places, constant change of positions, and toys will do. Variety excites the owner of the skin vector like no one else. It is only necessary to remember that any experiment should be based on the real needs of partners. For example, sadomasochistic games are not suitable for everyone, but only for the owners of the anal vector with sadistic inclinations and the skin with a tendency to masochism, which, as a rule, are attracted to each other. As well as role-playing games in the dominantrix and her "slave".
The need for change will not lead to betrayal, if the leather worker fully realizes his love for novelty in society, he will have enough variety in your sex life.
Desire for anal sex
Sometimes it's helpful to think about what your partner loves so as not to be held captive by stereotypes. For example, the owner of the anal vector does not like experiments at all. He is a supporter of stability, while he wants sex regularly and a lot.
And yet he has one cherished desire, which he does not always admit even to himself - anal sex. It is not recognized, because this zone is taboo in the unconscious. Often a person who is not very realized in society with an anal vector begins to dream about it, but cannot decide. But for some anal women, this type of intercourse is an opportunity to experience the strongest orgasm.
Let this be the only and most risky experiment for the owner of the anal vector, but if there is a desire for anal sex, then it is worth trying. To begin with, you can allow yourself at least stimulation of the buttocks and anus. Many men with an anal vector do not even allow touching "this place", fearing that they will be suspected of being homosexual, while it is so pleasant for them! And then gradually move directly to the act itself. Anal sex is the most technically difficult and requires a lot of preparation.
Eroticism in sexual relations
You need to prepare for an intimate date so that it will pass at the highest level, leaving an unforgettable experience, even if you have been together for several years. An important role in this is played by the desires of the upper vectors, which give the act of intercourse a special eroticism, increasing arousal and pleasure.
The person with the oral vector is a true master of kissing and a lover of oral sex. It can show 100 kinds of kisses. From this alone you can lose consciousness! Don't be surprised if he screams during sex. Better think about a lonely farm in advance so that the neighbors do not call the police.
Visual eroticism involves staging a beautiful performance with pleasant smells, a sweet melody and candles in the twilight. In conditions of a lack of light, the senses of the spectators become more acute.
Erotic underwear, which visual women love to wear and which visual men love to look at, should become a mandatory attribute. Skin-visual men will like the sensation of silk sheets and peignoir of their beloved, preferably red, which arouses sensuality.
The sound engineer will feel the excitement of the gentle words that a loved one whispers quietly in his ear, quiet moans, sounding in the background of music. And since the sexiest organ for a sound engineer is the brain, talking about the fate of the universe can be a great prelude to delicious sex.
Talk about what you like
Modern man is most often a polymorph, which means that he has a lot of ways to get pleasure from sexual relations. You just need to know what he wants. That is why one can and should talk about intimate, about sex with a partner.
"How it was? Was it pleasant for you? What is the best way to make it pleasant? What do you want?" This conversation also requires deep trust, based on the emotional connection that the woman makes and that the man supports.
To have desire, there must be a lack
Pleasure comes to a lack. There is no shortage - there is no pleasure. You need to be able to create this lack - periodically get out of bed in order to live your life. Endless tantric practices, sex without restrictions, without real feeling so dulls sexual hunger that the most delicious pleasure begins to seem insipid. The orgies of the Roman emperors are proof of this.
This is partly the reason for the desire to diversify the sex life with the help of artificial means, spied on in porn films or magazines. Sometimes it seems that you have not tried something, but nothing pleases you. Understanding how our desire works makes it possible to control our impulses and get the most pleasure from the realization of this desire. More about this at the training of Yuri Burlan.
You will succeed
It is possible to revive your sex life and even raise it to unprecedented heights, if only an emotional connection is preserved between you. The training helps to build relationships in a new way and feel them as vividly as it was the first time when you were just in love, and even brighter. This is what the feedback from those who passed the training.
“Another important result is the realization that by giving love to your soul mate, you get even more love in return. Thanks to this, sexual life has radically changed, it has become of a higher quality (it began to blow my head from pleasure and no millions are needed)"
Ivan B., Perm Territory, Lysva Read the full text of the result
Not to be afraid of experiments, to fully reveal oneself in sex life, to get a new quality of satisfaction, multiple orgasms and joy from life - all this is possible. Start with Yuri Burlan's free online trainings on systemic vector psychology. Register using the link.
