How to understand what I want
Only by studying your psychic structure, you can understand who you are, how you can become happy, what you really want, where are your desires, and where are imposed and borrowed. This is necessary in order to understand what you want from life, how to realize what nature has given you.
You don't have to start this old song again … That life is finite, that you need to live it in such a way that it does not hurt excruciatingly for being spent aimlessly, etc. I have never been against living it correctly and with pleasure. Just give me an answer to a simple question: what do I want? Want it now. And now give your answer.
I live today, I am no longer 16, but I still have not figured out how to understand myself, what to do, how to fill my life with what will make it meaningful, happy and joyful.
I don't even mind checking another "technique that allows you to determine exactly what you want and what will make you happy, regardless of age, experience and life situation." Yes, I have been looking for an answer in many places, but I have not yet lost hope, and it was justified.
How it was with me: what I wanted and did not get
When I was 25 years old, a motivational book came into my hands. I didn't know what I really wanted, but I liked the idea of making a lot of money - for example, a million.
I found a networking company and worked there for over a year, reading one motivational book after another, trying to make plans and set intermediate goals, “reprogram my subconscious mind” with affirmations that “I’ll easily make a million by this year” and much more.
Overcoming the growing internal resistance, I forced myself to work. The question - what do I want from life - has not been clarified. Psychologists' tests, advice from the best managers - everything was there. And there was no answer to the question. Fortunately, my networking company soon ceased to exist. This helped me quickly get off the wrong path and start looking for what I really want from life.
I drew attention to the internal state - it was disgusting. I devoted a lot of time to a goal that did not bring results, did not make me happier, on the contrary, I was extremely demoralized. I could not understand what I want, how I should live further and what to strive for. It’s not surprising that in such a mood I did not want to communicate with people at all, so I decided to freelance and be content with little.
Once on the Internet, I came across information about system-vector psychology. It was the training of Yuri Burlan that helped me understand who I am, how I can realize myself in life and what I need for happiness.
Why we don't do what we want
Each person has desires that are inherent in him by nature. They are necessarily provided with properties for implementation. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan calls these “sets” of desires and talents for their fulfillment as vectors.
But the problem is that our desires and properties are hidden in the unconscious, that is, in fact, we do not always realize what we really want - so that from the heart. Without knowing yourself, you live “not your own” life, because you don't know how to understand what you want. But you see what others want and achieve. You see what is considered prestigious, in demand and fashionable, and after the rest you begin to strive for the same. Although in fact, while doing this, you are guided by false stereotypes imposed by society, friends, family, and set goals that do not inspire you.
You think that you want to make a lot of money, but in fact you want to buy a cozy house with the money you earned with a large kitchen and a small garden and have a friendly, noisy family that will live in it. Or vice versa, you try to be an exemplary wife and mother, but in fact you are cramped within four walls, but you would be happy if you focused on your career. Or maybe you don't have to choose between home and work, and you are naturally capable of realizing everything, and even conquering Everest at the same time?
But it's enough just to determine whether my reality corresponds to what I want from life. And no tests are needed - two states of a person speak for themselves:
- A bad inner state suggests that we do not realize our real desires.
- A good inner state is evidence that our desires are being realized.
How to understand what you want from life
The human psyche is his desires. Features in each vector set certain values to which a person strives - consciously or unconsciously.
For example, the desire for property and social superiority is the desire of the owner of the skin vector. For implementation, he has a rational mind, enterprise, well-developed logic, the ability to save.
The desires of a person with an anal vector are to transfer experience and knowledge, to earn respect and honor in society. These desires are provided with properties for implementation - the owner of the anal vector is endowed with an analytical mind, excellent memory, patient, attentive to details. These qualities allow him to become a professional in his field, and real professionals are always respected.
The desire for the sound vector leads its owner to concentration, to the search for meaning. By the way, this is why sound people are often so self-centered that they hardly hear others when they are addressed. It is much more difficult for them to realize their desires than others, therefore, the owners of the sound vector often suffer from severe depression, which is often accompanied by thoughts of suicide.
The sound engineer wants to know - neither more nor less - everything about the meaning of life, the meaning of human existence, life on earth, the design of everything that exists.
The visual vector endows its owner with the desire and ability to love, compassion, empathize, experience emotions, and create emotional connections with people. Each of the eight vectors is a whole system that, developing from the moment of birth, determines a person's worldview, a system of values, and even his sexuality. And a person, as a rule, possesses not one, but several vectors, and all of them influence his character, determine his desires, sometimes contradictory and therefore even less understandable.
Everything you want is hidden in the psyche
Only by studying your psychic structure, you can understand who you are, how you can become happy, what you really want, where are your desires, and where are imposed and borrowed. This is necessary in order to understand what you want from life, how to realize what nature has given you.
Thanks to this knowledge, my life completely changed, as well as the lives of other people who received the training.
How to understand what to do in life? Start with a free online training course System Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan.
