I'm a clown, or why isn't it funny anymore
What kind of people do you think tell jokes? No, not those below the belt. And those with a claim to intelligence: anecdotes about musicians, politicians, subtle "English" humor.
They are smart and educated people. Their developed intelligence and sense of humor are beyond question.
Why are they joking? To amuse others? Please yourself? What is the benefit to them?
If you set yourself a goal and remember, then among our friends there are many people who often joke. Perhaps the joker is your teenage child or even yourself. A merry fellow with a lively mind, an intellectual and just clever. His humor is seemingly harmless and even intellectual.
It is noteworthy that he gets joked at the moment when the conversation becomes tense, a conflict is clearly brewing in communication, a confrontation of points of view. Removing the tension that has arisen, he switches to a light tone, tells an anecdote, "humors". At the same time, he smiles broadly and conciliatory.
Some interlocutors may be annoyed by this behavior: the conflict has not been settled, the question has not been closed, the problem has not been resolved - what kind of jokes are there? Although some of the emotional stress when defending their interests or demands, the specified tactics of conducting a conversation removes. Laughed, relieved - and you can continue the conversation or safely transfer it to another topic.
At first glance, what's wrong with that? Man found a way to deal with problems. You look at such a positive person and think that he is doing well in life. What an optimist there! Oh, if you only knew …
Humor adaptation
What kind of people do you think tell jokes? No, not those below the belt. And those with a claim to intelligence: anecdotes about musicians, politicians, subtle "English" humor.
They are smart and educated people. Their developed intelligence and sense of humor are beyond question. Not everyone can joke “cleverly”, but only people with a visual vector, emphasizes the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan.
Why are they joking? To amuse others? Please yourself? What is the benefit to them?
Steps of the food chain
Psychologically, we are all cannibals. Eat another - or you will be eaten by yourself. We are ready to "devour" other people because of our states of tension, suffering, discontent, hostility.
And people with a visual vector are distinguished by the fact that at any moment of life they live in the range from sacrifice to sacrifice. Because of their poor survival rate, visual boys in the early human flock became those whom their fellow tribesmen ate in the name of removing hostility and the physical survival of the flock. And the frightened and useless visual girls were left at the mercy of predators to save everyone else.
The range of the spectator's feelings ranges from fear to love. Either fear or love - the choice is yours.
The greatest feeling of helplessness, the fragility of their own lives in people with a visual vector. Emotional storms and sticky fear haunt them, unless they have developed the skill of directing all their enormous sensuality to other people in the form of compassion and empathy for those who are worse off than them, or fell into an archetypal state of fear as a result of over-stress (from the loss of love or the breakdown of emotional communication).
Once I realized that I can make you laugh
Today we are not cannibals in the literal sense, but in a figurative way we are ready to slander, humiliate, destroy anyone who causes our dislike. Since ancient times, people with a visual vector have been identified as victims. Not all, but those whose condition fluctuates within the framework of "scary - not so scary." They seem to attract all sorts of problems and misfortunes: from constant illnesses due to weak immunity to nagging colleagues, relatives or casual acquaintances and even slander.
When a situation arises that a growing visual child, who has not yet developed into a state of empathy for others, feels constant anxiety and threat from the world around him, he will involuntarily look for a way of behavior that will remove constant fear from him. And one of these mechanisms is irony, humor, the ability to make others laugh.
I was never sure that my mother loved me. And I loved her very much. She scolded me, and I was flattering and begging for a kind word, looking for her love. Once I managed to make her laugh. Incredible: she looked at me and did not curl her lips contemptuously, but smiled! Me!.. I was happy. And I decided that I wanted to see my mother's smile instead of swearing and teaching. And that changed me.
It is interesting that the habit of "humor" relieves not only the tension of others, but also of the viewer himself. The mechanism of laughter works equally for everyone: it gives relief. Reduces cultural pressure on our natural dislike. That is, it is already easier for us to perform actions and express our "phi" in relation to others, which we usually cannot afford. For "fi" is not accepted. It's embarrassing and ugly.
Make others laugh to survive on your own
A child with a visual vector at a certain moment is faced with the impossibility of creating an emotional connection with his mother. The connection that the spectator desperately needs. By chance, he discovers that people love those who make them laugh. This observation of visual children is absolutely true: the mechanism of laughter is the release of mental stress. And a child in a survival situation quickly realizes that if you make people laugh, an ironic smile, then it is easier to interact with them, they are less dangerous for him.
