Why are men needed
Behind the question: why are they needed at all, these men? - there is a ready-made internal answer: no need. Because with mental breakdowns, we do not get what we want in a relationship. This means that we do not see any sense in a man, as in the giving beginning …
A hundred years ago, no one would have asked the question why a man in a house is needed. Come on, chop wood for the whole winter, put up a hut with your own hands, store fodder for the cattle, dig up a vegetable garden! How without him, without a man? And we, women, had to endure everything: swearing, and assault, and side trips …
But not all the carnival for the cat, our finest hour has come! Education is available to everyone, regardless of gender. It's also possible to find a good job with a decent salary. We have apartments with conveniences, and any household appliances are available. Sex has also become easily accessible: a bunch of dating sites for every taste. Whether you want it for one night, you want it for a vacation period - whatever. Through the efforts of specialists, you can even conceive and give birth without a partner. So what is a man for today and is he needed at all?
Naturally, women's desires grow. The role of a male standard is no longer suitable for the "brilliant nail driver" who, as usual, "mighty, smelly and hairy" and, in addition, chronically drunk. And a lot of questions arise …
Why do we need men with whom there is nothing to talk or keep silent about?
If you are the owner of the sound vector, you are unlikely to be attracted by a partner who constantly “carries banal”. When from nature you got the talent of abstract intellect, then you want to comprehend something more than everyday, everyday issues. Understand why you were born and live. What is the meaning of your life, your destiny.
People sometimes just amaze: they are busy with continuous consumption, no one really thinks about why he should live, he is not looking for a great idea and goal. And you, on the contrary, are irritated by empty chatter about meaningless things. Especially when a man, potential or real partner behaves this way.
For example, he pouts all of importance, like a turkey, broadcasts about his success at work. Or he cries over you, like an exemplary family man, so that she doesn't forget to put on a scarf in the cold. Fills with a nightingale about her love, about how incomparable you are. Well, great, of course, nice. But not for long.
What happens - there is nothing more to talk to him about? So we will discuss for years a career, borscht, clothes and children's snot? What kind of relationship is this, if in the depths of your soul there is a huge Universe, but it remains undetected, not understood by your partner? This kind of life is just about nothing.
Why are men needed if they have so much heartache?
If you are a finely feeling, emotional owner of the visual vector, then for you great love in itself is already a sufficient meaning of life. The trouble is that, in the hope of meeting your soul mate, you sometimes stumble upon a source of great pain.
There are many options: one is married, the other is a mama's son, the third is a non-adaptive, moron or alcohol addict, the fourth turned out to be a tyrant at home … Finally, a decent man was caught and - get it, sign! - non-reciprocal love. How long can you tear your heart to shreds? It’s easier not to feel anything at all, waste it!
Why are men needed if most of them are traitors and traitors?
There are women for whom family and children are the main meaning of life. These are the real keepers of the home, creating comfort and stability in the house, - the owner of the anal vector. If this is about you, then in a couple you are looking for purity of relationships and swan fidelity. To one man and forever. You go down the aisle, and then to the hospital with a feeling of absolute solvency: finally I am a Wife, and then a Mother.
And then the "tricks" begin. Hubby is constantly stuck somewhere at work, clumsily getting off. Where are the lipstick marks on your shirt? Well, of course, corporate, just danced with a drunk colleague. Then strange calls begin at night, from which the faithful rushes to smoke on the balcony. The lies continue until the evidence is clear.
It hurts to horror and disgusting - as if your love was all dumped in mud. But what to do, the family is more important. You forgive, you take it again … until the next episode of the same. The apotheosis often looks like this: he leaves the family, and the burden of raising and providing for children falls on your shoulders. You can't beg for snow from the former even in winter. After such an experience, it is generally not clear why women need men - except to wag their nerves?
Why do you need a man from whom there is no use?
Pragmatic and rational owners of the skin vector ask a well-grounded question: why do I need a man who is not able to earn a normal income? It makes sense - especially considering the fact that the owners of these properties are enterprising women in themselves.
It happens that in a pair they get a "sofa-sitter" who cannot be moved from his place, and even more so, you cannot drive him to work. Rather than kicking this endlessly in the back, it's easier to go to work yourself. What, in fact, is happening.
