When passion kills. The beauty and ugliness of pair relationships on the example of the film by Roman Polanski "Bitter Moon"
The film Bitter Moon by Roman Polanski takes place in the early 90s in Paris. The novel of the same name by Pascal Brueckner, based on which the film was filmed, was written back in the 70s. But in both cases, the Western world was already living with might and main by the values of the era, which Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology defines as the skin phase of human development …
They were crazy about each other. They could not live a minute apart, but it didn't just end - everything depreciated, turning into its dark side. "Remember that carousel?" - she says to him, lying motionless in a cast after a recent injury, hinting at a merry-go-round in the park, where happy and in love, they so touchingly and tenderly pulled each other's hands, and for the first time he uttered three cherished words … And now she holds out her hand to him for goodbye, but in order to give her his own, he must get up, and in his case it is unsafe … Just a little bit and … Here he is, helpless, lying on the floor, and the one that once loved him so much that she is ready she was on any humiliation, just to be near, smiles smugly, not hiding her triumph. Further - a new operation, a new rehabilitation period and … Again she:
- I have two news for you … First - you are forever paralyzed below the waist.
- Okay, what's good?
- It was just good. And the bad thing is that now I'll take care of you!
A glimpse from paradise turned into emptiness
The film Bitter Moon by Roman Polanski takes place in the early 90s in Paris. The novel of the same name by Pascal Brueckner, based on which the film was filmed, was written back in the 70s. But in both cases, the Western world was already living with might and main by the values of the era, which Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology defines as the skin phase of human development. More and more people are abandoning long-term marriage unions with a common life, mutual obligations and the birth of children in favor of a single life and short, non-binding sexual relationships.
American Oscar is no exception. He is soon 40, and thanks to the unexpected wealth that has fallen on him, it seems that finally there is an opportunity to fulfill his old dream - to become a writer. Inspired by the example of Hemingway and other famous writers of the past, Oscar moved to Paris, but his success in the literary field, frankly, nothing.
According to the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, literary talent is one of the manifestations of the sound vector. Before returning to our heroes, let us explain - the human psyche can include from one to eight vectors. A modern city dweller, as a rule, has three to five.
Oscar has the sound vector he needs for writing, but that's not enough. In a developed state, the sound engineer perceives all of humanity as a single spiritual whole, but this cannot be said about Oscar. His sound (sound vector) is too egocentric, too fixated on himself and his own states to talentedly and reliably describe the fate and experiences of other people. In addition, he lacks the perseverance and perseverance inherent in people with an anal vector, and he prefers parties and short-term love affairs to daily work.
Here his cutaneous vector makes itself felt - one of the four so-called lower vectors (along with the urethral, anal and muscular), responsible for libido. Cutaneous libido is not the strongest, but ironically, it is the cutaneous men who most often have the fame of noteworthy ladies' men. By nature, such people are not dominant, but they strive to compensate for this through career achievements, they love to compete and win - they are extremely ambitious. If the career has not worked out, then the only way of self-realization remains the pursuit of sexual diversity - unthinkable postures, sophisticated techniques and, of course, there can be no question of any loyalty to a single partner.
In addition, this is a mass of impressions and new emotions that saturate the visual vector of our hero, through which he tries to draw inspiration for literary plots.
However, the real meeting with fate awaited Oscar not at a noisy party, but in the early morning on a Paris bus. Having met for a few minutes, the future passionate lovers, who had mutilated each other, immediately parted. But, having shown extraordinary stubbornness, Oscar still found Mimi in a huge city.
"Fate gave me a glance from paradise … She was the very freshness and innocence, an incomprehensible fusion of sexual maturity with childish innocence that struck my tired heart, destroyed the age difference …"
Mimi is in her early twenties. She works as a waitress and dances in her free time. It would seem that with her natural set of properties, a girl is simply doomed to happiness in love …
So, the cutaneous-visual ligament of vectors gives its owner sexual liberation and a gentle, sensitive heart, capable of empathy and establishing close emotional intimacy with a partner. At the same time, the anal vector endows her with constancy in feelings and affections, the desire to create a traditional family and live happily ever after. It is this quality of her, trampled upon and unappreciated, that subsequently turns into its dark side - vindictiveness and cruelty. A person with an anal vector never forgets anything … He can live for years with a hated partner, receive dark pleasure, humiliating and mocking, but he would rather die than break this union, which is painful for both. So in the end it happened, but for now …
Oscar and Mimi are in love and serenely happy. They do not leave the apartment day and night, making love.
