Anxiety
Today, more and more people come to the reception with complaints of anxiety. They do not name the reasons for this anxiety, they say that it arises suddenly and does not allow thinking and sleep, does not allow living.
Today, more and more people come to the reception with complaints of anxiety. They do not name the reasons for this anxiety, they say that it arises suddenly and does not allow thinking and sleep, does not allow living.
What is anxiety and where does it come from?
Anxiety is the loss of a sense of security. The feeling of security is a basic human need that is formed (or not formed) in early childhood and affects all areas of an individual's activity throughout his life.
In early childhood, the feeling of safety for a child is equivalent to a signal that his life is protected and nothing threatens his integrity, he can grow and develop. And if not? If the child is not developing a sense of security? And parents, for example, by their behavior form the child's attitude that safety will be ensured only on the condition that the child performs certain actions indicated by the parents and loses a sense of security when taking initiative and trying to disobey?
In early childhood, this form of parental behavior leads to an increase in the level of anxiety in the child. Manifesting himself in activity, he will constantly look back at the reaction of significant adults and look for support in their eyes for his innocence. In adolescence, he will be prone to self-digging, up to obsessive doubts about the correctness of his actions, and we will be able to observe an insecure and anxious teenager.
Subsequently, we can see an adult who does not have the initiative, but clearly follows the instructions, is extremely dependent on the approval of others and is extremely vulnerable to disapproval and criticism from the environment. If such a person is engaged in activities that bring him pleasure against the wishes of the leadership or persons significant and authoritative for him, then he cannot fully enjoy his actions because of the strongest sense of guilt, which entails additional emotional stress and often strengthening anxiety. Thus, we see a person trapped in a vicious circle of anxiety and constant tension. More often, an increase in the level of anxiety in such people is observed after 40 years. There is a sharp dissatisfaction with oneself as a spouse, parent, employee at work, over the years this feeling does not disappear,it can leave a person for a short while to return again with greater strength and intensity.
Based on the foregoing, we can conclude that spontaneous unmotivated anxiety of high intensity in an adult is the result of the manifestation of his insufficiently formed sense of security in childhood. Childhood attitudes “I’m safe as long as I get approval” forms a dependent personality with high levels of anxiety. To some extent, such a person can be called infantile, since she constantly seeks confirmation of her safety in the form of the approval of others. Otherwise, anxiety grows, the reasons for which are not recognized by a person due to deep repression into the sphere of the unconscious. However, this type of manifestation of anxiety is typical for people with certain innate qualities, combined with an unformed sense of security in childhood.
At Yuri Burlan's training "System-vector psychology", these people are defined as people with an anal vector. When the visual is added to the anal vector, we have a combination of anxiety along with visual wobbles in fear about the future. People with an anal vector have certain psychological characteristics, which can be found in more detail at the free lectures of Yuri Burlan "System-vector psychology".
The visual vector, especially in combination with the anal vector, plays an important role in the formation of anxiety or even anxious and suspicious personality type. Children with a visual vector need special attention from their parents. For them, the most important component of psychological comfort is a strong emotional connection with mom and dad. When they feel loved, they are safe, then there is no anxiety or fear.
It is worth noting that children's night fears in visual children are quite common. And it often happens that parents allow the child to sleep in their bed until six, and sometimes up to eight years. It is quite obvious that in this case the child may have problems with adaptation among peers. As he grows up, he will involuntarily repeat his childhood scenario: to seek and demand love from an authority figure in order to provide himself with a sense of security, thereby reducing the level of anxiety.
The opposite scenario is also possible: such adults begin to patronize, care for and dominate their partner (in a pair), as if it was their child, and not a partner. This is a kind of way to show others how "I have to do so that I feel good, but you will not be able to do it as well as I do."
With this version of the life scenario, the basis for the relationship is the feeling of guilt as a lever for manipulating the partner. This also reduces anxiety to some extent, but does not bring satisfaction in life. Parents with an anal-visual combination of vectors, if anxiety remains at a high level, show a hyper-protective style of upbringing in relation to children, while spreading their anxiety and hyper-protectiveness not only to their own child, but also to other children. And they often turn the life of their child and their own life into disappointment and tears from broken hopes.
