Educating a child's feelings in the era of clip thinking
Can a child be taught to experience such complex and voluminous feelings as love, compassion and empathy, if today easy pleasures are available more than ever? Will your child want to build emotional bonds with other people that require mental investment if you can make friends with a smart electronic toy?
Life is increasingly moving beyond the screens of gadgets. Work - at the computer, leisure - in front of the TV, the road - in the smartphone. Continuous flow of information, fast change of pictures, sharp switching of the topic of the material. We get used to thinking in fragments, remembering only the main things, without delving deeper into the problem or event.
The era of globalization and standardization, the information era, the age of technology and super speeds. Our clip thinking is a kind of adaptation to new conditions of existence. Today we live in the midst of huge flows of information, we work with data arrays that we do not have time to process. And in the same conditions we are raising our children who master many devices almost from infancy.
The lack of parental control over the child's presence on the Internet, strict filtering of information in which the child is immersed, significantly complicates the development of the sensory component of a growing personality. Being constantly immersed in "toys", the child does not learn to contact people, build emotional connections with them. This worries many parents who are unsuccessfully trying to return the child to the real world, to adapt him to life, while the moment when this could be done has already been missed.
Can a child be taught to experience such complex and voluminous feelings as love, compassion and empathy, if today easy pleasures are available more than ever? Will your child want to build emotional bonds with other people that require mental investment if you can make friends with a smart electronic toy? Let's try to figure it out with the help of the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan.
Indifference is a generational trait
Even 30 years ago, going to the cinema was considered a grandiose event, and watching a cartoon was a rare piece of luck or a reward for good behavior. Now the child faces another problem - to choose which cartoon he has not seen yet, which game he has not played yet, how he has not yet had fun.
Much of the time that was previously occupied by communication with peers, reading books and active games is being replaced by virtual activities that do not require any communication skills or creating an emotional connection with other people.
The availability of almost any entertainment, including the most piquant, and far from high quality, a huge number of humorous programs, cartoons, videos and performances ridiculing the shortcomings or embarrassment of another person significantly devalues the feelings we experience, emasculates the emotional sphere, leaving behind emptiness and inability to empathize, especially in the child's psyche.
In pursuit of light and primitive pleasure, we ourselves often go beyond all boundaries. So, the family got into a car accident due to the fact that the mother, while driving, posted a photo of her child in the car seat on the social network. Also, the most successful and impressive selfie may be the last in the life of a desperate selfie.
Peering into smartphones, we increasingly pass by, not noticing a fallen old man or a crying child. Indifference of adults turns into aggression and cruelty of the younger generation. The mother's indifference turns into the daughter's absolute callousness.
Yes, the fight against temptation has always been difficult. The proximity, accessibility and simplicity of technological and virtual entertainment draws us into laziness, inertia and passivity almost every day.
But! The secret is that it mostly concerns adults. It is much easier for children to cope with such addictions until a certain age - until they are formed, they only need to instill in time the skill to enjoy communicating with people.
New children - new methods
Our new, strange and amazing Generation Z, born after 2000, differs from their parents, first of all, in the strength of their desires. For them, a full-fledged, powerful and holistic implementation of innate psychological properties becomes a priority, no matter what set of vectors nature endows them with.
Raising a generation with such a high potential is both a difficult, responsible and very exciting process. The psychological literacy of the parents plays an extremely important role here, which gives a deep understanding of the child's inner world, his deepest desires, urgent needs and conditions for the optimal development of talents.
The peculiarities of the development of the child's psyche, the principles of education of feelings and the mechanisms of the formation of cultural restrictions in modern children are clearly explained by the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.
In the process of growing up, each child goes through those stages of development of the psyche that all of humanity has gone through for more than one millennium. Until the end of puberty (up to 12-16 years old) there is a process of psychological development, after graduation, the implementation of vector properties begins, which continues throughout life. In adult life, a person realizes himself at the level to which his properties managed to develop during childhood.
The developmental process can only be started with the preserved feeling of security and safety that the mother gives the child. A strong emotional bond with your mom is essential. Only then can we move on and talk about any kind of psychological development.
Under the conditions of adequate systemic education, the carrot method works perfectly. When a child acquires the skill of realizing his properties at a higher level according to his vectors, he feels a stronger fulfillment, and therefore a more powerful pleasure from his actions.
The emotional experience associated with interaction with another person is a realization of a much higher level than a toy on the phone.
A book read by parents aloud with expression, evoking compassion for the characters, leaves a much stronger impression on a child at an early age than another cartoon "about nothing." A tree planted with parents or a bird feeder made shifts the focus of interests from the pictures flashing on the screen to wildlife. Involvement in caring for a sick grandmother or helping a lonely neighbor forms the ability to feel the feelings of another person, to be compassionate and share his kindness with people. Each tear shed for another becomes a new step in the development of the child's feelings.
The ability to love is a real art, and it consists, first of all, in the ability to love people, in the ability to feel and share someone else's pain and put it above your own. The ability in word and deed to help another person cope with suffering is the highest degree of development of feelings. Love before self-sacrifice is the peak of the development of the visual vector of the human psyche, which carries the greatest emotional potential.
It is possible and necessary to instill a culture of empathy, the value of compassion, to cultivate favor for the needy and the weak in any child, even without a visual vector. After all, high cultural values are the key to successful adaptation of a person in society and an excellent help for the implementation of any psychological properties at the highest level.
Living in the heart
For children who have a visual vector, emotional development becomes an extremely important process of the formation of the psyche until the end of puberty, the aerobatics in the manifestation of the properties of which is the ability to feel the feelings and experiences of another person and share them with him, put himself in his place, feel his pain, as his.
It is for the development of a visual baby that the complete absence of frightening moments in his life is extremely important in childhood. Whether it is reading scary tales, playing in the dark, cruel cartoons or toys, any horror stories and threats in the style of "I'll leave you here" or "now your uncle will take you away" and the like.
The visual vector, like all others, develops from a primitive level into its complete opposite. From the fear of death, which every pre-cultured, primitive person with a visual vector carried, to selfless love for people.
Frightened, the visual child stops in his development, and empathizing with others, he learns to love, bringing his fears out and thereby getting rid of any phobias or panic as psychological garbage in the future. Love is the other side of fear. Either a person is afraid of everything and seeks again and again confirmation of his fears, or he acquires the ability to love, filling his life to the brim with the most powerful pleasure and desire to create.
Modern children with great power of desires instantly sense the possibility of more powerful pleasure and grab onto it, not agreeing henceforth to less. Therefore, it is not difficult to educate feelings in the new generation. The main thing is to understand the child's wishes and offer him a more delicious gingerbread.
The effectiveness of the systemic upbringing of children can be assessed solely by the sustainable results of the practical application of the knowledge gained during the training. You can read the feedback from the trainees here.
All the secrets and features of education of feelings in modern children can be learned at the training of Yuri Burlan. Register for the next free online lectures on systemic vector psychology here. Free admission.
