How to overcome fear
Fear is the brightest emotion. Sometimes our fears manifest themselves so strongly that it interferes with enjoying life, fulfilling ourselves, moving in the chosen direction … The variations of fears are endless …
Fear is the brightest emotion. Sometimes our fears are so strongly manifested that it interferes with enjoying life, fulfilling ourselves, moving in the chosen direction … The variations of fears are endless - fear of darkness, fire, public speaking, airplanes, elevators, dogs, spiders, mice, snakes, disease, death, and so on further exponentially …
Fear blocks all reasonable arguments, sometimes leading to panic, defies any persuasion and often takes possession of a person without a trace: it does not matter, a child or an adult, a man or a woman, a cook or a scientist …
Where does fear come from? Is it possible to cope with it and how?
Through systems psychology, I discovered the cause of fear, its root. With rare exceptions, all fears are manifestations of the visual vector.
The peculiarity of the visual erogenous zone is not only the ability to see farther than anyone else, to distinguish colors better than anyone else (which means, to notice a predator as soon as it appears on the horizon), but it is also the ability to experience the most vivid emotions. Moreover, the highest value of the visual vector is LIFE. The spectator is not able to take life, kill. And he is afraid for his life (and this is understandable, because he is not able to defend himself, that is, not capable of murder).
In ancient times, a bright emotion of fear was salutary for the whole flock. Ancient people, going hunting, took with them a skin-visual woman, whose specific role was - the day guard of the pack. Her specially developed visual sensor was necessary in order to notice in time a predator, an approaching danger, and warn the flock. How did she do it?
When such a visual woman saw a predator, she was frightened. And this instant powerful flash of her fear (for her life!) Was instantly transmitted to the entire flock, the flock darted off and managed to escape. This is the ancient task of the visual vector - to see danger and warn the flock about it with your bright emotion - FEAR OF DEATH. The fear of the visual-skin female was the very signal that the flock recognized instantly at the level of ODOR. It is the visual vector that is endowed with a huge emotional amplitude, and here it is very well traced why this was needed.
Modern man has grown, the landscape has become more complex, the requirements for each vector have changed. To remain in the archetype in the conditions of the modern world means to remain undeveloped, the world no longer needs such manifestations. And those qualities that used to be a useful manifestation of the archetype (in the case of the skin-visual female, the protection of the flock during the day, which was realized through the fear of death, the ability to be frightened), must now be sublimated, developed so as to be useful in the conditions of the modern landscape.
How can fear be adapted?
… Look at a visual child.. You will recognize the visual vector in him pretty quickly - by fears, by vivid emotions, by craving for everything beautiful, by shining eyes. He looks at the pictures with pleasure and reacts very emotionally to everything: "Mommy, look what a beautiful flower!" "Mommy, don't turn off the light, I'm afraid!" - in the sense: I can't see the possible danger in the dark. At the sight of a tiny wound, he is horrified: “Mommy, won't I die? “It is the spectators who faint at the sight of blood - a manifestation of the same ancient fear of death. How to overcome the fear that poisons a child's life?
If you bring up a child with a visual vector in a Spartan way, ignore his fears or, even worse, knock them out of the child … If it's a boy: “Are you a woman? "- says the father with an anal vector. “No need to whimper! I'll sign you up for the fight, so that the man grows up! " This is a visual boy who is not able to crush an insect! … And then we will get the opposite result - the child's fears will not only remain, but also worsen, the intellect will not be developed, you will not wait for sympathy from him.
An improperly raised child with a visual vector will rock the boat of his fear and other negative emotions all his life, throw tantrums, demanding the sympathy of others, can become one of those who are popularly called an emotional vampire, and a transvestite can grow from a skin-visual boy. …
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan gives a clear understanding of how to overcome fear and grow a developed, harmonious person from a visual child. With proper upbringing, the fear inherent in the visual vector is transformed into compassion and love, the child learns to live his emotions not in the form of fear for himself, but in the form of feeling for others …
When we teach a child to correctly direct his emotions, then the fear goes away, it grows into empathy. First, it is love and compassion at the inanimate level, then at the vegetable level (do not break the twig, it hurts), then at the animal (the puppy is hungry, let's feed him), and only after that at the human level - the ability to love, empathize and compassion for a person.
In parallel with this kind of development of sensuality (growing up, the growth of love experiences), the development of intelligence takes place. People with a visual vector developed to the level of love for a person are very sincere, warm and intelligent people, filled with empathy, living their entire emotional amplitude in empathy and love, they become higher than fear, fear goes away by itself, there is simply no place for it … visual people even say it: "I love it so much that it is not scary to die!"
Fears and hysterics are replaced by poise, warmth and love. The center of gravity shifts from itself, from its sensations outward: the requirement to others "Compassion for me! My fears and states!" is replaced by the ability to see someone else's pain and empathize with it. And now, instead of the usual panic thoughts and fears, a person sees the world as beautiful, colorful and friendly, loves the world and people, and his soul is open and light!
I saw what moved me in every situation in my life, saw behind every action and every thought of my hidden unconscious desire and understood how to overcome fear. This is an amazing and incomparable feeling of awareness and inner freedom - understanding your behavior!
