Good dinner spoon, or what date is sex allowed
They say a lot about sex now and openly. Magazines and the Internet are full of articles on how to use magic techniques to tie a man to oneself once and for all. Perhaps now you expect to see specific advice or a formula for calculating the ideal time for first intimacy. And it is completely in vain - simply because such a period does not exist. However, do not rush to be disappointed, we will talk about what is really important for future relationships.
Well, how can a woman and a man understand each other, because they both want different things: a man wants a woman, and a woman wants a man.
Frigyes Erne Carinti
“You need to put on the most beautiful underwear, you never know what…” you thought, getting ready to go on a date, and immediately caught yourself: “And if“you never know what”happens, will I see him after that? How many times have we met? Today will be the fifth. No, fourth. The first one can be ignored, then we only met."
You stood for a long time at the open closet, thoughtfully going through things. You really liked your new acquaintance, and it was that rare case when for all four meetings a man did not give a reason to think and doubt about him. Therefore, it is so important to do everything right now.
It was obvious that mutual sympathy is gaining momentum and is rapidly closing the distance between you. The initiative for rapprochement comes from him, as is usually the case, but he does it very delicately, which seriously strengthens his position as a potential chosen one.
Men who do not delay courtship and strongly force events, you never liked. You yourself are not ready for such rapid transitions and prefer to get to know a man better before going to bed with him.
And now you do not want to rush at all. But what if he perceives your inaccessibility wrong, deciding that you do not like it enough to sleep with him? On the other hand, if you give in now, he may think that you are too available or at least frivolous.
Did I give … a promise to love
How do you solve this tricky puzzle? The advisers, too, were divided into two camps: some insistently recommend increasing their worth, otherwise, they say, they will not be respected, and they will quickly lose interest; others refer to modern realities, they say, the times are no longer the same to protect virginity before the wedding.
Both are right in their own way: times have actually changed a lot, the pace of life is rapidly gaining momentum, which significantly affects all its areas, including relationships. However, this is not a reason to throw yourself into each other's arms, without really understanding your feelings and intentions regarding this person.
You still have to figure it out, but not always and not everyone succeeds on their own. Knowledge of psychology is necessary, accurate and uncompromising, without errors, allowing you to understand not only yourself, but also your partner unmistakably. Such knowledge is Yuri Burlan's "System-Vector Psychology".
We are responsible for those who aroused
The increased attention to the topic of sex is justified by the fact that its role in relationships cannot be overestimated. It all starts with him. But not with sex as such, but with sexual attraction. The first acquaintance, mutual sympathy, the desire to continue communication means only that you are physically attractive to each other at this stage.
You don't need special knowledge to understand or at least feel that a man desires you sexually, and this is completely natural.
Perhaps now you expect to see specific advice or a formula for calculating the ideal time for first intimacy. And it is completely in vain - simply because such a period does not exist. However, do not rush to be disappointed, we will talk about what is really important for future relationships.
Sex without emotions - relationships without a future
Imagine for a moment your favorite book or movie. Why do you remember them so much? Because they were captured by their story, forced to closely follow the development of the plot, support some characters and resent others. And if you want to revise or re-read, then you can hardly watch only the final scene or read the last chapter. You start from the beginning to experience all these emotions again.
Good emotions fill and bind with invisible threads to the source of their awakening. This applies to everything that we love, that is dear to us and significant. This is most clearly manifested in paired relationships.
They say a lot about sex now and openly. Magazines and the Internet are full of articles on how to use magic techniques to tie a man to oneself once and for all. And countless trainings of women's happiness almost show these techniques with live examples. Some are in good faith mistaken, others extort money.
Sex itself, no matter how technical and perfect it may be, is not a guarantee of a happy and lasting relationship if it is deprived of the emotional nourishment. And this is good news for us women, because in terms of emotions we are significantly ahead of men and it is much easier for us to express them.
Love is not just for you, you need to deal with it
Therefore, if we talk about the timeliness of physical rapprochement, it is good that this should be preceded by a sensual rapprochement. There is nothing difficult in this, it is enough to focus on your partner. Let him feel that you are sincerely interested in his inner world, his thoughts, innermost desires. No man, no matter how preoccupied he is with the idea of getting you to bed as quickly as possible, can resist such provocations in a good sense. Any person likes genuine attention to his person, especially the female attention to a man, which means that he will try to support this attention.
Your openness and willingness to trust him with something very personal will serve as a trigger for his revelations. You share with him, making it clear that you are doing it for the first time, thanks to a special disposition for him, which you suddenly felt inside, almost intuitively. Such a feeling of exclusivity that you give him will not leave him indifferent, and he will definitely respond in kind.
This is how an emotional bond is born between a man and a woman. It is she who lies at the heart of strong relationships and protects against conflict, betrayal and parting. The sensory component extends to physical intimacy, giving intimate communication a special meaning. It is a kind of multidimensional pleasure where physical pleasure is enhanced by emotional unity.
Why not rush to have sex?
Even if the emotional connection has already begun to take shape, you should not rush to have sex. When a man is attracted to a woman, he is interested in getting what he wants. But this interest can fade away if he gets it quickly and without much difficulty. He no longer has to try to win you over.
It's natural not to appreciate what comes too easily. Lack of incentive to achieve what we want makes us lazy and amorphous. And vice versa, we value what we got with difficulty, required efforts, actions, development. The money won in the lottery in a minute is perceived and spent differently than the same amount earned in a year. So in a relationship, it's best to avoid being an easy win.
Especially quickly, interest in a skin man is lost: all his reactions are quick, it is such a man who can force a relationship. For him, the exciting factor is novelty, and from the hunt for a woman he gets a real passion - so give him the opportunity to get this pleasure from flirting, courtship and inaccessibility! Then he will have to strain his brains to win you, and then from his victory, from the fact that your relationship will enter a new phase, he will receive special pleasure.
And if you have a man with an anal vector in front of you, then sex should be the last in the list of stages in the development of your relationship. For him, the availability of a woman at the beginning of a meeting is an alarming sign.
Firstly, such a man tends to divide everything into clean and dirty. He loves purity in everything, and the availability of a woman in his perception will speak of her frivolity and licentiousness.
Secondly, he is more likely to get stress than pleasure from the rapid development of events. Because his rigid psyche takes time to adapt to everything new, including relationships and people.
It's so easy to be happy
At the training "System-vector psychology" Yuri Burlan talks a lot and in detail about the intricacies of interaction between a man and a woman. Understanding this mechanism removes unnecessary questions and fears that prevent you from creating a healthy relationship.
You begin to understand not only what is an emotional connection, love and sexual attraction, but also what to do with all this in real life with a real person. Because he, too, ceases to be a mystery, thanks to systemic knowledge.
You will learn how to define vectors, which means, understand the hidden desires and even thoughts of your chosen one. Already at the first meeting, you will see who is in front of you, what his values are and whether his family is a priority for him. And then it will be easy for you to decide whether it is worth continuing to communicate and whether there is a prospect for your relationship. And if there is, then you will know exactly what to do. By understanding your man and building an emotional connection with him, you will unmistakably feel when it is best to move to physical intimacy so that your first intimacy becomes an unforgettable moment in your relationship.
