All the best for children. New iPhone, or the torment of freedom of choice
“All the best for children”. The author of this phrase today is unlikely to be established with accuracy. Probably, it is not so important who was the first to utter the words that expressed the political meaning of the moment and became a guide to action for several generations of Russians. One thing is indisputable: from the first days of Soviet power, massive investments in childhood have become one of the most visible features of the modern era.
In England, when a child crosses the street, everything stops.
In Russia, a child sets everything in motion.
"His Majesty the Child" - this was said by Europe, and Russia is doing it.
(M. Tsvetaeva, 1932)
“All the best for children”. The author of this phrase today is unlikely to be established with accuracy. Probably, it is not so important who was the first to utter the words that expressed the political meaning of the moment and became a guide to action for several generations of Russians. One thing is indisputable: from the first days of Soviet power, massive investments in childhood have become one of the most visible features of the modern era.
Raising a new person
The young Soviet country, with the whole essence of its urethral mentality aspiring to the future, needed new people like air - without remnants of the bourgeois past, without the stigma of an animal possessive instinct, without a hint of a nationalist stench - people of the future. The upbringing of such people became the primary task of the authorities, a condition for the country's survival and a guarantee of the continuation of the new state in time.
The Soviet state, not in words, but in deeds, took care of the younger generation. Children were really given the best. The former landowners' estates housed children's health resorts and pioneer homes, new schools and kindergartens were built, an irreconcilable war against neglect was waged. There were no other children. Homeless children were brought up in a collective according to the unique methodology of A. S. Makarenko, which allowed everyone to become a full member of society.
High culture of verse (M. Tsvetaeva)
Nowhere in the world has the protection of mothers and children been raised to such a height; Soviet general secondary education was justly considered the best. The best writers, poets, artists created for children, the quality of children's literature in the USSR was excellent. Against the background of the endless offer of modern electronic printing delights, it is difficult to believe in that almost a century-old breakthrough in literature for children. Let us turn to the opinion of a contemporary - the poet Marina Tsvetaeva.
Here is what she writes about Soviet children's books: “The high culture of poetry. This is how poets did not write for children in my childhood. The very theme of these books: real, in contrast to the pseudo-fantasy that dominated Russian preschool literature for so long and so recently, all these fairies, gnomes, flowers and moths that do not correspond to either the nationality (the first) or nature (the second). … There are rams in the new children's literature, but they are rams, and they graze on the pastures of Turkestan, and their wool is in shreds, not curled by the hairdresser … By the way, about paper: excellent. The print is large, black, precisely - clear. A separate article would be needed about illustrations … High culture of hand and eye. Let's take a penny (the price is 1 penny) edition of Pushkin's fairy tales. “About the Golden Cockerel”, about “The Fisherman and the Fish” - on page 16 of the text - 8 pages of pictures, in three colors. And - what pictures!No pre-war Knebel can compare. For a penny, a child can read and see Pushkin's fairy tale with his eyes "(M. Tsvetaeva" Works ", in 2 volumes, vol. 2, M.," Hud. Lit. "1988).
To see Pushkin “for a penny”, to hear Tchaikovsky and Rimsky-Korsakov in the first theater with a repertoire for children - the Children's Theater of the Mossovet, led by the amazing Natalia Sats, to relax for free in a pioneer camp or a children's sanatorium - all this was a reality for all the children of the Soviet country. The cost of attending a kindergarten, music or sports school ranged from symbolic to zero, many free clubs and sports sections made it possible for children, regardless of the income of their parents, to develop in accordance with their natural predestination.
I am a child, give me the best
Now you can often hear that Soviet toys were wretched, and the clothes were ugly. There is some truth in this. A sexless baby doll looks pale next to the beauty of Barbie. Modern kids are all dressed up in fashionable clothes, and the toys are simply fantastic. But still. Are these clothes and these toys really the best we can give them, often denying ourselves what we need?
