Bad influence of whiners. Is everything as bad as they paint us?
In order not to succumb to the influence of people with shortages, it is important to clearly understand that “flies are separate, cutlets are separate”: each person feels reality through the prism of his vectors and states. If he is underrealized, then the world seems bad to him. But once the desire is fulfilled, life “suddenly” becomes different, bringing joy and the desire to live.
There are people who are dissatisfied with everything and always. Even when everything is fine, they will find a reason to complain about life:
- I didn't get enough sleep, I want to sleep …
- Too lazy to work!
- Where to get money?
- I want to go to the sea, lie in the sun and swim.
- Weather - phew! - sometimes hot, sometimes cold …
And thousands of thousands of other claims. On the one hand, it seems that their disgruntled mines do not really touch them. On the other hand, you can track the bad influence of whiners on your own attitude.
As if out of nowhere thoughts begin to come to mind that living undeservedly is difficult, pleasure is unfairly little … How not to fall under the influence of those who constantly complain about life? And on whose side is the truth?
Voltage drop
The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan describes the human psyche using eight vectors. A modern urban person, as a rule, possesses a set of several vectors. This is neither good nor bad, it is just a fact. There is a difference between the realized state of the vectors and, on the contrary, the unrealized state. When we do not satisfy our vector desires, we experience psychological stress. And we broadcast it outside.
So, an unrealized person with an anal vector is inclined to take offense. At the same time, his analytical thinking, the ability to systematize, given by nature for a completely different, cause his tendency to generalize his first bad experience, to project it on everyone. Once a cyclist sprayed mud on his clean suit, and since that time, all cyclists in his eyes are only blameworthy. That is, in such a person in absentia, all people united by one sign indirectly related to his bad experience will cause an outburst of negativity. And here it is not known who will get it - fool women or cyclists, because "He knows these!.."
A person with an anal vector values the past more than the present. Therefore, he is inclined to sigh heavily and complain that it was better before: the water is wetter and the tomatoes are tastier. In a dissatisfied state, he tends to feel the world as degrading. He imagines that everything is “heading” towards its complete, shameful collapse. Not realizing in a constructive manner his vector desire to look for a fly in the ointment in a barrel of honey, he can swear at the state system and people around him.
Irritation and anger are transmitted by people with an unrealized skin vector. If the day of the skin person is not set, it will seem to him that everyone around is slowing down, getting confused under his feet, not allowing him to achieve his goal. Wasting his time, money, nerves and other quickly depleted resources is a failure.
A leather worker who has not realized his potential will speak out the attacks of envy that overwhelm him, complain about problems with money, how few of them and how quickly they disappear. It will broadcast the desire to get everything "for free" and limit everyone around in consumption, from "put it down for tomorrow" to "no and no!" for any reason.
If a person with a visual vector does not receive sufficient realization of his emotional potential, then he may break into hysteria and even emotional blackmail, suddenly burst into tears or experience an attack of panic. He will tend to dramatize any event, make an elephant out of a fly, complain about how scary life is and, of course, about his health and / or his appearance. Anyone who catches his eye will hear that, due to poor sleep, there are again bruises under the eyes, that nightmares have terrible nightmares, and wandering pains in the body are also disturbing - here and there - and in general, there is a suspicion of what something terrible! This is how the desire to experience emotions and shake others around them, to get a portion of attention and sympathy is manifested.
People with a sound vector in an unrealized state experience very severe psychological conditions. The lack of a sound vector is felt by hatred of life in general and people in particular. Sound specialists in this state limit contacts to the point of complete loneliness.
The soundman is often disappointed in people, in the fact that no one understands his desires and thoughts, so he tries to keep his troubles to himself. However, if you manage to bring him into a sincere conversation, then you can hear bitter philosophical reflections that people are primitive animals, life is long and empty, there is no sense in anything, and he is tormented by the fact that he is forced to get up from day to day. bed and participate in all this farce.
The soul is wide open. Unhappy together
Another psychological feature, due to which people easily throw out negativity, is of a mental nature. Russian people with a urethral mentality are open-minded. The peculiarity of the collectivist worldview is that we do not keep our distance at all.
If the cats scratch their hearts, we will not keep them in ourselves, let's say publicly. And if a good thing happens, we'll dance even a stranger on the street. This makes us unique people: simple, open-minded, sincere. "Walk like that, shoot like that shoot …"
We also generously share our state of unfulfillment with others without a twinge of conscience. As a result, without malicious intent, we commit a crime - we drag people into bad conditions.
But it could be exactly the opposite. Russian people have always been distinguished by their willingness to help in difficult times. Realizing how important it is to bring our good fortunes into society, we would strive to share only constructive thoughts and inspiring ideas in order to maintain a welcoming atmosphere. For every person, she would become a base that would support him in moments of depression and despondency associated with life's difficulties.
How to distinguish the objective from the subjective? We think systematically
In order not to succumb to the influence of people with shortages, it is important to clearly understand that “flies are separate, cutlets are separate”: each person feels reality through the prism of his vectors and states. If he is underrealized, then the world seems bad to him. But once the desire is fulfilled, life “suddenly” becomes different, bringing joy and the desire to live.
Another thing is that it is important not to “slap your ears” a problem to which you need to promptly respond in word and deed. And for this it is important to clearly hear and understand what is at stake: about the subjective feeling of a person or about the present difficult state of affairs.
As mentioned above, for example, people with an unrealized anal vector can scold everything that comes their way. Bad government, bad men and women, bad children, bad work, bad health, bad life … Although in fact their life is quite ordinary, and there are worse cases. You need to be careful around such a person. Taking everything personally, if you get criticism, is completely optional.
But if, at the moment of a sincere conversation, a person with a sound vector complained to you that life is empty and meaningless, then you should pay attention to this alarming symptom and take a closer look, whether suicidal thoughts are wandering in this person's head …
It is also important to remember about personal responsibility for the choice of the environment. If people around by their interests, preferences, outlook on the world pull down into the abyss of hopelessness, you can make your choice in favor of another life.
The quality of life depends on the psychological state
A happy person is happy in traffic jams, and with a cold, and in a crowd, and alone. And the unfortunate person will scold everyone and everything, regardless of the situation.
The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan reveals the reasons for human behavior, disarms everyone who, through ignorance or with malicious intent, could cause damage, and helps to align negative states, return the joy of life. Here's what those who completed this training write:
Disclosure of the unconscious at the training "System-Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan is a way to see the world from eight different points of view, get your own unique results and never succumb to bad influence.
