The child does not want to learn: how to awaken the craving for knowledge
The child does not want to study, is not interested in anything except TV and computer games. What to do, because his future is at stake? In this article, we will analyze why children lack or at some point lose their desire to learn, how to awaken their craving for knowledge and find the right approach to learning …
How many times have already tried to explain to a child that learning is necessary for him, and not for adults! That in the modern world only wipers live without education. All to no avail: lessons are done every time only out of hand. And without the supervision of adults, they are not done at all. The child does not want to study, is not interested in anything except TV and computer games. What to do, because his future is at stake?
In this article, we will analyze why children lack or at some point lose the desire to learn, how to awaken their thirst for knowledge and find the right approach to learning.
Why doesn't the child want to learn
It is dear to see how inquisitive "yearlings" study with interest every blade of grass and grain of sand. It would seem that the very nature of a child is an endless interest in the world around him and a desire to learn as much as possible about him. Where and why does it all disappear? Why at school does the child not want to know anything, does not show interest in any subject?
The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan will help a son or daughter look into the soul. The fact is that, by nature, every child is endowed with his own qualities and talents (peculiarities of the psyche). Certain conditions are required for their development. Let's look at some examples.
1. The child is mobile, restless, fidget. He strives to do everything faster, to make a minimum of effort - but at the same time to be the first in everything, to receive prizes and awards. The teacher's remarks are most often associated with the fact that the child is constantly spinning, spinning, jumping up. Does the work sloppily, does not try - the main thing is to cope with it as soon as possible.
These are the features of the guys with the skin vector. Learning as such is not a value or an end in itself for them, and grades do not matter much either. But there is more than enough ambition and desire to win prizes among such children. They also love everything new, so they can absorb new information like a sponge - the only question is how to present it correctly.
Why such a child does not want to learn and what to do. If we are talking about a preschooler, then, most likely, a sedentary form of education is simply not suitable for a little nimble. He will best of all assimilate educational information in the form of outdoor games, quizzes, quests.
It is important for a schoolchild with a skin vector to create conditions for organization and discipline in time. The daily routine, time management (when all trainings and the time for completing lessons are planned in the schedule) are a necessary condition for development. Without this, the small owner of the skin vector grows "scattered", disorganized and becomes unable to reach the heights of which he dreams.
The support of discipline on the part of the parents should become a skill of the child's self-discipline, otherwise you will have to check the lessons from him even at the institute. In order for the child to learn self-discipline, teach him how to determine the time by the clock as early as possible, so that he can observe the regime moments in time and follow them. You can involve him in drawing up a visual schedule, give a children's analogue of a diary and teach how to use it.
The high physical activity of such a child requires a sufficient amount of physical activity during the day. This includes sports training and active walks. If such activity is lacking, the child turns around in the classroom, cannot sit through the classes, constantly receives the teacher's comments.
In addition, incorrect methods of reward or punishment can discourage a child from learning.
How to encourage. The owners of the skin vector are rational and pragmatic by nature. They have no desire to invest in any business if there is no benefit and benefit from it. Therefore, it is useless to encourage such a child with praise and approval alone.
The best encouragement will be a trip to a new place, an excursion. Skinners are very sensitive to material gifts and prizes, but here it is important to observe moderation. A large gift is appropriate, perhaps at the end of the school year - for a good report card in general.
- What to look for. Physical punishment is categorically contraindicated: the skin of such a child has a special sensitivity, and he will receive over-stress. In the future, this can lead to the formation of "provocative behavior" or the child's desire to steal.
- How to punish. Restrictions in space (cancellation of a walk or trip), in time (for example, reducing the time for watching cartoons or using a computer) would be appropriate.
2. The child is impressionable, emotional. In the classroom, often "the crow counts", looks at everything outside the window, emotionally and enthusiastically chatting about something with a neighbor on the desk, or even drawing in a notebook.
Such features are typical for children with a visual vector. They have a special sensitivity of the eye analyzer, and this requires constant "picture change", new visual impressions, bright colors. And also small viewers have a huge emotional range: they want to experience vivid emotions, build emotional connections with people.
How to get your child to learn and not be distracted in the classroom. In preschool and primary school age, it is difficult for such a child to concentrate when there is not enough clarity in the presentation of the material. Bright posters, slides, or video demonstrations can help.
But the main thing is that the presentation of the material should emotionally captivate and involve the child. This rule is relevant for all children, but doubly for young spectators who are eager to experience strong emotions. The child simply does not perceive the monotonous mumbling and begins to frankly bored: look for other impressions with his eyes (gaze out the window) or extract emotions from conversations with a neighbor.
If you are not too lucky with the teacher and he does not know how to emotionally involve children and colorfully present the material, you can partially compensate for this at home. For example, learn the multiplication table in verse and colorfully decorate it with drawings. Involve the child through reading exciting and emotionally colored books about study: the story of Vitya Perestukin, the journey of Ali and Anton in the country of numbers will not leave indifferent kids, and schoolchildren - the adventures of Vitya Maleev and Denis Korablev.