Driven by a natural desire to preserve himself, his life, the child, thanks to visual intelligence, quickly adopts a method of survival among other people: you just need to make them laugh. A visual person is not an oral person. His jokes, as a rule, will be "above the waist", while the oral one will somehow reduce everything to the relationship of the sexes.
Fuh! Carried away! Today they will not scold him, they will also find fault with less. Laughing, the person softens, sympathy arises for the one who caused the pleasant state.
Gingerbread man, gingerbread man, I'll eat you
A person with a visual vector is one who builds an emotional connection with others. Initially, the goal of creating an emotional connection is to remove your own fears, as if a guarantee of safety for yourself. But an emotional connection can not be established with everyone, which is why the viewer "freaks out" in a state of fear, since he does not feel safe, suffers and suffers.
This can be especially true when in his own family he fails to create such an important emotional connection with his mother. For a visual child, such a connection with his mother is a guarantee of his feeling of safety and security. But this feeling is basic for growing any little person. This is the foundation for the harmonious development of his innate talents.
When you managed to make your mother laugh for the first time, and after that the punishment that you were threatened did not follow, then there is a desire to repeat this experience as successful. You have not been "eaten" in a figurative sense by those who have to protect you, ensure your safety and security as guarantors of the development of properties that will ensure comfortable full-fledged realization in the future.
Grow up, humorist, big and small
The child uses this trick over and over again. Consciousness that has found a loophole in this unfriendly world involuntarily snatches out anecdotes, funny scenes on the street with attentive visual eyes. Then these stories are told in companies. The high intelligence of the visual vector and its ability to color and emotionally color any narrative turn the story into a theatrical performance. Everyone giggles, laughs.
He is no longer a victim, he is already a hero. He will not be humiliated, destroyed, or harmed now. After all, he is the one who amuses them. Maybe in time he will be called the soul of the party. The irony of fate: designed to raise the level of culture through empathy and compassion for the weak, he laughs at them, because he is accustomed to protect not them, but himself.
I started training: I learned a few anecdotes, diligently memorized the jokes told by others. Grimaced and grimaced. At first hesitated, then - more and more successful and successful. I became the soul of the company, the star of the parties … But at the end of the holiday I felt devastated. There was not a single emotion left in my soul, only longing … “Hey, dude, why are you so gloomy? Tell me, what was that anecdote? Friends, who had crowded around me yesterday, stopped calling when I was exhausted. They didn't want me. All they needed was a clown who made them laugh. At such moments I fell into despair and fear that no one loved me and that no one needed me.
The spectator, unlike the person with the oral vector, makes others laugh by exerting effort. When placed under the conditions of the necessity of survival, he discovers that there is something that removes the hostility directed at him. And even creates an analogue of an emotional connection, uniting not on empathy and culture, but on removing hostility.
Thinly feeling other people's emotions, capable of feeling a huge range of his own and others' feelings, he skillfully conducts laughter. And, observing a possible conflict, he tries to level it in advance, so as not to accidentally become a victim. A sad struggle for survival under the guise of an eternal jester is the fate of someone who knows no other way to be happy.
Sad, sad clown
There are two ways to live life: by increasing the pleasure you get from it, or feeling joy only from reducing the suffering.
In the case of the described method of adaptation of the surrounding reality by a person with a visual vector, this is just a fixed method for removing a certain amount of fear and anxiety that interfere with life.
Longing is the price to pay for the wrong course of action. Desolation and indifference are akin to insensitivity. You do not care. It seems to you that everyone is using you. That nobody needs you.
But there is something truly scary. In fact, laughter is harmful and even destructive for a person with visual and even sound vectors.
The natural task of the spectator is to create and maintain culture in society. To create beautiful things, to sing the praises of humanistic ideals, to create the value of a kind and considerate attitude of people in society to each other.
To make laugh is not his natural role. Laughter is what reduces the mental stress in a person with a visual vector, not allowing him to create a thought of such a volume that would allow him to fulfill his natural task. As a result, there is no tension, no thought, there is only an unconscious feeling of the wrongness of one's life. There is no sense of joy and happiness.
And what is happiness? Happiness in understanding why you were born this way. And the exact knowledge of how to achieve your happiness. This is what Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology offers to any spectator. No kidding. Register using the link.