Yet, sometimes going outside, they walk in the park, holding hands like teenagers, kissing on the benches near Notre Dame Cathedral, spinning on merry-go-rounds - and it seems that there are no happier people in the whole world. This is the very blissful period when people are literally crazy about each other. Under the influence of pheromones, the partner seems ideal, we do not see any negative features in him. It seems that it will always be so, but the period of biological attraction is finite - it lasts a maximum of three years, and if during this time people have not been able to get closer on an emotional and spiritual level, the relationship is doomed to failure. Usually a woman sets the emotional tone in a relationship, and Mimi tries to build an emotional connection with Oscar by reading his manuscripts, asking about the people he writes about, but these questions only annoy him. “I love you and I love everything you do!”- says the girl enthusiastically, looking up from the next manuscript. But from the standpoint of an egocentric sound, her judgments seem primitive to Oscar, and his visual vector is too poorly developed to seek close emotional contact.
“Mimi's face still held a thousand mysteries, and her body a thousand sweet promises. But in the depths of my soul, an unclear fear was accumulating that our relationship had already crossed the top and will now roll steadily down.”
And so it happened. When all the sexual experiments imaginable were tried, it became clear that these two are completely strangers to each other. According to Oscar, you need to part at the peak of passion so as not to spoil the beautiful romantic story with ugly scenes. Nevertheless, openly tell Mimi that he no longer loves her, he lacks determination, and he does everything so that the girl herself breaks up with him. First coldness, then ridicule and disdain, and then, finally, long-held irritation spills out into outright aggression.
Realizing that her beloved is no longer needed, Mimi still leaves, but not for long …
Patience and work … will not return happiness
Having got rid of the annoying lover, Oscar plunges headlong into the abyss of entertainment, but everything turned out to be not as simple as he thought. For a person with a visual vector, the rupture of the emotional connection, albeit not fully built, unilaterally, is a huge stress, under the influence of which visual love slides into its opposite - fear. Well, for the owner of the anal vector, the termination of any, even hopelessly exhausted relationship is an irreparable tragedy, and all this together led Mimi to a cruel and destructive love addiction. She does not want to leave her former lover alone. Every now and then she calls him, saying that she is scared, watches him on the landing, and, in the end, Oscar surrenders …
“Give me one last chance. I am ready to live with you on any conditions, on any! I'm ready to endure anything just to be with you. You can shout at me. You can beat. You can sleep with other women. I don't care, just ask you … Don't drive me away! Even if you don't love me anymore, leave me here out of pity …"
Seeing that “to part in a civilized manner” will not work, Oscar turns the life of his former lover into hell. Not having in his vector set the anal vector, prone to sadism in bad conditions, he does not get pleasure in humiliating Mimi. His only goal is for her to go home of her own free will and not interfere with his life as he wants. He deliberately calls her by other people's names in bed, brings home other women, in front of whom he constantly makes Mimi a laughing stock, but it is not so easy to break anal stubbornness! She changes her hairstyle to become more "cozy" and home, tries to learn how to cook his favorite dishes, but all this causes Oscar only a new wave of hostility.
And even after the abortion, which Oscar forces her to do and which, as it turned out later, became the cause of infertility, Mimi still believes that they can be happy together!
Seeing that other methods are powerless, Oscar promises Mimi a romantic trip, but a few minutes before departure, he literally escapes from the plane, leaving her alone.
The circle is complete
“I didn't leave Mimi for just one woman. I exchanged her for the entire female half of the world and decided to make up for lost time. I was lying in female flesh, like a pig in a puddle, jumping from one bed to another, hastily grabbing everything that was given into my hands. Each day promised a new short-term sexual experience, the shorter the better. Every time I looked into the eyes of another woman, I saw the reflection of the next one in them."
