When mom and society say different things … we learn to form our own opinion
How do you know what a small person really thinks? How to teach not to blindly believe every word of other people, but to form your own opinion about everything? Can a habit of thinking and doubt be formed without losing trust in parents?
Swimming in streams of information
Different children perceive and accept information in different ways: some unconditionally trust their mother, others adopt only what is beneficial to them, or they simply forget. Still others are greatly impressed, even frightened or admired, the fourth have their own opinion about everything, the fifth generally compose themselves and tell everyone continuously.
How do you know what a small person really thinks?
How to teach not to blindly believe every word of other people, but to form your own opinion about everything?
Can a habit of thinking and doubt be formed without losing trust in parents?
The child grows up, begins to ask questions, which are becoming more difficult every day, tries to draw the first conclusions, make up causal relationships, makes the first decisions of his own, forms his own way of interacting with the world around him.
Getting into the social environment of a kindergarten, school, yard, and so on, the child feels the influence of other people - educators, nannies, teachers, comrades, neighbors, relatives. In addition, today the influence of information coming from the Internet cannot be ruled out.
Too many factors affect the child so that it would be possible to clearly and simply find out the true desires, experiences and aspirations of a small person without understanding the psychological nature of a young person. This can be done using the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, which distinguishes people by their innate properties - vectors.
The modern child is endowed with an incomparably greater temperament than previous generations. Our children have the power of desire in each vector is much higher in comparison with us and requires its own satisfaction. By understanding their innate needs, we are able to determine the optimal direction in their development.
Our way of perception of the world, our vector set, is given to us from birth. An innate set of psychological properties determines our way of perceiving information, as well as our way of declaring ourselves to the world. The period of childhood is the time when we develop not only physically, but also psychologically. This means that before the end of puberty, we have the opportunity to raise the level at which the realization of an adult personality throughout her life will take place.
However, even in childhood, the existing properties tend to be fulfilled. There is a need - there is a search for satisfaction. Someone needs praise, someone needs victory, one needs answers, another needs emotions. And the child tries to get them directly, as best he can, as he understands, how it turns out.
You can only trust your mother
The most trusting and responsible, of course, are the kids with the anal vector. For them, their mother's opinion is the most important and indisputable. The best thing for an anal child is parental praise. Natural interest in reading and learning. Such children learn and become independent rather slowly. Next to a nimble and cunning child with a skin vector, the little anal guy seems to be an ingenuous simpleton, a principled truth-fighter, somewhere even stubborn.
Phenomenal memory, analytical mind and the ability to systematize knowledge make children with an anal vector capable students and potential scientists, educators, researchers, analysts. Their opinion is always based on the knowledge gained and the opinions of specialists.
A growing anal sex is capable of becoming an expert in the chosen field of activity if the properties are developed correctly. The measured pace of any lesson, the ability to complete what you started, to complete any business, the education of accuracy, scrupulousness, accuracy and reasonable praise make it possible to develop the properties of the anal vector.
Upbringing mistakes, such as constant haste, haste, inability to finish one's activity, whatever it may be, lack of praise from parents, turn into a low development of vector properties and an inability to realize oneself in society. Mental deficiencies in the anal are manifested by touchiness, criticism, verbal or physical sadism, and so on.
And what I get for this?
“On my own mind” - this is sometimes called small leatherworkers who do nothing just like that, in everything there should be a benefit or benefit for them, otherwise why? System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan explains that logical thinking, flexibility of behavior, adaptability to any conditions and an urgent need to win, to be the first in everything, to have a material or social advantage are the qualities of a child with a skin vector.
He is not inclined to long-term concentration, but he grasps everything on the fly, leaving only the necessary information in his head, the rest is immediately forgotten. An agile, nimble fidget, he can easily organize a new game, assemble a team and distribute tasks to everyone. His opinion can change to the diametrically opposite in one second, if it is beneficial for him, cheating is not such a terrible crime for a skinner as for an anal child, it is just another way to solve his problem.
Raising a skin baby in the conditions of discipline, regime and daily routine, accustoming to self-organization and rewarding only for truly significant achievements, you can grow a talented engineer, lawyer, businessman and leader, a competent leader or an outstanding athlete.
These children quickly become independent and independent of their parents, easily adapt to any life situations and find their place under the sun. This very place will depend on the level of development of the properties of the skin vector: either a leading design engineer, or a thief, a swindler, a swindler. The presence of physical punishment, as well as frequent material rewards, in the upbringing of a leatherback causes significant damage to the development of vector properties, and hence the ability to realize oneself in adulthood.
Where is the ceiling of the sky?
