When the male body is a burden. Part 1 Girl in Boy
In science, the phenomenon of transsexualism is called sexual dysphoria. Sex reassignment surgery is believed to be the only effective treatment. Traditional psychology and psychiatry are not able to help transsexuals find their place in society in the gender role in which they were born.
For several years she was the muse of the brilliant Salvador Dali, who presented her with his mysterious paintings. She was credited with whirlwind romances with Brian Jones, John Lennon, Jimi Hendrix, Mick Jagger and other idols of the musical party. Then David Bowie appeared in her fate, with the light hand of which she herself became an idol, or rather, the queen of European disco and an Italian pop star.
An active musical career ended with a transition to a "new level": having accepted a marriage proposal from a French aristocrat, she settled in his mansion and took up painting. Feminine and sexy to the last hair on her head, she could not get rid of the steady train of rumors about her past. It was said that she was born a man named Alan, and that the sex change operation was paid for by Dali, captivated by her beauty and charm.
Today Amanda Lear is in her 70s, but she doesn't look like an old woman at all. On traditional questions about his "male origin" Lear habitually laughs it off. The excitement around her past during her musical career played into the hands of her popularity - many viewers came not only to listen to her songs, but also to gaze at the “artificial” woman who became a pop diva. The unusual low timbre of her voice indirectly confirmed the rumors, but Amanda herself said that she was a woman to the tips of her nails, and she was quite happy with that.
Her answer neither proves nor refutes anything, for it is transgender women who demonstrate their femininity more and more vividly. That is, those who were born as boys. As an enthusiastic reader of the autobiography of one of the first scandalous transsexuals wrote on the Web, "she has more of a woman than she will ever be in me!"
The first "postoperative" women have long since become dry-haired old women, but have not lost either their proud posture, or their gloss and defiant femininity. Many of them, closer to old age, were drawn to memoirs in which they told their stories that could shock even the sophisticated modern reader.
Duncan Fallover, co-author of one such author, once shared his observation of transsexual women. In his opinion, only a few of them want to become ordinary women (although, of course, there are some). Most of those with whom he happened to interact proudly embody the "super glamorous, flashy and shiny type of femininity."
A well-known phrase was said by someone about the transsexual star of 1960s Parisian cabarets, Cochinella: "A woman as beautiful as Cochinella can only be a man."
Behind this striking beauty and femininity for show, there are serious reasons that go deep into the subconscious. Natural women rarely think of demonstrating their femininity in a particularly defiant way, because everyone already knows who they are. Another thing is men who turned into women thanks to hormones and the skill of surgeons. They really, really, VERY need that no one even had a shadow of doubt that they were a woman. And why, they themselves do not understand, attributing everything to the "mistake of nature."
Transsexuals feel “born in someone else’s body” and their main goal, fix idea, meaning of life and a source of strength to combat inertia and rejection of the environment becomes an irresistible desire to change their outer shell and bring it into line with their inner gender identity.
Transsexuals should not be confused with transvestites, who are quite content to dress up as the opposite sex. Moreover, transvestism is not by default a sign of transsexualism, since most transvestites, although they are unable to resist their urge to dress up, do not always fully identify themselves with the opposite sex and / or strive to “cut off the excess”. Although the roots of both phenomena grow from the same place. And this place is only indirectly related to the causal.
Girl in boy
In May 2013, in Thailand, in the popularly beloved city of Pattaya, the VII annual Miss International Queen beauty contest was held. Twenty breathtaking beauties from fifteen countries competed in elegance and charm. As a result, the queen's crown went to the Philippines. Speaking to reporters, the incredibly feminine winner with tears in her eyes said that winning the competition makes her happy and well-deserved pride, but most of all she hopes that this victory will help her father finally accept her as a daughter, and not as … a son …
To this we can only add that the winner's name is Kevin and she is the only son in the family. Well, Miss International Queen is a beauty pageant for transsexuals.
Looking at the wonderful participants in the competition, in which there is nothing rude and courageous, you involuntarily begin to think: maybe nature really made a mistake and put women's souls into men's bodies? After all, this is how transsexuals explain their obsessive desire to reshape their bodies: they want the body to match their "female" soul. Does nature make mistakes so often? Around the world, several tens of thousands of operations are performed annually, during which surgeons cut off "excess" from male bodies. The number of trances languishing on the waiting list is even more impressive, there are actually hundreds of thousands of them!
