Despair and pain: how to stop being doomed to eternal torment
I am constantly on edge. I am trying to catch a balance, to hold on for a little longer, without knowing why. I don’t want to participate in this, because I’m not here for this, right? Not to feel despair. What to do to stop all this?
Life happens suddenly, and the problem is that I was not asked if I needed it. Despair and pain that I do not want to be here seems to block all receptors in my body and soul, if I ever had them at all.
I am constantly on edge. I am trying to catch a balance, to hold on for a little longer, without knowing why. A state of despair has long been defining my miserable, bitter existence in this dull world, full of melancholy, indifference and hectic, meaningless chaos. I don’t want to participate in this, because I’m not here for this, right? Not to feel despair. What to do to stop all this?
Tell me that this is someone's joke and the exit is just around the corner, because all of this cannot be true. Why me? What for? I'm tired of fighting, my strength is almost over, and I need help. The feeling of despair from the impossibility to change something in order to get rid of this pain, in order to emerge at the surface of life at least for a short moment, completely deprives me of any chances of what is called normal.
If only once for a minute, for a couple of moments I had a chance to stop experiencing this all-consuming despair and pain from the hopelessness of my own situation … I just want to feel a short moment of life, like they have, everyone else.
Where does human despair come from?
Despair does not come immediately in a person. It is preceded by a long search for answers to questions that you simply cannot formulate. But they are all about the meaning, about the design, about the reason for which being occurs, about where to look for roots and what I am doing in the midst of all this.
Having shoveled mountains of books, practices, music and techniques and not finding anything in this that would reduce the pain of not understanding your place in life, you find that the state of despair only intensified. Despair has grown deep in you, driving you to a frenzy, to the desire to scream, to stop this incessant stream of thoughts in your head, this search for meaning, which seems to have appeared before you.
Only sleep saves for a short while, and in such a state, dreams of eternal sleep are inevitable …
Despair and pain are only a symptom
Not every person knows and understands such thoughts and states, and the reasons lie in the properties of the psyche, which, like the body, has its own characteristics and differences.
A person, seized by despair from the fact that he feels superfluous in this world, does not know and does not know how to live like most people, strives first of all to realize the main idea of his stay on this planet. At the training System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan, he is defined as the owner of the sound vector. And this is half of the solution to the problem - to find out who you are and what you want in this life.
It is impossible to escape from this, to forget, not to pay attention to your sound vector. Therefore, his desires will have to be satisfied, otherwise he will “hurt” billions of times stronger than it happens with any physical organ. And despair in a person just means that it is time to get down to work on getting to know oneself.
Despair and I
Of course, being in a state of despair for a person is a strong negative experience. And in order to understand how to deal with despair, how to get out of it, you must first understand how we got into this despair.
The soundman was born with a great desire given to him to learn the meaning of life, and his whole psyche is subordinated to this search. But it is not always clear what and how to look for. It's like constantly digging a hole trying to dig to the center of the earth. At some point, the forces end, the shovel breaks, you can't get out upstairs, and suddenly you realize yourself imprisoned in a well dug with your own hands without beginning or end. Here it is - despair What to do? All that remains is to scream into the void of loneliness and pain.
This is approximately how a sound engineer feels, whose desires have not been able to be fulfilled for a long time, and this is the reason for his despair. Gradually, the loss of connection with reality begins, the separation of oneself from other people. Because what most people around them find goals, satisfaction, motivation, are completely beyond the boundaries of sound interests.
The sound engineer in such a state is not able to understand why they are needed:
- Family and couples. After all, how can you find pleasure in the fact that there is always another body in your personal space? You and yours got enough.
- Work that comes from the word "slave". Every damn morning to get up, to trudge about it is not clear where, it is not clear why, for the sake of some papers at the end of the month.
- Communication. Because all the most and only interesting for him happens inside himself.
Despair is born as a continuation of alienation from the process of life. Not finding anything to do with others and not knowing how to interact with them, in an attempt to balance his state, the sound engineer decides for himself to reduce the likelihood of getting traumatic and bitter experience of relationships. Closed, removed, his contacts with the outside world are becoming more rare and selective.
But he does not understand that trying to fence off only increases the state of despair in a person. Because man is a collective being, and he experiences all the joys and sorrows only by interacting within society with his own kind.
The psychology of despair
Thus, the trap is closed. The feeling of a prison without bars, of living not one's own life is possible when a person is really limited already so much that he is ready to climb the wall in despair and pain. But how can he be limited if all that he is doing and where all the time is endless immersion, it is himself?
What is so oppressive to him and brings colossal suffering if he has already done everything possible to avoid them? Why does the long-awaited loneliness not bring the desired comfort, but only plunge you into despair even more?
The answer is on the surface and that is why it remains unnoticed: in a state of despair and pain, the sound engineer has already gone deep inside himself that he simply does not have the resources for an objective perception of reality. It is as impossible as seeing the sun with your eyes closed.
Despair can be defeated
It is possible to interact normally and effectively with the outside world and overcome despair by knowing the principles by which everything in the world is arranged. Why one person says one thing and another hears another. It is possible to know oneself by being different from other people. And the more the sound engineer recognizes himself, understands his properties and true desires, the more he strives to fulfill them. At this moment, energy appears, activity in the movement towards the long-awaited goal - the disclosure of the plan, and despair recedes.
Suddenly it turns out that in order to see the differences between oneself and others and thus form a picture of one's own soul, one must at least observe these others, and at the most, interact with them.
And when the psyche of another person is revealed, any contacts for the sound engineer become cognitive, fascinating, desirable, they fill his endless thirst for knowledge of what is hidden. It so captures his entire being that a big bang takes place in his small space: despair and pain replaces an endless stream of meaning in every movement of the world around.
You can feel it yourself only by understanding in detail how it works. Yuri Burlan's training System-vector psychology unfolds a picture of a hitherto unknown world for a person. And people who have felt these emotions of delight and recognition even say that it is possible that all this suffering, this despair was worth experiencing once.
