What is fear. The mirror of one's heart
But why does a person experience intolerable fear when, in fact, nothing threatens? On the other hand, why can he voluntarily endanger his life: sacrifice himself or step down from the window? From the point of view of evolution and instinct, these are mistakes …
When I regained consciousness, I was surprised that I was still alive. I felt that I was lying on something hard. It turned out in the aisle between the chairs. And next to it is a whistling abyss. There were no thoughts in my head. Fear too. In the state that I was in - between sleep and reality - there is no fear. The only thing I remembered was an episode from an Italian film, where a girl, after a plane crash, hovered in the sky among the clouds, and then, falling into the jungle, remained alive. I had no hope of surviving. I just wanted to die without suffering.
In 1981, the An-24 plane collided with a military bomber. This is how Larisa Savitskaya describes the crash - the only one who survived. There was no fear. What is fear? Isn't it a desire to stay alive in the most extreme conditions? Let's figure it out with the help of knowledge from the training of Yuri Burlan "System-vector psychology".
Fear is an emotion that arises when we want to live, but there is a threat to life. A bear rushes at us, the body is one step away from destruction, but we must escape at any cost. A living being seeks to survive. Man is no exception to the rule. But, unlike an animal, in a dangerous situation he reacts not only physiologically, but also feels the strongest emotion - fear.
We were animals too
The body of the closest ancestor of homo sapiens and our body react to threats in a similar way. A whole complex of processes is turned on, using all the abilities to the maximum, protecting us. Outwardly, the behavior of most mammals is divided into only three groups: run away, attack and hide.
Not a single living creature wants to die, but everyone survives in their own way, and everyone has their own criterion of "threat". In the wild, the main threat to life is predators and hunger. If the animal escaped from the predator and found food, it will survive. And he will pass on his method to the cubs to run away, hide and defend themselves from threats.
Virginia possums pretend to be dead. These are small eared black and white animals with pink paws - a "hybrid" of a rat and a ferret. They don't run very fast, and their claws and teeth leave a lot to be desired. So in a dangerous situation, the possum falls into a coma: a tongue protrudes from an open mouth, muscles relax, sensitivity dulls. The slow rhythm of the heart and breathing makes the resemblance to a corpse absolute.
In case of danger, animals are never wrong. They have their own tricks against enemies - the mechanism of evolution has been worked out in millions of generations. Helpless cubs hide in anticipation of their parents, adults and strong ungulates run away as much as they can, and cornered wolves and bears attack the enemy with fangs and claws. What is animal fear? He's gone. Animals don't feel emotion. They sense danger and avoid it instinctively.
Physiologically, at the sight of a threat, a person reacts with an adrenaline rush, blood flow to the muscles and limbs, outflow from the stomach, dilated pupils, and an increase in blood sugar. This is not even an emotion of fear and horror, but simply an extreme mobilization of the body. More energy, better coordination, eyes see sharper. We are faced with a choice: hit, run, hide.
And we do this when we are in real danger. But why does a person experience intolerable fear when, in fact, nothing threatens? On the other hand, why can he voluntarily endanger his life: sacrifice himself or step down from the window? From the point of view of evolution and instinct, these are mistakes.
A person is not only physical data, but, above all, desires and thoughts. The source of phobias and destructive fears lies in the unconscious psyche. Only people are afraid not to find a way out of a closed space, to be disgraced or to be poisoned, and not all, only of a special warehouse. Here are some of the characteristics of our fears that are unusual for animals:
- We are afraid not only for our own life, but also for someone else's.
- The wife is afraid of wasps, the husband is when they sneeze at him, and the father and mother are afraid of old age. Fears are different for everyone, are not transmitted genetically and can change throughout life.
Our imaginations paint pictures of the future. We are afraid that there will be a war, an apocalypse or a crisis, that the plane we will fly on next month will crash.
- People with a visual vector tend to be afraid of "all sorts of nonsense." For example, at the sight of a harmless tiny spider or when leaving the threshold of their home on the street, their heart rate increases, their lips go numb, and their fingers tremble. There is an adrenaline rush, like an antelope fleeing from a leopard.
It's hard to believe that these fears are meant to keep us alive. And don't believe it: it is not. People are not only afraid of tigers and high cliffs. They are afraid of starving to death.
Now there are no problems with food, for the last 60 years. But before that, for a long 50 thousand years, hunger was actual. To earn money, grow a crop, catch a wild goat, a person negotiated with others, fit into the tribe, state, society. He found a suitable occupation. And if he is not good for anything? Then he will lose his skill for work, will not cope with his role in society and will be expelled. Human fear is also the fear of failing to cope with one's destiny. People are afraid of letting the flock down just like falling off a cliff.