And this despite the fact that the life of transsexuals may seem like an eternal holiday only to tourists in Thailand. The life reality of trance before the operation is not a carnival or a holiday, but rather a painful existence, sometimes bordering on tragedy. Much happier are transvestites who get satisfaction from dressing up in women's clothes, and often from essentially homosexual sex with men. It's not enough for transsexuals to dress up as a girl. And homosexual relationships in most cases cause terror and active rejection in them. Feeling like girls on the inside, they strive to become girls on the outside. And the most complete girls. Without any "alien" body parts that betray their natural origin.
Background: Transsexuals are born with a sense of belonging to the opposite sex. This is manifested in their attitude and behavior: they try to change their appearance, wear clothes of the gender to which they consider themselves, but only their external similarity does not satisfy them, they strive with all their might to accept hormones and to change the sex operation. After the operation, men who have changed their sex to women often undergo corrective facial plastic surgery to achieve the most feminine look.
In science, the phenomenon of transsexualism is called sexual dysphoria. Sex reassignment surgery is believed to be the only effective treatment. Traditional psychology and psychiatry are not able to help transsexuals find their place in society in the gender role in which they were born.
… And the surgeon created a woman
In 1970, American director Irving Rapper directed The Story of Christine Jorgensen about the real fate of one of the first postoperative women in the United States. At one time, Christine's story made a splash - in the early 50s of the last century, sex reassignment surgeries were something of a fantasy, in the USA at that time they were not done at all. Christine, or rather, then George, found a surgeon willing to help her trouble in Denmark. Two years of hormone therapy (more than 200 injections) and 6 operations turned her into a woman of her own dreams.
She really became a spectacular beauty - "the ex-soldier turned into a beautiful blonde," the newspapers wrote. But did Christine live exactly the life she dreamed of? I managed to watch one of her last interviews, where she, already a respectable elderly lady, with the speech and manners of a true lady, talks about the events of her youth and her life.
“I am often asked if I’m happy,” a retired transsexual woman said with a sad smile, “and so, happiness is somewhere out there, at an unattainable height,” while she gestured with her hand up, “and I am somewhere much lower … But I live in harmony with myself. Transledy died of cancer in 1989 at the age of 62, of which 37 lived in a woman's body.
For most of those who decide to undergo a surgical gender reassignment, as well as for Christine, this is the most important thing - to live in harmony with oneself, with one's inner self. The well-known Soviet and Russian sexologist Igor Kon, following the results of his own observations of the life of the transsexuals he examined, came to the conclusion that even despite a difficult or unsuccessful personal life, only a few who changed sex later regret the operation, which once again proves the strength of their desire to be someone else, not by who they were born.
Over the past 60 years, Christine's "feat" has been repeated by tens of thousands of transgenic girls. The first of them became legends, for example, the famous Englishwoman April Ashley, who wrote the world bestsellers "The Odyssey of April Ashley" and "The First Lady". Now she is 78 years old, of which 53 years have been lived in a woman's body. Interestingly, it wasn't until the age of 70 that Ashley was finally legally recognized as a woman.
Other well-known "pioneers" are considered the aforementioned Cochinella and Bambi. After undergoing gender reassignment surgery, they both worked in famous Parisian clubs and had dozens of male fans. After some time, the paths of her friends parted ways: Cochinella remained a party girl and a cabaret artist, continuing to perform with songs until her death (at 75!), Bambi, feeling a strong craving for the kids she could not have, received a teacher's certificate and for a quarter of a century she worked as a teacher of literature.
Another trans-beauty, Alisha Brevard, began her life as a woman with self-castration and hormone intake, after which she managed to get permission for surgery. Until the very old age, she successfully hid her past: she married three times, performed on stage, played episodic roles of fatal beauties in the cinema. And only "after retirement", she decided on revelations, the most terrible and incredible of which is her story about self-castration. She shares this with curious readers in her book "The Woman I Wasn't Born: A Transsexual Journey."
Agree, in order to decide on this, you need truly strong motives and an all-consuming desire to be a woman. Or not be a man.
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