In the new conditions of the cutaneous phase of development of society, a child is one of the indicators of the consistency of parents, their success in life. We no longer wait for help from the state, but we are still ready to provide our children with only the best: the most fashionable clothes, the most advanced toys, the most prestigious school, a car, etc. The consumer society with our hands, or rather collective unconscious ideas from the complementary to our urethral the mentality of the Soviet past, confidently turns our children into capricious and demanding consumers.
Parents who are accustomed to giving cannot do otherwise. Not realizing the systemic mental processes occurring with them, from the best intentions, Russian parents transfer the irrepressible return of the urethral mentality to the most accessible object - their beloved child, by which they pave his way into a real hell, into a dead end of endless consumption. We do not have a skin rationality that limits investment in children even in the wealthiest families.
It's nice to get pleasure from the bestowal, at least according to the compensatory principle, close to the anal psychotype: "I didn't have this, let the child have it." But technologies that are rapidly developing in the skin phase provide each new generation with literally everything that the parents did not have, just have time to pay. It is clear that the child accustomed to receiving is in no hurry to grow up. Stuck in the cozy diapers of infantilism, such a human axolotl naturally turns into an underdeveloped and unrealized non-adaptive. Unfortunately, more and more Russian families are faced with the problem of the infantilism of grown children: "We invested so much in it, tore it away from ourselves, and he …"
New iPhone, or the torment of freedom of choice
It turns out that the old Soviet slogan "All the best for children" does not work in new skin conditions? To whom, then, should the best be given? Experts advise turning to the historical experience of a patriarchal peasant family, where the best piece was not due to the child, but to the breadwinners - the father and adult children who work on an equal basis with him. It is proposed to explain to the child that winter boots for the mother are more important than the new iPhone for him.
These are probably the right thoughts. Only will they be adequately perceived by a child who is forced to operate with material objects, the value of which is comparable, therefore, the priority will remain controversial? Reluctantly under the pressure of adults, the child may agree with the need for winter boots for the mother, but the resentment against the mother will remain in his soul, the first "not given", the first anger and thirst for revenge will form. Such a deprived-underestimated will grow up and will certainly try to equalize the score, balance the underdelivery with his underdevelopment to parents, children, and society. How to teach a child to give with joy?
Russian children and their systemically thinking parents have an undeniable advantage over the rest of the world - our common mental values: urethral return, muscular unity, the sound priority of the spiritual over the material. To help a child from an early age to join these amazingts of our ancestors is the task of the educator. It is difficult to overestimate the importance of Russian literature here.
Reading Russian classics with a child, unobtrusively emphasizing the key properties of the Russian mentality, empathy with the heroes of Pushkin, Lermontov, Gorky, Gaidar, and other wonderful representatives of the Russian word, conversations on eternal topics with building "bridges" from fairy tales to reality, from stories from ancient life to the reality surrounding the child - all this will create in the child's soul the necessary basis for the formation of a unique Russian system of values, where the choice between receiving for oneself and selfless giving for the benefit of another is impossible in principle, like the choice between breathing and not breathing. To live physically means to breathe, to be mentally Russian, mentally means to give.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan teaches parents to see and understand the deep structure of the psyche of their children from infancy. Knowing the properties of each vector component and the rules for mixing vectors, it is easy to imagine both a favorable and an unfavorable life scenario for a person. Awareness of the direct dependence of the happiness of their child on the degree of development of his mental state forces systemically thinking parents (educators) to make every effort to maximize the natural abilities of the child, that is, to bring all his vector properties outward, in return for the benefit of other people, the country, the flock.
It is no coincidence that the concept of “development” itself contains the concept of “outward,” in bestowal. It is impossible to develop "for oneself", the scanty pleasure from self-improvement for the sake of self-satisfaction cannot be compared with the endless pleasure from giving one's abilities for the common good.
In a nutshell, the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan is about exactly this - about the vital necessity of everyone's bestowal for the survival of all. This knowledge is the best that we must pass on to children.
