Getting rid of bad habits? Just getting good
However, for some reason, different people form different habits - good and bad. And for someone, the habit of running in the morning will do a good job, but for someone it will become additional unnecessary stress. The modern cult of personality self-development leads to the fact that people often try to impose on themselves patterns of behavior that do not correspond to their natural inclinations …
We spend a lot of energy to get rid of bad habits: smoking, drinking alcohol too much, overeating, sleeping too much, being constantly late … And so on ad infinitum. Each of us has our own, not very productive patterns of behavior that poison our lives. Sometimes we look with envy at people who have developed good habits that have served them well and helped them achieve success and happiness in life.
For example, a successful manager: always fit, collected, concentrated on work. A healthy lifestyle helps him to be like that: he does not smoke, runs cross-country in the morning, eats only healthy food. Knows how to correctly prioritize - career comes first. Does ten things at the same time and does not get tired of it.
Or the head of a large family … He has a habit of gathering all his loved ones on Sundays at a large table. Chatting, eating delicious homemade food, finding out how children and grandchildren live - all this makes him truly happy in life. He loves that family ties are further strengthened by these meetings.
How can we stop fighting bad habits and make new, good ones? Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology gives us the key to acquiring new useful habits.
Is a good habit always good for us?
In society, there are well-established stereotypes regarding habits. There are many of them in the field of a healthy lifestyle. For example, drinking alcohol excessively, smoking and overeating are bad habits. And playing sports, walking in the fresh air and eating a lot of vegetables and fruits are good habits.
Or, for example, the habits of communication and interaction with people … Being late all the time, rolling up scandals with breaking dishes, being offended for any reason - all these are bad habits that cause discomfort not only to those who have acquired them, but also to those around them. These are clear facts, you cannot argue with them.
However, for some reason, different people form different habits - good and bad. And for someone, the habit of running in the morning will do a good job, but for someone it will become additional unnecessary stress. The modern cult of personality self-development leads to the fact that people often try to impose on themselves patterns of behavior that do not correspond to their natural inclinations. It is useless to instill in a person the ability to do ten things at the same time if his mental structure presupposes the ability to perform actions exclusively sequentially, finishing one thing and only then starting the next.
In order not to start new, seemingly good, but unnecessary habits, you need to understand two things: what a habit is and which habit will be good for you.
What is a habit?
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan says that a person lives according to the principle of pleasure. It is designed to enjoy life. Any habit is designed to fix in us the pleasure of some action. For example, we like sweet things. It gives us a tremendous desire to use it again and again, in order to enjoy its taste again and again. And we get into the habit of constantly eating sweets. Sometimes it even begins to seem to us that this is almost the only thing that can give us joy.
However, according to Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, a person receives the greatest pleasure from the realization of his innate mental properties. When, for some reason, he cannot do this (he did not develop them sufficiently in childhood, he found himself in an unfavorable situation in the present), he begins to replace the realization with some kind of substitutes for pleasure. For example, the habit of smoking compensates for the fear of people (it is easier to enter the right circle of people). Alcohol relieves sexual dissatisfaction. Or tantrums seeking attention, being unable to realize their emotional potential in any other way.
A good habit can be developed even in adulthood if it matches the person's mental properties. They say that you need to do an action for 40 days to become habitual. However, if this habit does not correspond to natural inclinations, then 40 days will not help. A good habit is also based on the principle of pleasure, and, as we remember, a person receives the greatest pleasure from the realization of his properties and desires. When we perform actions conditioned by the vectors of our psyche, we get pleasure from this.
Vector pleasure
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan distinguishes eight vectors in the human psyche. A vector is a set of innate desires and properties designed to help these desires to be realized. Knowing about the vectors set by nature helps us develop the right habits for ourselves.
For example, a person with a skin vector tends to be limited in everything. It will be a good habit for him to learn to limit himself. He also loves sweets, but from the restriction in food and from the feeling of his flexible, slender body, he will get more pleasure than from the daily dessert. Sweet is “unhealthy”, and health is a great value for a skin person.
But the anal person, on the contrary, it is useless to urge to learn to limit yourself to sweets. First, he is not prone to limitations. And secondly, when he does not realize himself, he is seized by sweet stress. Better to develop the habit of doing it right. For him, it may be the desire to complete all matters with high quality. And not to do ten things at the same time, like a leather worker, but to do them sequentially, one after the other.
Other vectors may have their own useful habits. For example, a visual person, instead of throwing tantrums, can make it a habit to meet friends every weekend and visit museums, exhibitions, concerts, performances. And if he really wants his life to take on a deep and important meaning, to get the greatest pleasure from life, to go as a volunteer to an orphanage or a nursing home. To listen to those who are worse off than him, to sympathize with their problems, to encourage, that is, to create an emotional connection with people. Indeed, this is his life purpose.
A good habit for a person with a sound vector is a high-quality concentration of thought. It is important to teach a sound child to listen to the quiet sounds of classical music. This will teach him to concentrate thought not on himself, but outside. An adult sound engineer will get a good filling of his sound vector from reading complex texts, learning foreign languages, solving complex intellectual problems, playing chess.
At first, concentration of thought for a sound engineer can be hard work that requires incredible effort, because the work of the mind is the most energy-intensive. And if you don't get used to it, then it will be harder than digging the earth, which, in essence, it is. But having got a taste, he will no longer be able without such work of thought and will begin to get the greatest pleasure from the realization of his main purpose - to think, to create new neural connections, to develop the mind.
Concentration on the psyche of other people can become an especially necessary and important habit for a sound engineer. To feel your neighbor as yourself, what he lives with, what he breathes, what his thoughts, desires are - the most incredible adventure that a person with a sound vector can arrange for himself. Then his life is filled with meaning. The one he was looking for all his life.
You can learn this at the training on System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan, as well as develop other good habits in yourself in different vectors. Understanding yourself, your strengths, allows you to consciously choose actions that will inevitably lead to success. This is evidenced by the numerous reviews of those who completed the training. And you can get started with free online lectures on System Vector Psychology. Registration by link:
