Seduced by the Serpent. Earthly love
“Without him, my life has lost its meaning”… “I don't want to live anymore”… “Why? Why doesn't he want to be with me anymore ?! I love him so much! There were two thousand kilometers between me and Anya, but I almost physically felt her pain.
Don't cry, Anya!
Do not renounce, do not renounce love!
I also went through HELL …
Try to forgive all the dislike, And no longer look back with longing …
“Without him, my life has lost its meaning”… “I don't want to live anymore”… “Why? Why doesn't he want to be with me anymore ?! I love him so much! There were two thousand kilometers between me and Anya, but I almost physically felt her pain. Sad love came out of her. Sad and … incomprehensible.
He called her cell phone, allegedly having made a mistake. By that time, Anya had already been divorced for a couple of years, raised a little son and did not think that she would suddenly meet her soul mate - and how to find her in this crazy world where people only do what they hurt each other … After parting Anya and her husband “put a cross on herself,” sent her son to the kindergarten and plunged into work. An emptiness settled in the heart, and it seemed that there was no place in it for either love or relationships.
And then suddenly this man's voice in the receiver!.. The first call was like an accident. The second is a pleasant surprise. “I wanted to hear your voice, it’s so warm”, “I won’t take a lot of your time”, “What if I ask your name, will you say?..” - well, further down the list …
That distant conversation "stuck together" surprisingly quickly. Either because of his spontaneity, or from Anya's frivolity, but they got an interesting dialogue. And when the call from this number rang for the third time, Anya answered him already as an old acquaintance.
Their "telephone romance" developed rapidly. They talked about everything that came into their heads, and it seemed that they understood each other perfectly. She began a phrase - he finished, he was joking - she laughed, as she had not laughed for a long time. Life took on some new meaning, and dreams of love revived in Anya's soul. It seemed that it was some kind of fairy tale. However, the tale turned out to be terrible. After a week of telephone communication, he confessed to Anya that … he was in prison.
Anya was taken aback. This recognition seemed to knock the ground out from under my feet. How so? But isn't he calling her on his cell phone? Is it possible to call from prison? So what to do now? Maybe we should immediately stop this communication before it goes further?..
Anya cried almost all night. And when I woke up in the morning, I realized that … I was attached. That he wants to hear his voice. That now he even became even more dear to her, because her heart squeezes from the thought that he is toiling somewhere behind bars. And I want to pity him, such an unfortunate person, to help him somehow, in a human way. And Anya threw herself into love and relationships with her head.
All people are different. Someone assesses the world exclusively with the help of cold logic, someone lives "by inertia", like everything, as is customary. Someone does not look around at all, because what is happening inside him is more interesting for him … Among all this diversity of the motley human crowd, there are people who are able to very quickly create emotional connections with others. Their emotional sphere is so receptive that sometimes it takes them a matter of minutes to bond. This situation is very beautifully shown in the film "Walk".
The plot of the film is very simple: walking along the streets of St. Petersburg, a girl meets two young guys, and they both fall in love with her. This walk, filled with flirting, conversations, laughter and simple human dialogues, leads to the fact that in an hour and a half, a real emotional connection arises between these three, an almost serious feeling.
Only people with a visual vector are capable of this. And only they have access to the true meaning of love. No one else can feel another person so quickly and deeply, feel his emotional field, see him not so much with his eyes, but with some kind of inner vision. However, in most cases, visual people fantasize more than act for sure, think out and finish a lot, instead of relying on facts, and this is the root of many of their troubles.
Anya went into an affair with her head. Their own problems and loneliness were forgotten. She waited for his calls after a tiring day at work, as children wait for a delicious dessert after fresh semolina. And when he finally called, they talked, talked, talked … Somehow, imperceptibly, the conversations turned into a "gentle plane", and they started talking about love and started making plans. Anya's previous experience said that the psychology of men in love is simple and primitive. Most of them are "consumers", in love with themselves and only able to take. And if they do experience any feelings, then not for long …
So she used to think after an unsuccessful marriage. And then suddenly life turned to her the other side. The velvet voice on the phone was so warm and affectionate that I wanted to forget about everything and give myself to these reliable male hands. At such moments, Anya forgot that the voice belonged to a prisoner, a criminal in the past, maybe even a repeat offender. She was in love, and such thoughts simply did not occur to her. Yes, he was behind bars, but she was not afraid, she only pitied him more. And she also regretted that no one could be told about this strange, but such heady love. And about how many tender words her invisible lover gives her, in fact, only a voice in the receiver …
We often hear that male psychology is fundamentally different from female psychology, and this is especially acute in love. Yes, indeed, men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. But sharp angles in relationships appear not so much because of the "struggle of the sexes"; in love, everything much more depends on what a person has a set of vectors and how much they are developed. With this information, you can understand in advance what kind of partner a man will be, whether it will be possible to create a happy couple with him, or whether this relationship is doomed, despite any efforts. Such knowledge is provided by the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, opening the veil over the secrets of love chemistry, endowing people with an understanding of their nature and giving them the opportunity to clearly distinguish with whom they are dealing. It is a pity that the heroine of our story was not familiar with this science, perhapsit would have saved her another disappointment.
After two months of talking on the phone, they saw each other live - Anya came on a date to the zone, which was almost a thousand kilometers from her city. Thick iron doors with barred windows, deafening bells piercing the entire body through and through, rude prison aunts who "ousted" her things and gripped her herself - all this filled her heart with horror. But the first glance of large brown eyes drove all fears out of him …
Anya bathed in her feeling. A few months later, she was going to the zone for a long date, dreaming of how they would finally become close … But the joy of meeting was short-lived, the happiness turned out to be with a bitter aftertaste. After two days and nights of bliss, he revealed the whole truth to her. He told that he had not a year and a half to sit, as he said at the beginning, but another whole … nine years! Anya was stunned and crushed by this figure and did not want to believe in it. The explanation was stormy. To Anina's endless "why" he answered in monosyllables: he lied, because he liked her terribly and he was afraid to push her away with his "truth." Yes, male psychology in love manifests itself in a very peculiar way: seeking a woman he likes, a man is capable of actions unusual for him. Scoundrels, for example, put on the guise of a "good guy", and honest ones can start lying …
Well, this guy got it right. People with visual vectors are very affectionate. The emotional swing of their visual temperament, prone to swaying from the slightest shock, are still able to maintain some stability in the face of life's adversity, unless they are associated with the loss of an object of deep affection. The loss of a loved one is such a terrible blow for the viewer that everything else in comparison with it simply pales and is not such a terrible stress factor.
Parting, they threw themselves into each other's arms like crazy, and it became clear to both that the terrible figure he had voiced was no longer able to change anything. Eh, if Anya had known from the very beginning whom she contacted, perhaps she could have cut off the ends right away. However, the truth was revealed too late - she managed to become attached. Based on the next two years of her life, it would be possible to shoot a modern remake of a film about the wives of the Decembrists (remember the fate of Polina Gebl, the beloved of the Decembrist Ivan Annenkov, who was brilliantly played by Eva Shikulska in the film "The Star of Captivating Happiness", this is just an ideal example of a woman with a highly developed visual vector). Anya was drawn into the role of a Decembrist and, deep down, she enjoyed her secret love for the unfortunate and rejected,after all, it is the unfortunate and rejected who are able to cause the most intense intensity of emotions in the owners of the visual vector. Anya had so many feelings in her soul that she herself could no longer separate love from pity, pity from compassion, and compassion from attachment …
Everything collapsed in one day. On the day when Anya's beloved was refused by the Supreme Court. His hopes that they would cut off the term were not justified. They refused him, but both were hit. Stunned and irritated by the refusal, the prisoner suggested that Anya put an end to their love story …
Conversations, tears and pleading had no effect on him. Tired of Anya's hysterics, he sent her a single text message: “I don't want to ruin your life. Forget it and be happy”- and disconnected the phone.
And then Anya called me, her friend. “Without him, my life has lost its meaning”… “I don't want to live anymore”… “Why? Why doesn't he want to be with me anymore ?! I love him so much!"
I listened to the confession about her sad love and thought how to help her. Then I had just started to discover the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, and I wanted to try on the knowledge gained to Anya's situation.
Or maybe it is "skin"? I played with the girl's feelings, amused my pride, “skimmed the cream” and … I got bored. It's not for nothing that there are stories about the love of prisoners. Has he resigned Anya, threw away the old SIM card, got a new one and is now powdering the brains of another naive simpleton?
However, according to Ani, the beloved did not extort money, claimed that he did not need anyone but her, often said that she looked like his mother, and even several times offered to officially marry - only Anya did not dare, what is now terribly sorry. "Or maybe it's a man with an anal vector?" - I thought. She became for him a devoted friend, honest, decent, faithful, almost like his mother, worthy to be called his wife. But why then did he push her away? However, if his anal vector is combined with the visual, then he could well have done it out of self-sacrifice. After all, Anya is still so young and may well find her happiness in the seven long years that remain for him.
My thoughts were interrupted by Anya's sobs. “I don’t want to live without him, I feel so bad! It’s just unbearable! What should I do? she lamented through her sobs. And then I realized how I could help her.
- Anya, just don’t refuse right away. I want to advise you one training … This is a training in system-vector psychology. He certainly won't give you back your man. But at least you can figure out why he did this to you …
When I hung up, my soul felt better. Indeed, why guess on the coffee grounds? Let Anya figure out for herself why this man decided to leave her life.
And I also don’t want her to renounce love. After all, this is such a wonderful feeling that she, as a visual girl, is able to experience more fully and sharply than anyone else. Armed with the knowledge that system-vector psychology gives, she will begin to distinguish what kind of life scenario is prepared for her with the man she likes, and will be able to decide her own destiny, instead of hanging out on the waves of life like a helpless chip.
Don't cry, Anya! I sincerely wish you happiness! To you and everyone who has not yet lost hope of finding true love and building lasting relationships.
