The man is on the couch and the woman is on the broom. Secrets of Marital Bedrooms
In Russia they say: about a woman "gives", and a man "takes" a woman. Although physiologically, it is the man who gives his ejaculate, and the woman takes it. And the failure to deliver this very ejaculate is very fraught with consequences …
More than one decade has passed since we learned that there is no sex in the Soviet Union, and the discussion in every way is only gaining momentum. Now the epicenter of verbal battles has moved to the Internet.
In principle, there are not so many topics for discussion. Men complain that women have headaches at the wrong time, women complain that these men only need one thing. Added here, however, complaints about male failure - like "it is not clear what he was counting on when he asked", or - "he has not needed anything for a long time." Such is the cry of a woman's soul.
The ability to give sexual pleasure to a woman was not included in the gentleman's set of the Russian "hussar" until recently. On the contrary: the woman should have been glad that she was honored with his attention, no matter what kind of gallant suitor.
In Russia, this state of affairs can be attributed to the socio-gender situation that developed after the war, when women were happy with any man. Only several generations have already changed, and in their heads it has stuck - "we must hold on to the peasant." And the book counters are packed with manuals "How to find a husband", "How to turn a millionaire".
Interestingly, there are no similar publications for men. “Even on Google, following the link“How to persuade a woman to marry”, out of the first ten pages issued, two were devoted to the actual topic, the rest were variations on the theme“How to persuade (convince, force) a man to marry”.
In Russia they say: about a woman "gives", and a man "takes" a woman. Although physiologically, it is the man who gives his ejaculate, and the woman takes it. And the failure of this very ejaculate is very fraught with consequences. From spermatoxicosis, the brain begins to think poorly, and attention is concentrated on only one thing. An unsatisfied woman cannot be called an angel either.
The situation is similar not only in Russia. Sexologists say that in other countries the situation is no better.
WHAT HAPPENS IN THE SPOUSE BEDROOM?
Let's start with the most married husbands - the owners of the anal vector. By the way, it is the anal sexes - the same men on the sofas, who lay there during the perestroika period, offended by everyone and everything. Their libido is, of course, powerful, always ready. But whether the wife will get pleasure, relaxation or orgasm is still a very big question.
Analniks are traditionalists in everything, including sex. Missionary position, foreplay - what are you talking about? Change position - what kind of debauchery? We, like grandfathers-great-grandfathers, lived, they multiplied, and we will be so.
And a woman cries at a sex therapist:
“Intimate life with my husband doesn't go well at all. As soon as they got married, there was still some attraction, but there was no question of pleasure in intimacy, let alone orgasm. I thought: it will come with time - where there, it did not come. The friends said - you will give birth and you will feel, but nothing has changed.
The husband seems to be normal. But we go to bed - and at least run away. There was an affair, the man really liked, the feelings raged, but the pleasure from which it blows away, the heart freezes - no, there was not. No joy from sex. But I feel such dissatisfaction, I understand: there is nothing very important in my life."
There are more and more such complaints. But not because women were previously satisfied with everything and experienced true pleasure in their intimate life. And because today few women put up with life without joys - sexual, including.
The natural partner of the anal husband is a woman with a skin vector. It is for her that foreplay is very important, her erogenous zone is the skin.
HOSTAGE OF TRADITION
A woman's sexuality does not wake up immediately. Even those women who get real pleasure from sexual intimacy admit that this ability did not come to them immediately. Women usually have several years of intimate life before this. Men, on the other hand, experience sensual pleasure immediately, as a rule, after the first sexual contact.
It's a shame, however! Especially because the fair sex is still capable of experiencing real pleasure from sex.
If the maximum duration of a male orgasm does not exceed 2.5 seconds, then in women, orgasm can last up to 12 seconds. It is not uncommon for her to have several orgasms following each other. But that's not even the point: female discharge in depth and brightness is 5-6 times higher than male discharge.
This is a physiological given: muscles in women during orgasm contract more and more of them are involved. In women, blood flow to the pelvic organs increases threefold, in men only one and a half times; accordingly, ventilation of the lungs at six (F) and two (M), by the way, is why women scream on the bed of love (which is what men are so happy about), and the electrical activity of the brain of men and women during orgasm also correlates in the same proportion.
Male sensuality is very narrowly concentrated around the penis. At least, even in the complete absence of any additional stimulation, any man is guaranteed an orgasm. Women feel with their whole body - from ears to toes. In the sense of sexual sensibility, the concept of "genitals" makes sense only in relation to men, while in women the genital organ is the entire female body.
Some women are gifted with this "ability" - sensual pleasure and even an orgasm they can experience from kisses on the neck, ears, chest, back, this is almost a third of female orgasms. This applies to women with a cutaneous vector.
And for women with an anal vector, it is anal sex that can deliver real pleasure and orgasmic discharge. But their natural bashfulness and conservatism often make it difficult to do this.
WILL BE CARRIED OUT?
So, the fair sex is potentially capable of pleasure in intimate life much more than men, in reality, women are largely sexually unsatisfied. Why, what's the matter? Why women fail to realize themselves in the sensual sphere?
Who are these women - dissatisfied, “not held in an intimate life”?
Sexologists divide them into two groups. The first is women who experience attraction, but do not receive pleasure and do not achieve orgasm in intercourse with the best partner. The second is those who are capable of pleasure and relaxation, but sex is not enough for them.
The problems of the first (and this is about a quarter of mature women) are not in hormonal or any other physiological disorders - they are in the head. For such women, the main obstacle is usually a feeling of shame for their own sensuality, which are often not realized and were formed in childhood under the influence of parental prohibitions and even punishment. Caught up by their parents for erotic play or masturbation, they were severely punished, if not physically, then verbally.
The girls were taught that any touch of the genitals is sinful by definition. This is especially true for girls with visual and anal vectors. Fear is formed in sight, and shame is formed in anality.
Masturbation is an essential part of preparation for sensual pleasure in adulthood. This is how we prepare ourselves for our sex life. If a girl is scolded for masturbation, her attraction is not suppressed, but the ability to enjoy is blocked.
Girls with the greatest sexual temperament, pronounced sexuality - urethral and anal-skin-visual ones - are subjected to the greatest pressure. The former have a powerful libido and no brakes; the latter combine powerful natural desires with the ability to seduce anyone.
Another situation is twice more common when mature women simply do not have enough sex - neither in quantity nor in quality.
Women with an anal vector have a very impressive libido that requires satisfaction. For women with a cutaneous vector, the problem of monotony comes to the fore, because they cannot stand monotony, they need new sensations and oral stimulation is required.
Marital sex necessarily reflects all everyday difficulties, something that, in principle, has nothing to do with intimate life. Conflicts, quarrels, quarrels accompanying the life of people together, even those who love each other very much … All this inhibits sensuality, both male and female, but the vulnerability of women is much higher, and therefore all circumstances affect them much more strongly.
It must be remembered that for dermal men, sex, even with the most beloved permanent partner, is not optimal, they need a feeling of conquest, achievement, victory. Their natural friends, anal wives, inevitably suffer in this situation.
Sexual female disorder is not just poor health, but also persistent metamorphoses of character and personality that are not for the best, which ultimately affect everyone around.
WHAT TO DO?
First of all, to identify the mental traumas of childhood that hinder the perception of sex as a significant and noteworthy part of life.
Secondly, to understand that an intimate life can and should bring joy, and not break it for the sake of ridiculous stereotypes once imposed.
And most importantly, to realize your personal sexual characteristics, lacks and find out the ways to fulfill them. You can learn more about female and male sexuality in the introductory free lectures on the skin and anal vector.
