Orphanages yesterday and today. Heading for the abyss, potential for takeoff. Part 2
An adult example to follow is the biggest shortage in modern orphanages.
In modern conditions, most of the psychological properties of orphans remain at the lowest level of development. With this they go out into life, which, meanwhile, requires a completely different approach to realizing oneself in society.
Part 1. How it was - the Makarenko system
When everything is there, except for the main thing
Today, orphanages grow up in conditions that are destructive for the child's psyche. As a rule, provided with the necessary material benefits for life, they also do not have the necessary conditions for the development of innate psychological properties.
Initially deprived of the feeling of security and safety that their parents could give them, orphanages do not receive it from the collective, learning only to survive in an archetypal flock, where relationships do not go beyond the framework of outright hostility. Without observing a different model of behavior, they consider such a life to be the norm.
Their team does not become a family for them, there is no experience of self-government, and hence the skill of making decisions and organizing their lives. There is no productive joint activity and, as a result, there is no responsibility and sense of self-importance for the group. Labor education is prohibited. Any work, up to cleaning the territory and watering flowers, can be regarded as the exploitation of child labor.
An adult example to follow is the biggest shortage in modern orphanages.
In such, to put it mildly, inadequate conditions, most of the psychological properties of orphans remain at the lowest level of development. With this they go out into life, which, meanwhile, requires a completely different approach to realizing oneself in society.
For example, the innate desire to extract in the skin vector remains at the level of the urge to steal instead of entrepreneurship. The property of the anal vector "all equally" is realized in the desire to take revenge on the whole world for all the grievances left in his psyche after the orphanage. In the visual vector, instead of the ability to create an emotional connection, empathy, compassion, love, victimization or mental callousness is often formed.
The formation of a layer of cultural restrictions, which is designed to regulate human behavior in society, occurs with great difficulty, if at all, since in the absence of a sense of security and safety, this is almost impossible to achieve.
Due to the complete lack of a competent approach to the formation of children's groups, pupils do not feel the cohesion of the team, do not feel part of the whole, do not understand their significance for achieving the goal by the whole team, which means they do not define their relations with the team, do not consider it necessary to comply with social or legal norms behavior. Its own uselessness for society does not cause any embarrassment or a sense of shame, as it was in Soviet times. Then it was shameful to be a poor student, to study badly, it was a shame not to work, to be a dependent, it was a shame not to serve in the army, and so on. Today the orphanage does not receive such attitudes at all.
Standardization and we
The influence of the cutaneous phase of development on the life and foundations of society, whose natural urethral attitudes are extremely far from cutaneous values, manifests itself in very deplorable results, including in the most unprotected layers of society. Unsuccessful attempts to introduce a standardized approach to upbringing in orphanages and legal regulation of the activities of the guardianship authorities are poured out by generations of children with a crippled psyche, completely incapable of independent living in society. Today we are witnessing the fiasco of this system in all its glory.
It is impossible to limit a person with an inner sense of his highest rank. You can only give an opportunity to feel his responsibility for the team: "If not you, then who?" He only understands such a language. Otherwise, instead of a natural altruist living in the interests of society, with non-standard thinking and unlimited possibilities, we get an extremely dangerous and unpredictable criminal authority. Such is the sad fate of the urethral child who has fallen into the conditions of the modern system.
The standards of psychological examination of inmates of orphanages, assessing the "normality" of a child without taking into account vector psychological properties, lead to many erroneous diagnoses that affect both upbringing, education, and the further fate of orphanages is extremely destructive.
New opportunities
A healthy society begins with caring for the weak, but what is caring? If a hungry man is given a fish, he will learn to ask well, but if a hungry man is taught to fish, he will feed himself.
It was on this principle that the Makarenko communes existed. They created a model of society, and children learned to exist in a team, build relationships, engage in productive activities in order to achieve common goals, make decisions and take responsibility for them.
Having knowledge of Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, it is easy to identify problem areas in the upbringing and education system of orphans. This knowledge makes it possible to understand the pros and cons of various methods of education and the formation of children's groups. In addition, this is an opportunity to assess their effectiveness in the context of different mentalities, which is especially important in the apparent failure of any Western methods used in Russian children's institutions.
Education in conditions of responsibility for the team is especially well suited to the basis of the urethral mentality. After all, only a Russian person, with adequate development, is able to live in the interests of society from internal motives, and not from fear of the law.
But the main thing is that system-vector psychology provides employees of child care institutions, teachers, foster parents, social workers with unique in their effectiveness tools for working with problem children. And for the graduates themselves - a chance for a normal life.
What to do?
In the conditions of children's institutions, only a system of collective security and safety, built under the supervision of adults, can replace parents for children. Only through a personal positive contribution to the common cause, children receive the sense of security and safety necessary for their development, learn to feel their importance, acquire the skill of realizing innate psychological properties and the ability to develop them to the highest level.
For example, young children learn the first important socialization skill when they are taught to share food with others. Thus, they learn to share the pleasure, the pleasant feeling that arises when satisfying the very first, basic human need - the desire for food. A simple action - but how much it gives a person in the future!
Older children may well participate in arranging a common table, because the process of eating together is a strong unifying factor for any team. The big mistake of modern childcare facilities is the complete isolation of children from the process of preparing and serving food. Yes, perhaps these are additional difficulties in observing the sanitary and hygienic standards of baby food, but no more than organizing a computer class or a swimming pool, which are so popular lately.
Older adolescents can easily take an active part in the production process that creates any product for which you can buy food, clothing, sports equipment, building materials or other goods necessary or desired by children. And it doesn't have to be physical labor in the form of ditch digging or garbage removal. It can be poetry, paintings, ceramics, wooden utensils, any handicraft, such as: knitted, embroidered things, handmade toys, bags, even garden furniture, baskets, flowerpots … Anything born of desire and supported by appropriate knowledge. The pupils of Makarenko worked at a full-fledged high-tech production for that time: they assembled cameras, which were then very popular.
In the modern world, many virtual professions allow even schoolchildren to earn good money by applying their knowledge and skills. Writing and testing programs, creating websites, working with design and content, promotion, advertising - the list is endless.
Of course, everything rests on the financial component of the education of orphanages. However, this is not such a big problem today. Charitable organizations, volunteer movements, sponsors and philanthropists are willing to invest their time and money, but, unfortunately, the points of application of their efforts are often wrong. Instead of a series of entertainment events or a bag of New Year's gifts, it would be more valuable for the younger ones to read classical literature or jointly stage a play based on classical works. For older children, a course in photography, tailoring and sewing, or collaborating on a short film would be a great option.
Today, many caring people are ready to help orphans find their place in society. Understanding with the help of system-vector psychology the principles by which a child develops without parents, one can make this help as effective as possible. It was not for nothing that in the post-war period the phrase “I am an orphanage” sounded proudly and meant a really developed, capable and realized strong person. This means that it is possible in our days.
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