- How to encourage. The best encouragement for a visual child will be living vivid emotions with a parent. The child will receive double pleasure if at the same time there are new visual impressions. Something that a child has never seen before.
- What to look for. You cannot punish a child for lacking emotional or visual impressions. Often little spectators are prone to hysterics. In this case, it is better for parents not to react emotionally in any way, to remain calm - and the "storm in a glass of water" will quickly subside by itself.
3. The child is detached, low-emotional, immersed in his thoughts. The question may not be answered immediately, but with a delay. Avoids noisy games with peers, may seem like a black sheep in the classroom.
The owners of the sound vector are introverts by nature. Potentially, they are given a powerful abstract intelligence - from such children outstanding scientists, inventors, writers, musicians, programmers can grow. But this requires suitable conditions. If they are not there, such a child may poorly perceive the meanings of words, study poorly and, of course, not feel a craving for the educational process.
How to make a child who is "all in himself" learn. First, create suitable conditions - sound ecology, first of all at home. The especially sensitive hearing of a sound engineer is injured by loud noises, screams, negative meanings in the speech of adults. But quiet classical music is good for the ears, studying at a music school will also be beneficial.
The lessons for such a child should be done in silence. Give him more time to comprehend the material. Never say words that call into question the intelligence of a child, for example: "Well, why are you such a slow-witted person?" It is advisable that the child has his own room or simply was given the opportunity to sometimes retire, to be alone.
- How to encourage. If the conditions for development are suitable, then special encouragement in study is not required: thinking, thinking is a natural pleasure for a sound engineer. Often, sound scientists are interested in the topic of space or the origin of life on Earth - you can encourage your child to go to the planetarium or on a suitable excursion. Home-loving sound people - to give books on such topics.
- What to look for. You cannot punish the fact that the child withdraws into himself and does not understand well what they want from him. The most important thing is not to raise your voice at him, not to shout. Once, when screaming, from over-stress, the child may “come out” and even figure out something faster than usual, but at a long distance, with constant stress of this kind, it will be more difficult for him to understand people, and the results in his studies will only get worse … This stress in young children can lead to autism.
4. The child is stubborn and refuses to do homework. Or just endlessly postpones homework for later. When he finally undertakes to complete them, the homework stretches for several hours.
Such problems can arise in children with the properties of the anal vector of the psyche. By nature, these children are leisurely, assiduous, attentive to every detail. They are the potential best students, they are given not only perseverance, but also a phenomenal memory.
For the successful development of such a child, it is important to study calmly in his unhurried rhythm, so that he is not interrupted or rushed. He needs a lot of repetition of the material - this way he better assimilates every detail.
It happens that a teacher or educator has a too quick and laconic presentation of the material and such a child cannot perceive it. Or the speed of completing tasks that the teacher requires is significantly higher than that with which the child is able to work. Then he gets confused, gets lost, gets lost in thought and cannot assimilate the material normally.
The more he is rushed, the more he "hangs", up to a stupor. And later he begins to react with protests ("I will not go to school! I will not teach lessons!"). Even aggressive behavior may occur.
- If such a child does not want to learn - what to do? At least at home, you can give your child the opportunity to repeatedly and slowly repeat the material covered. And also, for his part, give him more time for ordinary actions in everyday life - that is, also remove attempts to "speed up" the child. Then, gradually, the speed of completing tasks will become higher for him - but it will never be the same as, for example, for a shustrik with a skin vector. But the material learned by a person with an anal vector is remembered for a long time, perhaps forever. Each child has its own nature.
- How to encourage. The best encouragement for children with an anal vector is the approval and praise of loved ones, especially mom. When this is not enough, the child grows up offended, constantly dissatisfied. Indeed, by nature, he wants to be the best son or daughter for his mother, the best student in the class. It happens that in high school such a child even wonders how to force himself to study. But without the necessary conditions created by adults, he is not able to resolve this situation himself.
- How to punish. If you show a child dissatisfaction with his behavior and deprive him of praise, he has already been punished. For any child, punishment is not a "stick", but "the absence of a carrot", that is, that desired thing that the child would like to receive.
Modern urban children often have the properties of 3-4 vectors at once, so it is important for parents to know and understand all the qualities that nature has endowed the child with. There are certain age characteristics that are also important to consider.
Preschooler: what are the problems with learning?
At preschool age, problems may already appear to some extent in children with different vectors. But more often than others, mothers of skin children are worried: educators, even in kindergarten, in preparation for school, note that the child is restless. Turns around, inattentive, often has difficulties with writing skills (in notebooks everything is clumsy and done in a hurry).
In fact, it is enough to rely on natural talents in the skin vector: if you present new information in the form of outdoor games, the child will learn it without difficulty. It is easier and more interesting to develop writing skills through the passage of "labyrinths" in a notebook. If at the same time it is necessary to lay a "path" to a hidden treasure or secret - the child will be involved with all his soul.