Children with a visual vector are great reasons. The visual hunger for information is due to his curiosity and the need for communication, the thirst for impressions and the exchange of emotions. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan shows that the extraverted visual vector endows its owner with good observation combined with excellent vision, and he wants to share both his observations and experiences about this.
The small spectator reacts very emotionally to any information, he immediately transfers everything to himself, experiences all the events on an equal basis with their participants - rejoices or cries, is impressed or scared, admires or upset. The spectator believes in miracles, magic and fairy tales more than others. Moreover, he himself is a great dreamer and inventor.
The visual vector means imaginative thinking, a natural interest in books, films, cartoons, visual games, this is a potentially great intellectual who is easy enough to learn, a penchant for creative professions. Parents are interested and easy with him, because he hastens to share his innermost thoughts with a loved one, all his feelings are at a glance, he is always open to communication, exchange of emotions and impressions.
When the upbringing of a small spectator corresponds to his psychological properties, it is aimed primarily at fostering feelings such as compassion, empathy, and pity. The development of the visual vector occurs in the direction from oneself to another. The essence of the process is to shift the focus of emotions from oneself to the feelings of others, the transition from consumption of emotions in the style of "look at me", "love me", "pity me" to bestowal, outward, outward - this is compassion for the one to whom worse, who needs help.
A highly developed spectator cannot fall under someone else's influence, since he is not inclined to believe in omens, witchcraft, superstitions and other fantasies of swindlers and swindlers. He has a fairly large store of knowledge, developed sensuality, high intelligence and does not seek to assign responsibility for his life to anyone other than himself.
At the same time, another visual person, only of a lower level of development, is increasingly ready to rely on the miraculous power of any amulets or on the supernatural abilities of imaginary psychics. All this instead of putting your own efforts to improve your life.
I can hear the stars
Why other types of children are children with a sound vector. An unconscious yet internal question pushes them to search for answers, it is important for them to know how everything works, who a person is, where he came from, why he came and where he is going, but the main thing is what is the meaning of all this?
The sound child is interested in the issues of life and death, man and God, and is interested much earlier than other children and much deeper. He is not satisfied with evasive answers or postponing the conversation until later. Such behavior of parents will most likely lead to the fact that the sound engineer will start looking for his answers elsewhere - in books, his own thoughts, the Internet, and those who are ready to give these answers.
An already introverted child risks withdrawing into himself even more, because only for him there is a world inside and a world outside, and abstract sound thinking allows one to operate on large-scale, both physical and metaphysical categories and concepts.
The sound engineer learns letters, numbers, a phone, a tablet, a computer rather quickly and to a greater extent independently. An internal need for answers spurs information retrieval, and an innate ability to concentrate makes sound professionals potential great scientists. It is in the search for the meaning and essence of everything that exists, the sound engineer plunges into physics, quantum mechanics, astronomy and other exact sciences, searches for new sounds / meanings, creating classical music, poetry, prose, studying languages or creating them.
The Internet, as an alternative reality, is both a creation and an analogy of the sound perception of the world. The inner world of the sound engineer is the place where it is easier and faster for him to escape when the outside world becomes hostile - loud noises, noise, screams, insults, constant pulling out of thoughts, the impossibility of solitude.
A sound person at a low level of development is not able to fully realize himself in society, but his innate properties, nevertheless, require their satisfaction. And the search for religious sects, esoteric movements, meditative practices, spiritual training and other things begins.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan shows that self-knowledge for the sound vector is a powerful filling of his needs. However, this means knowing yourself as a particle of society, humanity, our world, but not as a divine being, an unrecognized genius or a great and enlightened guru. Here self-knowledge is replaced by self-deception.
Think your way, but think for yourself
Thinking in the categories of system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan makes it possible to pick up the key to raising any child, even the most difficult and incomprehensible at first glance. Each baby grows and develops according to his innate mental properties. Understanding these properties, the parent gets an idea in which direction to develop his child. Whatever the thinking of a growing personality - analytical, figurative, logical, abstract or other, it can and should be developed.
The habit of thinking from childhood is strengthened in consciousness when the child constantly feels his / her security and safety given by the parents, when he knows that his opinion is important to you, when he feels that you respect both his similarity to you and his differences, whatever they did not seem incomprehensible and alien to you.
A child begins to love to think if he notices the value of his own thoughts, when he is reckoned with and respected as a person, when his parents have answers to his questions, because children's questions are never stupid. The secrets of difficult children, the peculiarities of the development of thinking in childhood in accordance with the peculiarities of the psyche, the complexity and prospects of growing up of each child - all this and much more on free online lectures on systemic vector psychology by Yuri Burlan.
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