So two years passed, during which Oscar finally said goodbye to writing ambitions, although before literary failures tormented him terribly, and like any unrealized sound engineer, he even thought about suicide.
One day, being tipsy, he gets hit by a car. Fortunately, the injury turns out to be quite mild, no vital organs are affected, and very soon he can return to such a beloved nightlife, but then - she appears! As beautiful as on the first day of their meeting, but the former childish naivety in the eyes is no longer in sight. All patience comes to an end, and now her love turned into hatred. Through her fault, Oscar suffers another injury, this time much more serious. There is nothing worse for a man than the impossibility of intimacy with a woman, and it was this fate that befell him!
And what about Mimi? Having lost the ability to have children and forever becoming a hostage of a difficult love experience, she will never be the same. All that remains for her is fleeting romances and, of course, revenge!
Forever confined to a wheelchair, Oscar is now much more dependent on her than she once was on him. Unlike Oscar, for whom ridicule and bullying were just a way to break off a boring relationship, Mimi, as the owner of the anal vector, gets real pleasure by torturing him. She gives him injections with a dirty needle, feeds him tasteless food, bathes in cold water, leaves him alone for the whole night, but this is not enough for her.
On his birthday, she gives him a gun with an unambiguous hint. She brings home her new boyfriend and makes love to him almost in front of Oscar … It seemed that this should have finished off the unfortunate disabled person, but … oddly enough, this episode fills their relationship with new meaning.
Not having taken place as a writer, Oscar becomes the director … of his wife's love affairs! Yes, yes, soon after that, they officially became spouses!
Since then, wherever they appear together, Mimi has shown herself as a skin-visual woman in a state of war. In ancient times, when the primitive army went to war, such a woman invariably walked alongside, giving her pheromones to everyone in a row, arousing in men the readiness for copulation, and therefore for murder.
So Mimi teases with her beauty everyone who meets on the way, choosing from them the next victim. And her husband helps her with this!
Sensible calculation versus carnal passions
Unlike Oscar and Mimi, who were brought together by passion, the Englishmen Nigel and Fiona, who lived for seven years in marriage, clearly connected their fates on the basis of mutual benefit and comfort. People with completely identical lower vectors (and in their case it is the skin) will never feel crazy attraction to each other, but such a rational union can be quite strong and long-lasting.
He is a skin sound specialist. In certain conditions, such people do not have carnal desires at all, they make hermit monks, leaders of religious sects preaching abstinence, lonely philosophers.
She is skin-visual in a state of peace. From ancient times to the present day, such women hide their pheromones from those around them and, without having their own children, create emotional ties with strangers, playing the role of teachers and educators in society. So, Fiona in a matter of seconds made friends with a little Indian girl Amrita, although she does not have children of her own, and she does not seem to suffer much from this.
Interchange
The meeting of two married couples takes place on a ship cruising in the Mediterranean. To bring novelty to their measured union, Nigel and Fiona go to India, and Oscar and Mimi are just thirsty for adventure …
The couple choose Nigel as the next victim. Oscar lures him into his cabin and regales him with revelations about his relationship with his wife, without hiding the most intimate details. In the end, they get their way - Nigel falls in love with Mimi, but she unexpectedly refuses him, entering into a love affair … with his wife!
On this, Oscar, whose sound lack has not gone anywhere and all this time continued to grow, decided to put an end to it and did not find anything better how to shoot Mimi, and then himself from her own pistol.
Shocked Nigel and Fiona, in whose eyes a double murder is taking place, receive a strong emotional shake-up, and this brings the spouses closer, but for how long?
There is an exit
“So what? - the reader will exclaim, - and a passionate romance, and an even, calm relationship - everything is equally doomed to failure, and there is no hope? Is it worth trying to pair at all then?"
On the contrary, only in strong and long-term paired relationships can a person fully realize himself, reveal all his talents and abilities.
The future belongs to alliances based on close emotional connection, intellectual and spiritual kinship. It is such a union that makes people truly close, and sexual relations, even after many years, do not cease to sparkle with new colors. Training in systemic vector psychology will help you to really get to know yourself and your loved one. Get started with free online lectures.
