“You never dreamed of” - all the facets of love in a touching story of youth and hopes. Part 1. Parents
In 1981, Soviet television viewers first saw the feature film You Never Dreamed of, directed by Ilya Fraz based on the story by Galina Shcherbakova. For four decades now, the touching love story of high school students Roma and Katya (in the literary original, the girl's name is Julia, by analogy with Shakespeare's Juliet) continues to excite the audience's hearts.
“All lovers have suffered at all times.
This is a good tradition for Lord God!"
In 1981, Soviet television viewers first saw the feature film You Never Dreamed of, directed by Ilya Fraz based on the story by Galina Shcherbakova. For four decades now, the touching love story of high school students Roma and Katya (in the literary original, the girl's name is Julia, by analogy with Shakespeare's Juliet) continues to excite the audience's hearts.
The system viewer is fascinated by the deep emotional connection between the young heroes, in which they recognize the best manifestations of the visual vector. This component of the human psyche is responsible for the ability to love, empathy, and create emotional closeness. Both the story and the film are literally imbued with visual sensibility.
Let's talk about the vicissitudes of love of the main and secondary characters, about teenagers in love, about the attitude towards their feelings of adults who accompanied young lovers throughout the plot, relying on the knowledge of system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.
Lucy! Liu-sen-ka-ah !
In the very first frames of the film, we are faced with a tall, slender beauty with a scattering of golden hair and huge bright eyes, in which, it seems, you can drown. This is the mother of the main character - Lyusya, Lyudmila Sergeevna, performed by one of the most beautiful Soviet actresses of that period, Irina Miroshnichenko.
“There are three courage, fortitude and optimism in it”.
Lyudmila is a bright representative of a special category of women - a woman with a skin-visual ligament of vectors. This will not leave indifferent any man! As long as human civilization exists, so much the skin-visual woman serves as a guiding star for leaders and commanders, artists and poets, philosophers and musicians. In the case of insufficient development of properties, such a woman can cause strife between men, be prone to hysteria, and seeks to attract attention to herself by any means.
In a primitive society, the skin-visual woman, having no natural ability to bear children, was not of interest to a man as the mother of his unborn child. Therefore, in order to receive protection from a man, like other women, she had to learn how to create emotional closeness. So sensuality came into the world, and after it - compassion, humanism, culture, art, the concept of beauty.
Until relatively recently, such women, as a rule, did not have children, but were always in the public eye. Actress, educator, medical worker - all this is her! A visual propensity for empathy, the ability to feel another and emotionally involved in communication with him - this is what allows skin-visual women to be successful in all these areas, but this requires a high degree of development in the visual vector. It is achieved through a gradual transformation of the natural fear of death, with which every visual person comes into the world, into its opposite - compassion and love.
But back to Lyudmila. "Mom is forty-one, she is not given more than twenty-five."
In the film, we see a calm, happy, confident woman.
In the book, the image of Lyudmila is revealed more deeply than on the screen. Here we see that yes, she is happy in a new marriage, but taking into account the pressure of a conservative society, which does not welcome unions, where the wife is older than her husband, she is very afraid of losing her Volodya. After all, he - so smart, strong and self-confident - gives her a sense of security and safety - the basic feeling that a person needs for a harmonious existence in the world. A woman receives this feeling from a man and passes it on to her children. Her concern for her husband suggests that not all of her fears have melted into love, and the worm of anxiety and doubt is still gnawing at her heart. This forces her to make a wide variety of efforts to look younger than her years and be attractive to her husband.
Initially not created for childbearing, skin-visual women nowadays more and more often have one, or even several children. However, from a patriarchal point of view, they cannot be called exemplary mothers. Such a woman is deprived of the natural maternal instinct and without the support (first of all, moral) of other family members, she is unlikely to cope with the baby herself. But as the baby grows, she can become his best friend and advisor. It is easier for her than any other mother to admit that a son or daughter is a completely different person, with her own character and destiny.
When Katya fell in love, she instantly became an adult in the eyes of her mother, and then a real emotional closeness manifested itself between them!
Lyudmila's husband Volodya also empathizes with young lovers and is deeply outraged by the behavior of the guy's parents, or rather, his mother. The fact is that Kostya - Roman's father - in his youth was unrequitedly in love with Lyudmila and, seeing her many years later, he jumped, forgetting about the sciatica that tormented him, with a cry: “Lucy! Liu-sen-ka-ah !!!"
Vera, who was watching this picture - the wife of the rejected lover and the mother of the boy Roma - harbored such a strong resentment as the owner of the anal vector is capable of. Its consequences were fatal for her beloved son so much. But more on that later.
“Neither Roman nor Yulka ever remembered where they saw each other.
And the meeting was and, having remained for them without a trace and unremarkable, in their families, for their parents it became something like an explosion in a boiler room, which did not seem to bring external destruction, but slightly distorted the internal structures."
Always a woman chooses. One can only guess why Lyuda chose some pilot instead of Kostya, and then Volodya. It is easy for a skin-visual woman to build a relationship with a man, because creating an emotional connection is her vocation. But men with an anal vector, who, as a rule, find themselves next to her by natural attraction, are distinguished by great constancy in their attachment to their beloved woman.
Kostya shows us an example of a monogamous man, a bearer of the anal vector, whose love for Lyusa is constant, and nothing can change this love. Yes, he does not demand anything from her, has no right to demand, but deep down he remains faithful to this one love in his life. Yes, he is married and has a son, but this does not mean anything to him at all, because he still loves only Lucy. And when his son falls in love with Katya, he rejoices, because in the love of their children his love for her seems to continue: “I passed this on to him by inheritance,” he says to Luce.
From the outside, such love looks like an addiction, in a sense it is, an anal-visual man is unable to let go of the past, first love on his own, and only knowledge of system-vector psychology helps to reconsider his life and find his happiness in a relationship.
Read about the secret of the origin of love between Katya and Roma and how parents react to the close relationship of adolescents in the next part.
Part 2. Love among teenagers. The origin of feelings
Part 3. From emotional dependence and blackmail to love
