Feeling lonely
Why does a person not enjoy living alone? What is loneliness? What are the types of loneliness? System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan answers these and many other questions, and also helps to get rid of the oppressive feeling of loneliness forever.
The feeling of loneliness is familiar to everyone, and it is different for everyone. It can be the loneliness of a woman or a man in anticipation of a relationship. Or the loneliness of a person who finds himself in an unusual place for himself, far from his family and friends. Or there may be a constant state of loneliness, when even among people and surrounded by loved ones, a person feels lonely. This is loneliness, from which neither friendship, nor marriage, nor teamwork can save you.
Generally, the feeling of loneliness is a source of discomfort for a person. He may feel melancholy, despair from the feeling of being unnecessary, and even depression.
Why is this so? Why does a person not enjoy living alone? What is loneliness? What are the types of loneliness? System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan answers these and many other questions, and also helps to get rid of the oppressive feeling of loneliness forever.
What is the feeling of loneliness?
A person feels lonely when they lose touch with other people. On the one hand, we cannot live without people, because we do not live alone, even if we think so. We live in a society, interact with each other and survive only together. At a deep psychic level, we are all united by a single unconscious. All our troubles, but also all our joys, come from other people.
On the other hand, at a certain point in his development, a person felt his own uniqueness, separation from other people. This feeling can be expressed by the words “there is nobody but me”.
That is why from that moment on, humanity embarked on the path of the "curse of loneliness." Since then, we unconsciously search for the lost connections and cannot find. Man is lonely "from a stinking diaper to a stinking shroud." And in today's world of individualism, the suffering of loneliness is only getting worse.
However, not everyone is aware of this deep loneliness. Most often, it is felt in certain life situations - for example, when relatives leave or in a foreign country, when familiar connections are lost. But there are people who experience the pangs of loneliness especially strongly. System-vector psychology distinguishes between two main types of loneliness:
- visual loneliness;
- sonic loneliness.
Loneliness is terrible, eerie and unbearable
This is how the owners of the visual vector define their inner state when they find themselves alone with themselves. Bright extroverts, they see the meaning of their lives in communication, love, creating emotional connections with other people. That is why, when these connections are not there, they especially feel melancholy. They feel bad and painful alone. The breakdown of the emotional connection is experienced by them as severe stress.
When the visual vector is not realized, its owner can experience numerous fears, including the fear of loneliness. He is afraid that in old age there will be no one to give him a glass of water. Driven by this fear, the visual person can agree to any relationship, just not to be in a state of loneliness.
Loneliness as a way of life
For the owners of the sound vector, loneliness, on the one hand, is desirable, and on the other hand, it is a source of unbearable suffering, which, however, is not always realized.
The soundman is not of this world. He is little interested in everyday problems. He does not like empty talk about everyday life and family problems, politics and the weather. Holidays, which usually unite people with common joy, make him sore: the sensitive ears of the sound engineer cannot stand noisy displays of emotions.
His soul is disturbed by strange questions: “What is the meaning of all this? Why am I here? Why is it so bad for me in this world? He wants and most often cannot understand himself and his desires. He generally likes to think, to concentrate on his states. And for this he strives for silence and loneliness - that is the best way to think.
However, if concentration on oneself becomes the only desire of the sound engineer, this leads to sad consequences. Cutting off ties with people, plunging into complete loneliness, he feels a deep emptiness inside, loses interest in life. In this state, he can go to sleep for 12-16 hours or play computer games for days. He prefers silence and darkness behind the closed doors of his room to the bright world outside. All this leads him to depression, which becomes an obligatory companion of the owner of the sound vector, who has chosen loneliness as a lifestyle.
Understanding the reasons means getting rid of loneliness
Understanding your inner structure helps you overcome feelings of loneliness. So, people with a visual vector, instead of suffering alone, begin to actively create emotional connections. Realizing that feelings, emotions are the meaning of their life, they use their potential to the maximum. And the highest connection that they can create in this world is love. When you truly love, you are not afraid to be alone, because you yourself take responsibility for creating a connection with a person. If you want to receive something, first give what you want to receive. If you don't want to live alone, take a step towards the person.
And even if there was a severe loss of a loved one, such owners of the visual vector do not stay alone for years, getting lost in a state of melancholy. For a while they really feel sad and cry, because sadness is also an emotion, only lighter than melancholy. But they know that the best way to get out of lingering loneliness is simply to start communicating again, to love, to create emotional connections, that is, to bring their emotions out. After all, loneliness arises only when a person focuses exclusively on himself, ceases to notice those who need him.
For a sound engineer, this conclusion is less obvious, because loneliness is desirable for him. He seeks it, strives for it, hiding in it from the hustle and bustle of modern city life. And often only systemic-vector psychology helps this deep introvert to extrovert, to reveal the joy of communication and the happiness of knowing another person. And then the discovery of another person, his inner world, his mental structure becomes desirable. This becomes an important step in overcoming loneliness.
No one else suffers from loneliness as much as the sound engineer who feels global loneliness in this world. It was his ancestor with a sound vector who once felt his uniqueness and separation from the world. And the modern sound engineer is the greatest egocentric, focused on himself, who does not even want to know about other people and feels his superiority over them.
But no one else, except the owner of the sound vector, is capable of potentially experiencing such a strong pleasure from creating a connection with another person. The connection that he creates is special - a sound, spiritual, connection between souls, based on the understanding of another person as himself. This is the feeling of his desires as his own. The creation of such a connection is possible only through the disclosure of the vectors of a person, his psyche, which is provided by system-vector psychology. This connection helps to cope with global loneliness forever.
Getting rid of the problem of loneliness is in your hands
There are different types of loneliness, but the disclosure of a person's mental world helps in any case. People are often lonely because they cannot create a relationship, meet their soul mate. The reasons for this can be different:
- bad past experience;
- shyness, fear of people - all this makes it difficult to get to know each other;
- not understanding why it is needed;
- not understanding what kind of man I need / what kind of woman I need;
- misunderstanding of how to build a relationship between a man and a woman.
All these problems and questions are resolved naturally in the course of Yuri Burlan's training, because you begin to better understand yourself and other people. For example, being aware of the properties of the anal vector and knowing how to use them correctly helps to leave bad experiences in the past and start living from scratch. Shyness and fear of people go away in visual people because they reveal their emotional potential. Sound specialists answer important questions for themselves - what I need and why and how everything happens.
It happens that people live in pairs, each in his own loneliness, not understanding his partner, unable to find common ground. Knowing about the vectors of a loved one helps to look at him in a different way, see what was not noticed before, accept him with all his qualities and reach a new level of relations.
A deep understanding of another person blurs the boundaries between souls. A man and a woman become practically one. For the owners of any vectors, a real revelation is the disclosure of the true essence of the relationship between a man and a woman. They are filled with deep meaning. And then overcoming loneliness becomes a natural result of the training:
Or, for example, a person ended up in another country. He does not understand:
- why people are not like him;
- why they do not do what seems right to him;
- why their values are fundamentally different from his values.
This causes a feeling of deep loneliness among people: there is no one to share with, no one understands you. He feels like a stranger in this country, he cannot integrate into social life. In this case, knowledge about the difference in the mentality of countries, which system-vector psychology reveals in great detail, helps to avoid loneliness. Realizing the mental characteristics of people, a person easily finds a common language with them, integrating into an unusual system for himself, and begins to enjoy life. After all, the greatest happiness for a person is to realize his properties in society.
Living alone is bleak. You don't need to look for excuses for your loneliness. Feel the real taste of relationships with people at the training System Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan. To avoid missing out on the free introductory online lectures, register early here.
