Life in the pages of the novel. Why my relationship isn't working out
Can book dramas affect real life? After all, the most famous love stories usually have a sad end. For example, The Little Mermaid by Hans Christian Andersen, Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare. In what unknown way can the fates of literary heroes affect real life?
Books about lofty and unattainable feelings, piercing stories about fiery meetings, insoluble contradictions, partings give rise to a huge emotional outburst in your impressionable heart. When you read, you so want to be inside, to feel in the place of the main character in the full volume of all the feelings she experiences.
With all the power of your imagination, you immerse yourself in these stories, live them together with the heroes. And then, years later, it turns out that she became a hostage of the love novels she had read, turning her own personal life into an endless tragedy with a sad denouement.
Can book dramas affect real life? After all, the most famous love stories usually have a sad end. For example, The Little Mermaid by Hans Christian Andersen, Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare. In what unknown way can the fates of literary heroes affect real life?
Behind the seals of the unconscious
A girl lives for herself. Nice, kind, sociable and emotional. And everything seems to be nothing, only personal life does not add up. It seems that there are boyfriends, it seems that she herself falls in love periodically, not insensitive. But something goes wrong all the time. Tragedies, insoluble difficulties, insurmountable obstacles, partings. Personal female happiness slips away all the time. The dramas are played out one after the other. Some kind of evil fate.
Does she need a relationship? This question can be answered in the affirmative: "Of course yes!" But what is happening behind the screen of consciousness is a big question. Namely, it is necessary to answer it if real life is not very happy.
Our unconscious is arranged in a strange way. We do not see it and do not even seem to feel it. But it, like an unknown director, writes the script of our life and leads through it, pulling us by the strings of our feelings and desires, our words and actions. And until you unearth all the patterns that operate in you, their causes, all the events that follow from them in your life, until you understand everything through the prism of systemic comprehension, so you will live guided by unconscious desires, being content with a fictional image, instead of creating real relationships …
Beautiful, stormy, but not in reality …
As Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology says, every person from birth has an innate set of desires and properties that determine our life scenario. Groups of such properties are called vectors. And there are people among us who have a special emotionality and imaginative thinking, these are the owners of the visual vector.
The ability to distinguish a huge spectrum of halftones in the colors of the surrounding world, the ability to subtly feel the entire range of human feelings in the people around them is a special talent of a visual person. Everything connected with sensuality and emotionality gives such people a feeling of fullness of life. Strong feelings, love - this is the meaning of their existence.
Initially, being the most physically weak, sensitive and unprotected in society, such people felt the strongest fear of death, which did not allow them to live normally. The spectators learned to remove this emotional stress with a minus sign, creating an emotional connection with other people. The depth of these emotional connections grew - and this is how that magic feeling of complete penetration into the feelings of another person, the feeling of love, was born.
Feelings - a delicious dessert or a work of the soul?
It is not difficult to notice the pattern in the relationship you are creating; it is more difficult to understand it. Find the main thread on which all events are strung, building life according to a certain scenario, when you unconsciously reject the possibility of a real relationship, preferring those that will lead nowhere.
The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan explains: the victims of such a scenario of life are the dreamy spectators, who were once fond of reading novels, but who lingered in this period. It is not hard to guess what gives the viewer such a lifestyle. There is a flight of imagination, and the ability to dramatically experience the most intense intensity of emotions, and the inability to break your ideal against real life.
You need to understand that at the stage of development of visual sensibility, reading such books is a way to develop your innate qualities. But when in adulthood you create emotional connections only with the heroes of novels and films, you write dramas for yourself, live them and remain alone again - this is a reason to talk about the incorrect use of your properties.
Far from a person, it is much easier to finish drawing everything you want, to justify everything that does not fit. It is much more difficult to love a real person who is always there, facing all his shortcomings.
At the same time, living in one's own illusions, in the role of the constant heroine of one's own novel, does not bring real joy. Fantasies, no matter how bright they are, are children's toys that will never fill an adult. Remaining in them, the viewer will feel inner fears, anxiety, anxiety. He will experience the emotions he needs like air, only swinging himself from hysterical joy into hopeless melancholy. An unenviable fate for a person created by nature for true love …
It is also important to understand about the visual vector that any fear is just a small malfunction when our feelings are directed towards ourselves. Being afraid of falling in love with a real person - being afraid of a bad relationship scenario - are those visual phobias that are easy to get out of if you know how.
Love is…
What is love? A pleasant experience inside? Suffering from inseparability like in the movies? Or the blissful pleasure of intimacy with your beloved man?
The visual person really lives and realizes himself, only emotionally involved in the real life of other people, in the real closeness of feelings. Our sensitivity is created by nature for others. By creating a mutual connection on an emotional level, the visual person is able to enjoy life by giving his love to other people.
Realizing the reason for what is happening, you can stop being afraid to build real pair relationships and start, finally, to live and love for real.
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