It can be difficult for little sound professionals to adapt in a noisy company of their peers, but a kindergarten is necessary for any child from 3 years old. It is there that the first skills of socialization are formed, not having finished which, the child may face difficulties already at school, and this will already affect the educational process.
It is worth paying attention to those whose children have an anal-visual combination of vectors. Visual children are often sick, especially at a younger age. At the same time, it is important for a child with the properties of an anal vector to assimilate information sequentially, in order. If, due to illness, the child missed classes - be sure to fill in the gaps at home or with a tutor. Otherwise, the child will become lost, feel insecure and may lose interest in learning.
If a child categorically does not want not only to study, but also to attend kindergarten in general, pay attention to this.
Talk to the parents of other children - how willingly do their kids go to kindergarten? If the problem is common - most likely, the children do not feel safe there. Perhaps the teacher does not suppress the aggression of children towards each other, or even breaks off his bad mood on the kids.
First time in first grade: what if the child does not want to go to school?
If a child has not attended kindergarten, has not received sufficient skills for social adaptation, he is forced to learn this during school years. And at first, a first grader may not fit into the team, feel like a stranger.
Not feeling belonging to a group, he partly loses a sense of security and safety, this can affect his studies. But if parents and teachers approach the situation competently and sensitively, the problem will gradually be leveled.
If before the first grade everything was fine and the child grasped learning skills on the fly, and the problems began with entering school, then most likely the child lacks a sense of security in the school team. And the point is not even necessarily in the "evil teacher" - it is quite enough that the teacher does not interfere in the conflicts of the children, and they solve them on their own.
Children on their own are capable of creating only a "primitive flock", that is, they unite in hostility to someone, and this always has a destructive effect on the team. When there is at least one outcast in the class, no one can study normally.
Adult participation is needed to create an effective learning environment. They should create general rules, prohibitions on the manifestation of any aggression: both physical and verbal. At the same time, educational work is being carried out: children are taught the skills of culture, empathy for each other, and helping the weak. Then a healthy team is formed, where the abilities of each child will be maximized.
If the teachers of your school do not create the proper conditions themselves, then parents can also join and influence the situation through parental committees and in-school organizations.
It is important to know! As soon as a child becomes forced to deal with his own safety, to defend himself from an aggressive environment, his development is inhibited. And the desire to learn disappears.
Secondary school: new conditions
Moving to the middle level is associated with big changes. Instead of one teacher, several appear at once. The most important role here will be played by the new class teacher and how much he will be able to create conditions of safety and security in the team.
Guys with an anal vector are more difficult to adapt to change in general. They may miss their former teacher. It will be good if you maintain communication and emotional connection with this teacher: he will be able to support and cheer up the child.
For any children, when moving to the middle level, a lot will depend on the skills of social adaptation. If you have had problems with this before, then the need to adapt to several new teachers will add more difficulties.
When a teenager doesn't want to study
Adolescence is the most difficult age in the development of a child's personality. During this period, studies are inevitably relegated to the background, and attempts to “rank” among peers come to the fore.
Boys are trying to take their place on the social ladder. And girls naturally try to "get around", that is, they strive to please the boy, to attract interest.
This is a natural mechanism: after all, with the end of puberty, the guys will enter adulthood, and preparation for it arises a little earlier. However, parents are seriously worried: after all, study is a necessary condition for the independent life of children in the future to develop successfully and happily.
The emotional connection between children and their parents plays a huge role in this period. And also - the psychological competence of adults, their ability to create such conditions so that the desire to learn from a child does not fade away, but promotes the maximum development of innate properties - this is the guarantee of a future happy adult life of a person.
The main condition for successful studies
Any child feels a desire to develop and learn new things only under one condition: when he feels his own security and safety - physical and psychological.
The child himself is not yet able to create it for himself - only adults can do it. A child's sense of security and safety is made up of the following components:
- The child should not be subjected to physical abuse and psychological pressure (humiliation, bullying, etc.).
- Of great importance is the psychological state of the mother, with whom the child is connected until puberty by an invisible psychological “umbilical cord”. Her conditions greatly affect how the child feels. When a mother is depressed or fearful, irritated or resentful, the child loses a sense of security and safety.
- The methods of upbringing and teaching should be built taking into account the psychological properties of the child (we have described examples above).
A child can lose a sense of security at an early age - in the family - and later - in a preschool institution, at school.
The development of the child is also affected by factors that we often do not know or do not attach much importance to. To give children the maximum, modern parents must understand how the human psyche works.
Yuri Burlan's training "System-vector psychology" allows parents to understand their child without words. Know exactly how his psyche works and how to awaken his extinguished desire to study in him. In addition, mothers receive high-quality psychological assistance at this training, get rid of any of their own problems.
Being a guarantor of safety for your child and knowing exactly how to inspire him to explore the world is a great maternal happiness.
