How to stop being ticklish
Everything that happens to us in life is due to our innate properties of the psyche and how we use them. Even when the problem is on the surface of the body, its solution should be sought deep down, having an exact coordinate system …
The body remembers even when the head has forgotten. An experience hidden in the subconscious guides our physiological reactions. They defy conscious control until you find your own tickling fear trigger.
I provoked him. She ran up and pulled, he grabbed me abruptly, and then tickled, I could not get out. There was not enough air either from laughter, or from coming tears. She asked to stop, and he - with renewed vigor. When dad tickled and touched the skin with his stubble, it was both painful and so pleasant. He was entirely mine at that moment, no important business - just me. Mom always screamed when we were so mad. Usually everything ended with my crying. But I wanted it again and again.
Not everyone's dad provoked the tickling fear. Maybe this is an imaginary monster that pulled a clawed paw to a leg, as soon as the light was turned off. Maybe a fairy tale where a wolf knocked on defenseless kids, or a classmate who was waiting around the corner to scare. Perhaps even a spiky sweater.
Why people are ticklish - personal thriller scripts
Everything that happens to us in life is due to our innate properties of the psyche and how we use them. Even when the problem is on the surface of the body, its solution should be sought in the depths of the soul, having an exact coordinate system.
There are three main reasons for being ticklish:
1) loss of a sense of security and safety in childhood - a basic distrust of the world throughout life
Such a scenario may just unfold when someone close to him tickles or in some other way scares the child to the point of exhaustion. The heart is pounding wildly, the whole body shrinks from defenselessness. You can't say stop, and dad keeps poking his finger in the ribs.
The lover of the scare and the victim, like differently charged poles, are attracted to each other. One unconsciously provokes, the other is glad to succumb to temptation. After all, it is pleasant to scare only those who react sincerely and emotionally. Insidious and unexpected "boo!" from around the corner - the handiwork of a person who by nature is endowed with the gift of teaching others, transferring knowledge, skills and abilities. Frightening the slender daughter, the father clumsily, but fulfills his educational role, teaches a sensual girl to react to danger in her entire emotional range. This skill was once essential for survival. Daddy does not yet know that such a "study" can cover a child with a visual vector with a black blanket of fear, the roots of which he will look for in an online psychology training course after 20 years of joyless life in constant stress.
2) touch as a source of pain - masochistic tendencies
In ancient Rome, tickling was used as an instrument of torture. (1) The offender was tied up, his feet were smeared with saline solution, and two specially trained goats licked his feet. It's funny at first, after 25 seconds it hurts excruciatingly. Swedish neurophysiologist Yngve Zotterman in his work "Touch, Tickle and Pain" proved that tickling and pain use the same nerve fibers.
The owner of certain properties of the psyche is especially sensitive to touch. He has supersensitive, thin, delicate skin, and inside this person is flexible, easy to lift, quick and changeable. Such people are able to adapt to any situation. And if they are regularly hurt, the psyche adjusts to the conditions, and endorphins are already produced not from gentle stroking and gentle touch, but from physical and psychological roughness. Mild masochistic tendencies can develop in the owner of the skin vector, even when his mother forces him to wear a spiky sweater. Unbearable, but you have to endure the pain from day to day, and do something about it?
An adult consciously avoids pain, looking for ways to stop being tickled everywhere, but life again and again throws up disturbing situations that trigger a painful mechanism. A relationship develops with a man who loves to squeeze in an embrace so that his ribs crack. The boss yells and humiliates, the girlfriends substitute.
3) constant voltage inside
British scientists have developed a device that is attached to a cartilaginous protrusion in the ear, tickles the patient, stimulating the vagus nerve, and stabilizes the heart rate. (2) And if such a device is not yet at hand, and tomorrow to the doctor, how to calm the heart? With him, you will need to undress to the waist, and even ticklish from the phonendoscope! The body becomes tense like a stone. It seems that you can reflexively hit a specialist, just not to touch it. And only doctors would be fine. When your own boyfriend unexpectedly puts his hand on his waist, you want to do the same.
Tickling causes all muscles to spasm. An involuntary aggressive reaction to touch can occur in a person who is already under constant stress. The doctor's touch, like a butterfly on the barbell of a wolf from "Well, wait a minute!", Will be just the last straw in an avalanche of stress and disappointment. You can avoid awkwardness and prevent others from demonstrating their "inadequacy" if you yourself understand why all the nerves inside are compressed into one bundle that is about to burst.
How to stop being ticklish?
Feet, armpits, abdomen, chest, neck, genital area are the most delicate places in humans. They are the most vulnerable. Tickling sends a danger signal to the brain, we are nervous and ready to defend ourselves. But from whom? After all, it is not a predatory spider that sneaks through the body, but a loved one or a professional to whom we came for help, and not to fight.
The postcentral gyrus, the anterior cingulate cortex and the cerebellum distinguish unexpected touch from expected sensations, which is why we cannot tickle ourselves. (3) The brain anticipates touch and is ready to repel the “attack”. Even laughter during tickling is reflex, that is, it has nothing to do with positive experiences, but turns on automatically (4).
We do not expect danger from ourselves, therefore it is not ticklish. And if it is difficult to trust other people, the ancient warning system that saved us from parasites and predators automatically works.
In order not to be afraid of tickling anymore, you need to learn how to interact with other people without fear. When you understand exactly who you are dealing with, what to expect from the interlocutor, what “those eyes opposite” really want, then touches, even unexpected ones, stop causing tension in the body. Frightening you immediately becomes uninteresting.
The body instantly responds to changes in the state of the psyche. The results from such changes can be very spicy, but invariably pleasant:
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