Hello September 1st! What a smart child lacks in school
Even if a child at home school receives an excellent development of his intellectual abilities, parents should think about whether only knowledge, skills and abilities are the components of happiness in life? After all, if you think about it, you can clearly see that happiness consists of relationships with other people - with a loved one, with relatives and friends, with colleagues and just acquaintances.
Ahead is September 1 - the long-awaited Day of Knowledge, the beginning of a new academic year, another year of amazing discoveries, another step into adulthood!
Why then to the energetic question of adults: "Well, did you miss school?" - often children avert their eyes to the side and make a sad face? Maybe they are Losers and just don't want to study?
Too smart for school
The trouble is that there are many gifted and developed children among the children who do not like school. These children consider the time spent in school wasted. They feel smarter than other kids in their class. What the class learns in the lesson, these guys have known for a long time, they do not need to repeat the same thing ten times - they learn new information the first time. Their real life and development begins after school lessons - circles, sports clubs, classes in English, music, programming and much, much more that is not taught in a modern school. And often a paradoxical situation occurs when a gifted child is underutilized and openly bored at school and overloaded with additional activities outside of school.
As a rule, these are children with a sound vector or a sound-visual bundle of vectors. Their ability to learn is really higher than that of most people. The standard school curriculum is too easy for them, so parents often have to rack their brains when such a child once again asks the question:
“Why do I need school? I already know all this or I can learn it myself. "
Advanced parents, seeing the "suffering" of lovely children and taking care of their full-fledged intellectual development, take such children out of school to transfer them to home schooling. Fortunately, the Internet is now replete with training programs and courses on any topic.
But at home, new difficulties often arise - without good organization on the part of the parents, home schooling turns into home idleness, namely, round-the-clock sitting at the computer with a break for circles and sections, interest in which is weakening, as the computer draws in more and more.
But even if this is not the case, and the child is homeschooled with an excellent development of his intellectual abilities, parents should think about whether only knowledge, skills and abilities are the components of happiness in life? After all, if you think about it, you can clearly see that happiness consists of relationships with other people - with a loved one, with relatives and friends, with colleagues and just acquaintances.
They bother me
To deprive the sonic child of screaming, running, not very smart, from his point of view, classmates is exactly what he consciously wants. Previously, the surrounding peers were not very happy with him in terms of communication, but now they seem completely unnecessary. From childhood, feeling his intellectual superiority, a sound-visual child can show arrogance towards classmates, and they, in turn, also do not remain in debt. The desire for communication disappears, and along with this, the already fragile ability to build relationships is lost.
The child closes in his world. Egocentrism in the sound vector separates him from the surrounding world, creating the illusion of his own genius. Parents often do not understand that if this shell of egocentrism is not broken before the end of puberty, then in the future they will have to face more difficult problems than simply unwillingness to go to school - depression, computer addiction, unwillingness and inability to interact with other people.
Therefore, whatever your decision about learning, you need to make every effort to arouse in the child the desire to communicate and interest in other people. How to do this is explained in detail at the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan.
Why is she yelling? Because she feels bad
Every behavior has its own reasons, and if you understand them, then there is no room for hostility. When building a trusting relationship with a child, you need to explain to him the reasons for the actions of other people, show the differences between some people from others, and evoke sympathy and empathy.
For example, like here:
- Do you feel bad at school because it seems to you that the teacher is yelling all the time? Why do you think she yells?
- Because the children don't obey? And she doesn't know what to do, how to calm the class down, does she? It turns out that she feels bad. People often scream when they feel bad.
- You can feel sorry for her or somehow help her to make her feel good.
Sound people like to think and think about the reasons they will be interested. And very helpful. Moreover, if you can systematically tell them the exact answers about the reasons for people's behavior.
To understand - to help …
The sonic child himself needs to create conditions for the sound ecology of the house so that there are no loud screams and noise, it is desirable that from childhood he learns to listen to the sounds of classical music. This will train his brain to focus on the outside, on the world around him, and not concentrate on himself. And of course, the surest way for any child to do well is to keep them feeling safe and secure.
With all the outstanding abilities of a child with a sound vector, one should not demand excellent marks from him in all subjects. Sound specialists usually show some kind of selectivity of interests: they give themselves to something with all their passion, and something simply cannot be forced to teach.
Go to the teacher and ask to give your child additional assignments in the classroom so that he does not create the illusion of his own genius. Do not try to "discourage" him from school events - sports days, concerts, competitions. Perhaps your sound engineer will not like watching the tuning and songs, but who better than him will defend the honor of the class at the competition of scientific projects and Olympiads?
It is important that the child understands that he is not “a boy in himself”, but a part of something larger - a class, a city, a country. That his achievements and merits do not belong only to him, that by realizing his abilities, he serves the Motherland, the happiness and health of other people.
These thoughts may seem somewhat utopian. But this is the only way to grow a genius into a mentally healthy person. Otherwise, the life of a sound child or adolescent is under a serious, not always perceived threat of depression and suicide. There are many sad examples.
It is very important to understand your child. Then you will know how to direct him without violating his independence and not contradicting his natural desires, helping to develop the best that is in him.
Does your child want to go to school? If not, do you know why?