All inclusive relationships, or Why marriage is a thing of the past
Why do we, women, first want freedom, independence, independence, and then a moment comes when we really want to feel weak, in need of care and protection, to feel a strong shoulder and confidence in the future provided by a man?
What will be the form of the relationship between a man and a woman in the future?
Girl, are you married?
This question has disappeared from the everyday life of young people almost completely in recent decades. More and more often you can hear that marriage is a relic of the past, that a relationship without commitment is just what you need. Two people should be connected by love, partnership, mutual respect and a desire to develop together, but not the burden of obligation or outdated traditions.
Men feel great in a civil marriage. Women are increasingly pursuing their careers, relegating family issues to the background.
To reassure their parents, young people even call each other husband and wife, make common plans and live on the same living space. And everything seems to be fine, and many do this, and relationships of this kind have become the norm in modern society, but something is wrong, and it is the woman who feels it. Some timid feeling of uncertainty about the future does not leave her. No, no, yes, and some fear of uncertainty will emerge, a weak resentment towards a partner and somewhere even a slight disappointment in your choice.
What's happening? Do women get maximum freedom in relationships and make sure that this is not what they wanted? Are men really right that it is impossible to understand what a woman wants?
Why do we, women, first want freedom, independence, independence, and then a moment comes when we really want to feel weak, in need of care and protection, to feel a strong shoulder and confidence in the future provided by a man?
Where are we heading: will the concept of marriage really go away into the past? If so, what will replace them? What kind of relationship will be at the heart of the union of a man and a woman? All these questions can be answered using the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan.
The desires of a woman are the capabilities of a man
Questions of paired relationships are due to the psychological characteristics of the personality of each who is in them, as well as the influence of the mentality of the society in which they are built.
The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan reveals the facets of the unconscious at all levels of human existence - starting with the individual individual, continuing in paired relationships, collective, society and ending with the level of all mankind as a species.
Based on systemic categories, one can observe distinct changes in certain phases in the development of mankind. Changes in the thinking format, characteristic of each phase, form the perception of paired relationships exclusively as a marriage union in the anal phase of development and as a partnership in the modern cutaneous phase of human development.
Such a transition is natural and inevitable, as it is associated with many factors, including changes in the psyche of a woman.
For many centuries of the anal phase of development, the end of which was marked by the end of the Great Patriotic War, the overwhelming majority of women existed strictly within the framework of the common gender role of the continuation of the human race. The woman found herself in the role of wife and mother, taking care of the household and children, while relying entirely on the man's ability to protect and provide for her and the children.
For a long time, even in the main religions, women were not considered people, their status was equated to livestock, and the value of life depended on the ability to bear children.
The mental volume of a woman corresponded to her role in society. The level of female desire was such that it could be satisfied by realizing oneself within the family and at home. Realization in society remained the lot of the man, who guaranteed his wife a sense of security and safety in marriage.
The woman was in balance, since her desires were provided by the man. She didn't want more than he could give her. In the last 100 years, everything has changed. What has already been worked out leaves.
A person develops, and along with this there is a constant growth of desires, our psyche becomes more complex. And this is a general process. Therefore, in the twentieth century, a woman begins to go out of balance through the growth of desire. The volume of the psyche increases so much that there is a need for education. A woman goes to study with the aim of further realizing herself in society in a completely different capacity - as a socially active unit.
The desire increases and already requires a full-fledged social realization. A woman gets out of the control of a man, acquires equal rights, independence and independence. Carrying out the "male" functions of protecting and providing for the family, a woman loses that feeling of security and safety, which was given by the marriage union. The desire grew, but did not take shape. The transition period is difficult for everyone.
Marriage is indeed undergoing a serious crisis as a form of relationship. But not because this is an obsolete form of relationship, but because marriage itself is no longer able to keep the couple together. We want a qualitatively new relationship. Those that would correspond to our grown desires. Animal protection and safety are not enough for us, it has become obsolete, we want more.
A new desire appears - for greater mutual understanding in a pair, for creating a qualitatively different connection.
Future relationships
Humanity cannot take a step back. Development is inevitable. The process is irreversible.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan says that a developed woman is a psychologically literate woman. She is desired by a man and thus sets a high bar for him. For the sake of such a woman, a man will make a breakthrough in development. Only by desiring a woman, a man is capable of the maximum realization of his innate psychological properties.
The cutaneous phase of development is called upon to finally tear us away from the animal through standardization and globalization. Marriage as a tribute to tradition is leaving. It is being replaced by a new type of relationship - the union of two souls, a relationship to a greater extent human. Connections of this kind are only developing in the modern world, but the need for a new quality of relations is felt to a greater or lesser extent by many.
For a man to enter a new state and become able to push this world into the future, a woman must want this. Then we will get a relationship based on mutual bestowal, maximum interpenetration, when you feel the desires of the other as your own. This is a relationship in which everything is included - love, attraction, mutual understanding, and perfect reproduction when healthy children are born.
Relationships of the future are being built today. Increasing our psychological literacy at the training in system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan, which means that we are clearly aware of the changes in the relationship between a man and a woman, we are already in a position to work to change the depth of pair relationships, to transfer them to a qualitatively new level, to start new without fear of losing the old.
The results of creating couples, positive changes in the family, establishing relationships with loved ones speak of the effectiveness of training in systemic vector psychology better than anything else. An extensive section of reviews testifies that a new level of relationship is already attainable by anyone today.
Men and women will never stop reaching out to each other. Only the essence and scope of the new relationship will change. The larger will always include the smaller.
When we consciously open a common soul in ourselves, it includes a perfect attraction and a complete emotional connection, because we are a couple, as "for ourselves." This is a spiritual union, where everything is included - husband and wife are as one soul, which means a complete absence of betrayal, jealousy, claims, resentment and disappointment.
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