As an example, I will cite a clinical case from my practice that vividly describes the psychological characteristics of a person with anal and visual vectors.
M., 55 years old, turned to the reception. Works as a history teacher at school. She came accompanied by a relative. She is withdrawn in conversation, speaks in a low voice, avoids eye contact. Answers questions in monosyllables. He discloses his feelings reluctantly. The mimicry is sad.
Complaints of unmotivated anxiety, apathy, unwillingness to do anything, constant general weakness, emotional exhaustion, bad mood, sleep disturbance with difficult falling asleep and frequent nighttime awakenings, poor appetite (lost 7 kg in weight within a month).
Reported that this condition first occurred five years ago. Then, at the insistence of a relative, she turned to a psychiatrist, after taking a course of psychopharmacotherapy, the patient's condition improved.
A real deterioration in his condition was noted within two months, when, allegedly, against the background of "general well-being", attacks of unmotivated anxiety, sleep disturbances began to appear, subsequently a constant lack of strength and a bad mood began to disturb.
According to a relative, the patient is also systematically disturbed by constipation for 4-5 days.
With this statement, the patient M. said that she had completely forgotten about this fact.
Psychological status: emotionally labile, anxious, withdrawn, touchy, requires special attention. The mood is lowered neurotic. I am prone to introspection, often "before going to bed I replay in my head unpleasant events that happened during the day." Extremely asthenic, emaciated. In conversation, she is inactive, passive. Thinking is rigid, viscous, somewhat slow in pace. Intellectual-mnestic functions are not impaired, somewhat depleted. Vegetatively unstable. Sleep is disturbed. No appetite. The criticism of the state is formal.
Treatment was prescribed, followed by an appointment for examination in two weeks.
When analyzing a clinical case, it is impossible not to pay attention to the fact that the patient herself did not put forward as a complaint the presence of systematic long-term constipation, probably due to the psychosomatic nature of their occurrence.
From a conversation with the patient, it was possible to find out that in childhood and adolescence there were also frequent cases of stool retention for four days, which did not cause the patient much discomfort, that is, there was an unconscious stool retention and rectal stimulation with feces in order to relieve tension in a stressful situation.
In the process of working with M., it turned out that her relations in the team had recently deteriorated: “Young colleagues do not recognize my authority, question the quality of my teaching, as if they whisper behind my back that it is time for me to retire.” At the same time, I felt resentment, did not want to go to work, and lost interest in teaching. Around the same time, appetite disappeared, sleep disturbances began, and constipation appeared.
Obviously, in this case we are talking about a dependent, anxious personality, focused on the approval of others. It can be assumed that the repressed attitudes acquired in childhood with a certain semantic repetition of situations associated with the loss of a sense of security in adult life are capable of causing emotional experiences characteristic of a child using primitive methods of psychological defense in the form of regression and denial. They cause an infantile model of behavior in situations of latent conflict in the form of relationship avoidance. In other words, in the event of a situation reminiscent of a loss of safety from childhood, a 55-year-old woman psychologically regresses into childhood when the attitude described above was acquired.
When analyzing anxiety in each individual clinical case, its cause lies deep in the unconscious and manifests itself in the subsequent with the greater force, the deeper it was repressed. But as a psychiatrist, I am obliged to prescribe tranquilizers to a patient with anxiety, which, in turn, directly contribute to an even greater repression of anxiety, instead of analyzing its cause, relieving the person from suffering.
We can conclude that in order to understand what anxiety is, a psychologist is not needed. As the experience of a large number of people who have listened to the lectures "System-Vector Psychology" shows, anxiety and resentment of this kind disappear and the trainees again feel the fullness and joy of life. Realizing the repressed attitudes that we receive in childhood, we are forever freed from the power of depression, anxiety, and heavy offenses that prevent us from getting maximum joy and happiness from life.
