Relationships are there, pleasure is not. How to reveal sexuality
The modern world instills the value of individualism and self-love: if a partner does not satisfy us, he can easily be changed. Sexual permissiveness is no longer limited by shame or social boundaries. A rational perception of paired relationships arises, and sexuality reaches the level of direct consumption “you are for me - I am for you” …
How to reveal your sexuality and fill your life with vivid experiences of moments of intimacy? Everything depends on the answer to this question in the literal sense. Training System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan clearly shows the relationship: we are able to truly feel the taste for life only when implemented in a couple, including full-fledged sexual relations.
But achieving this realization is not easy. False attitudes, internal anchors and clamps, an elementary ignorance of the psychological foundations - by what principle are built relationships between a man and a woman. Let's figure it out systematically.
It's not about quantity
The modern world instills the value of individualism and self-love: if a partner does not satisfy us, he can easily be changed. Sexual permissiveness is no longer limited by shame or social boundaries. A rational perception of paired relationships arises, and sexuality reaches the level of direct consumption "you are for me - I am for you."
Even if we ourselves do not do this, it still affects us indirectly - through advertising, mass culture, conversations with others, and so on. We cease to sensually feel the main thing: truly deep intimate ties are created in the conditions of a long and trusting relationship with the same person.
That is, the sexual potential is fully revealed only in a stable monogamous couple. And the change of partners forces us to start this process all over again each time, complicating the development of relations with the burden of previous bad experiences.
There is a relationship, but where is pleasure?.
It so happens that the couple took place, but the intimate life still leaves much to be desired. Feelings have cooled down over time, it is not possible to relax in bed, I want to increase the degree of experiences. The key to solving such problems is the emotional connection that we build with our significant other.
An emotional connection in a couple helps a woman to completely trust her man: first, the psyche relaxes, and only after it the body, and the female orgasm becomes a natural continuation of intimacy, and not the result of some complex sexual techniques.
For a man, an emotional connection is a guarantee of an inexhaustible desire for his woman, something that fills him and inspires him in other areas of life. Male sexual desire develops from "I want the one with which I can" to "I want the one that I love." When a man has tried the maximum pleasure - sex with love, he will never agree to less, thoughts of cheating will not even arise.
More than just sex
The anticipation of a meeting and the joy of anticipation, the pleasure of the aftertaste when you are overwhelmed with tenderness … Sex in a relationship is what is before and after.
A man flies home as if on wings, if she is waiting there - a woman who has created an emotional connection with him. The atmosphere in the couple depends on the woman, it is the woman who takes the first step towards creating a sensual connection with a partner, an intimate space that will belong only to the two of them.
Often there is a need for love, but a woman does not know how to surrender to her feelings, which means - to carry a man along with her. Such women expect that the partner himself will evoke feelings in them, will give emotional fulfillment to the relationship.
However, a man only responds to a woman's request. This is his psyche: a man wants to give a woman what she wants. Yuri Burlan talks in detail about how to build relationships and gradually form an emotional connection at the training.
Cry or laugh?
Harmonious relationships may not develop due to psychological anchors, false attitudes and stereotypes that were formed in our childhood or were imposed by society. They are repressed deeply into the unconscious and do not allow to enjoy intimacy even with the mutual desire of partners.
Sometimes any manifestation of sensuality - and potentially a pair relationship - is blocked by a subconscious prohibition on tears: for example, we were taught that this is a sign of weakness, but we need to show strength.
A “strong” woman is limited in her ability to create an emotional connection in a couple, as long as there is this psychological clamp inside her. If "men don't cry", they also miss the chance for a happy relationship - a modern woman does not need an insensitive dork, but someone who is able to respond to her love.
In contrast to tears, laughter is not considered something shameful, because it is a simple way to relieve tension and … lose the fullness of sensory feelings. There are very popular videos on the Internet where someone got into an awkward situation (fell, hit, disgraced himself) - it seems ridiculous, arouses gloating in us. But the funnier we are, when the other is bad, the less potential for love in us - manifestations of malevolence steal "fuel" from deep, sincere feelings.
How it works becomes clear during the training - we have the opportunity to stop the depreciation of sensuality and get more mutual joy from pair relationships.
And yet something is interfering
So, it is difficult for a woman to open up because of the perception of the "sinfulness" of sexual relations, the feeling of being dirty, wrong. This is a false shame of sexuality that accompanies a woman where it should not be - in bed with her beloved man.
The use of a mat is directly damaging to relationships. Profanity makes what was supposed to be an incredible pleasure - sexual intimacy, insipid and disgusting. After all, an obscene word always has a sexual connotation. We swear, threaten, punish, express hostility - "leaving" our sexual pleasure in the same ranks.
Women's sexuality suffers from mate directly - there is tightness, coldness, indifference to sex. A man ceases to feel the value of a woman for himself, loses the ability to take place in a relationship. The partners develop an unaccountable dislike after intimacy. And they start to quarrel - literally from scratch, gradually destroying their relationship.
What exactly to do to love and be loved
Knowledge about the nature of female sexuality is necessary not only for women, but also for men, because pair relations, sexual relations are always a connection between two people. At the training, Yuri Burlan shows in great detail and delicately the cause-and-effect relationships of the formation of sexuality, the laws of attraction and building relationships.
This is a concentrated information about all aspects and possible problems of sexuality, as well as practical advice on how to apply the knowledge gained in practice, on your own experience.
The awareness of these concepts, multiplied by the systemic thinking that arises as a result of understanding the psyche, allows us to finally untie the Gordian knot of problems that prevent us from receiving inexhaustible pleasure from intimacy and from life in general.
Try this knowledge to taste, register for the next cycle of free online lectures.