When people fulfill their roles, they rely on eight sensitive areas of the body. Some have stronger eyesight, some have hearing, and some have developed tactile sensitivity. If control over them is lost, a person loses his abilities and will not be able to get food with everyone. And you can't survive alone. Therefore, a person's fear is usually associated with his most sensitive areas.
- A person with a skin vector may be afraid of getting infected - fear of germs.
- A person with a sound vector - go crazy.
Who is afraid so that the heart goes to heels
But the most fearful among us are people with a visual vector. They are by nature the most defenseless, unable to harm someone, that is, to protect themselves. It is a pity for them to kill even an insect. Therefore, evolutionarily, they fear for themselves more than others. This innate fear can "grow" into more mature feelings - love and sympathy, or it can be fixed in the form of a variety of fears and phobias.
So, if it is wrong to bring up visual children, or, for example, once ridicule their feelings, then, as adults, they will lose the ability to penetrate other people's pain, experience, become self-contained and will be afraid of literally everything they see. There are many options - from intolerance to the sight of blood, fear of the dark or insects to panic attacks, nervous breakdowns from "overwork" - this is what the fear of the visual vector is.
People in permanent fear have fantasies that arouse terror. For example, about how they are attacked by a criminal or their neighbor is terminally ill and dies. They are drawn to watch horror movies, walk at night along dark alleys, look for all kinds of diseases. Sometimes a person who was frightened by a poisonous tarantula in childhood does not control himself all his life at the sight of any arachnids.
In the film "Isle of Nîmes," the writer Alexandra does not leave the house for four months. She does not even dare to go to the gate and pick up the mail, she is afraid to meet face to face with a courier who brings her antiseptics, and a small spider on the doorstep drives her into a panic. Alex contacts the editor by phone, writes adventure books, relying on Internet sites.
When a person is afraid of completely fearless things, his life is difficult, but at least nothing threatens her. And if, in a difficult situation, fear is a panic that takes over you, overshadows the animal “hit-and-run” reflexes and sober thinking?
At the very beginning of the movie "Cliffhanger" Sarah is hanging over an abyss on a cable. She needs to get over the cliff to the rescue car. It remains to overcome only a few meters when the insurance flies. The girl grabs the edge of the torn belts. Tears run down my cheeks, lips cry for help. She cannot pull herself up on the torn belay with any hand, unable to move her fingers - fear fetters her body. Panic prevents Sarah from saving herself. The gloves slip and the girl falls into the gorge. Sarah's visual vector is hyperemotional, and horror is elevated to a life-threatening superlative degree.
Where to put your fears
Where is the use of such fear, if Alexandra is afraid to go out, loses communication and heaven over her head, and Sara's excessive panic literally kills the girl? An evolutionary error? Not. It's just that the visual vector does not realize its desires and suffers. The main primary emotion of spectators is the fear of death. Even a three-year-old with a visual vector is not yet aware that a person's life is finite, but he unconsciously sees a threat in this terrible world. Spectators in childhood are often afraid of the dark. But this is just one part of their emotional palette.
The same visual people, and only they, can really be afraid for the life of another, that is, imbued with other people's problems as their own, empathize with someone. So, Alexandra still leaves her native refuge to save Him. The girl remained on a desert island, her dad sailed away on a scientific expedition and never returned. Nim doesn't even know what to do with a ripped knee. And Alex hit the road. The desire to help the child pushes her out of the house, so much so that she forgets about her fears. The visual vector of the writer is filled with love for a living person, and not for the hero of her novel, so fear is no longer a ban on her within four walls.
Humanity needs spectators to unite people with empathy and sympathy for everyone. This is how culture is born in society, it keeps us from murder and violence. Fear of death turned into compassion saves our species from self-destruction. And each individual visual person - from fears.
Therefore, if an irrational fear appears, it is a warning to a person in psychology: desires from the subconscious are not realized. At the same time, the source of human fear is not visible, because the unconscious is hidden from the mind. And until the cause is found, it will not be possible to get rid of fear, to give it a precise definition.
Each person has their own problem, because of which “groundless” fear arises. But there is also something in common. When someone does not realize what is inherent in him by nature, does not receive a response from society and close people, he begins to be afraid. For example, when the viewer feels cut off from people, he does not create emotional connections with them. When a sound engineer closes in himself, does not reveal the nature of phenomena and human actions, etc. Childhood trauma can also be the cause of fear.
Awareness - the ability to see the cause and effect hidden in the unconscious - changes relationships with people, and the obsessive fear goes away. Those who have completed the training "System-vector psychology" do not even remember that they once suffered from phobias, anxiety and anxiety. All their thoughts are now about how to realize their desires and capabilities in order to experience even more happiness. Irrational fear has nowhere to come from. This is what the trained women, Julia and Darlene, have to say about their feelings.