How not to drink: everything you didn't know about female alcoholism
How not to drink alcohol at all if it anesthetizes the pain from internal stress associated with suppressed desires of the psyche that have not been embodied. A person tunes in to an easy way to relieve stress, and the biochemistry of the brain becomes unable to come to balance on its own. How to quit drinking alcohol if the soul cannot stand it without this anesthetic?
Take off, do not take off the pain - it will return if the cause is not removed. Alcoholism cannot be stopped until the root is found. How not to drink? The answer is surprisingly simple.
Katya and Prince
Katya was bright and successful. "What a beautiful mind!" - said her friends about her.
Dressed with refined taste, always ready to help - despite a busy schedule and career flying up.
On weekends, she had fun with her friends in clubs, accompanied by "Margarita" and hot dances. On weekdays, after work, I would close at home and drink wine to my favorite romantic movie. She cried from unrequited love on a virtual date with Brad Peet and Tom Hardy, who personified her dream - a prince on a white horse. He will definitely take her to the land of happiness.
In the loneliness of the rhythm of a big city, Katya was looking for that long-awaited every day. And fell in love - for life. But when the man of dreams became another life experience, everything inside roared from the rupture of an emotional connection - love was dying, and so was Katya. She again left to have fun with complete separation, to forget. Memories flashed before my eyes like a film strip. Tears flowed, but the pain was hidden under the glasses of anesthesia.
Work, success, recognition of colleagues could not take the place of fulfilling the cherished dream of feelings like in a movie.
Katya understood that alcohol replaces her lack of universal love, which she has been waiting for as long as she can remember. I was anticipating that as soon as the prince appeared, violent parties and wine in front of the TV would be replaced by stormy streams of love in the arms of the dearest person in the world. She waited 10 years.
Everything happened like in a fairy tale.
Once Katya fell in love, mutually. The need for alcoholic anesthesia somehow imperceptibly faded into the background. In its place came euphoria from love. The beloved made a beautiful proposal, and there was a beautiful wedding. The need for the visual vector for emotional closeness and a sense of security filled Katya.
When the children were born, the happiness of the young family increased to a degree. Alcoholic intoxication remained in the memory of a stormy youth.
A happy ending? To be continued…
Katya and Tsoi
By the time the eldest was 9 years old, and the youngest was 7, Katya suddenly realized that she had been drinking regularly for the past two years. Binge drinking every weekend, and then hard days until next Friday … How could this happen?
Life is a full cup. Loving husband, children, money, career, recognition. Where did the meaninglessness in the soul come from? Every day as if from under a stick, nothing pleases, I do not want anything.
Going into a tailspin, she locked herself in a room and slept in a sedative anesthetic in silence. Or she smoked on the balcony, listening to Tsoi in headphones, outputting the sound at full volume. I covered all the walls with quotes from his songs, with such a dense, almost tangible meaning. To tears, to cleansing catharsis, which was the only positive experience of the soul. Everything else was simply not strong enough. She transferred the work to a remote location, a tracksuit and hair, gathered in a bun, became her only bow.
Katya reproached herself.
Why drink if you have enough? Did you want love? Love is on you. The husband is like a fairy tale. And he loves mutually, sincerely. Career and money please. There are two children and both are talented.
“So what else? What are you still missing? - Katya's soul screamed.
Relatives said: "He's mad with fat."
“You should be so fat,” she answered to herself. - "Advise yourself your own advice."
A person does not drink from fat! Drinks from shortages! Because the soul hurts. And why it hurts is not clear.
Katya did not know why she was drinking. And she didn't want to drink, but she couldn't help drinking. The vicious circle "melancholy - alcohol - anxiety - alcohol - sleep - alcohol - melancholy" drove to madness.
Another is not like everyone else
Thoughts about God, the structure of the Universe, the singularity of space and time from the books of Stephen Hawking strikingly distinguished Katya from everyone around her. Only she tried not to notice this dissimilarity. She pushed it into the background to hide her own uniqueness from herself. Exclusivity that did not fit into the framework of refined taste and success combined with a responsive heart.
Katya did not realize her special purpose. She was a guiding star for those around her, but no one understood why. What makes you want to follow her? Where does her mind come from, capable of comprehending the farthest corners of black holes and white dwarfs? The answer to everything is the sound vector of the psyche, given from birth, but difficult to diagnose without understanding the psyche.
Being a “sound engineer” is a blessing and a curse.
What seems to others to be a full bowl is insufficiency and emptiness for sound specialists. Because their psyche is about something else. Not about material things, not even about love and family. And about the big, intangible and infinite.
The magnitude of the abstract intelligence of the sound engineer is able to unravel all the secrets of the universe. But not finding an answer, the pain of the soul becomes unbearable. More oceans and more space itself. And how to explain it is not clear. There are no such words.
The only way out is to get drunk and fall asleep, so as not to suffer at least a couple of hours.
Why alcohol?
In Katya's case, the presence of sound and visual vectors in the psyche gave a powerful intellect and outlook. At the same time, she confused her in the answer to the question "What am I missing?"
When the destiny of the soul is not realized, it cries. And the man drinks. How not to drink alcohol at all if it anesthetizes the pain from internal stress associated with suppressed desires of the psyche that have not been embodied. A person tunes in to an easy way to relieve stress, and the biochemistry of the brain becomes unable to come to balance on its own.
How to quit drinking alcohol if the soul cannot stand it without this anesthetic?
How to understand what your soul is hurting about
Everyone hurts about different things. Finding the source requires serious diagnostics.
In the case of the body, everything is simpler. The doctor prescribes blood tests, ultrasound, FGDS, CT scans and more.
With a smarter soul. It so happens that the level of pain is so unbearable for the psyche that it is repressed and not perceived by consciousness. Pain relief is necessary, but where it hurts is unknown.
Without serious examination, it is impossible to understand the source of all wounds and ulcers of the soul.
Deep diagnostics is possible through the analysis of one's own psyche at the training of Yuri Burlan "System-vector psychology".
Powerful diagnostics are the first step towards healing
Medicine has stepped forward not so long ago - when the presence of a microcosm - viruses and bacteria - was discovered. Then she began to fight them, and not with fever, aching joints and snot.
Despite advances in medicine, modern methods of combating alcoholism suggest giving up use by willpower. Only after this does the work with the psyche begin.
However, in order to help the person, the sequence must be changed.
Alcohol acts as anesthesia, relieving mental pain. Where it hurts, you will find it at the training.