It's good if such a man is still trying to do something around the house. But it is somehow not accepted in our country for a man to play the role of a housewife. Therefore, most often he sits, offended by fate, gradually grows into his sofa, and you, having plowed at work, stand another shift at the stove.
After a while, common sense suggests a rational thought: why do I need this strange "sofa decoration" - to collect dust? There is no sense from him. After the divorce, the mountain falls off the shoulders - a serious item of expenses fell off, it became easier to live. And no one cites that he was underestimated again and that he was not given enough all around.
When we go through any bad experience in a relationship or observe this with our parents, friends, loved ones - we, of course, do not want to live like this. It is better to live your loneliness when you are really alone than to feel the same when living in a couple. At least you don't have to lie to yourself. Yes, it can be lonely at times. But no one deceives or betrays, does not "endure the brain", does not cause pain, does not draw strength, time and money from you.
Meanwhile, in another reality …
But deep down I want to live differently. It happens that hope flashes in the soul, then envy when you meet truly happy couples.
For example, sometimes people have like-mindedness after all … You look at them: one began a phrase - the other picked up in mid-sentence and ends. As they say, people are on the same wavelength. Especially when both are connected by a common idea and its implementation. They directly burn with it so that the eyes shine. It can be seen that both clearly feel: yes, this life has meaning.
Or here: two are walking, holding hands and glowing like light bulbs with love. It seems to be "vanilla", but the soul rejoices for them, but for itself … it becomes dreary. Why am I worse?
Sometimes you look at all, you are amazed: an unprepossessing Masha-neighbor lives nearby, well, so ordinary that you cannot recognize in a crowd, you cannot tell - nothing stands out. Neither you really figure, nor your mind, and your face is ordinary. And come on - her husband blows dust off her, gives bouquets as a bride, expensive gifts … And for 10 years of marriage, he never even looked at the side!
The heart tells you that nature has given you enough intelligence, beauty, and spiritual qualities to attract the most worthy man. I don’t want to agree to any kind of relationship, just not to be alone. But getting from a man what I would like does not work. For some reason, your reality does not intersect with the one where people find happiness in a couple.
Agreeing on anything is really not an option. Compromises with yourself end badly: if you are unhappy in a couple, sooner or later patience breaks. One more experience is added to the previous bad experience, and every time one wants to climb this Calvary called "relationship" less and less.
Yes, it will not give anything, except for the next suffering. Because any external circumstances are subordinate to our unconscious, psyche. It is in her that all the reasons are hidden why you meet just such partners and certain scenarios of relationships develop with them. This is worth disclosing in order to figure out: do you need a man at all, and most importantly, what kind and why.
Why do women really need men
Modern relations are the result of the evolution of mankind over the millennia. The natural mechanism of communication in a couple looks like this: a woman is a desire to receive, and a man is a desire to give to her. This is shown to begin with at the simplest biological level: she wants to give birth, and he wants to give her a seed for conception.
Further more. Feminine nature is rational: in order to endure and give birth, you need a guaranteed supply from a man (at least for the period of pregnancy, childbirth and feeding). And the woman chooses the partner that has a higher rank and can offer better support to her and her offspring. A man is so eager to get a woman that he tries his best to raise his rank. For this, he kills more mammoths, builds cities, creates civilization, and then makes flights into space.
The question arises: where, when and what went wrong? Why are there so many men today who want nothing at all - even get off the couch and go to work? Where has their desire for a woman gone, if even in his intimate life, it happens, you will not wait?
The point is that our desires are growing. We are increasingly breaking away from our animal nature, where this mechanism worked perfectly. It is no longer enough for a modern woman to simply receive support, protection and safety from a man - if only because she herself is able to create all this for herself and her children. We have more and more desires "non-biological", human. They are associated with sensual and conscious togetherness in a pair.
The natural mechanism of receiving and giving back in a pair has not disappeared anywhere. If you are the owner of the visual vector, you want to love and be loved - you are able to experience it. If you are a sound person, you want to reveal the meaning of life, to have spiritual one-pointedness with a partner - you can also get it in a pair. Desires to have a loyal and devoted partner or a man with high status and decent income are also not sky-high.
What's in the way?
Our sensual and conscious perception of life is formed from birth. In childhood, the psyche is still very fragile, vulnerable. And we are completely dependent on parents - on how correctly they develop the properties that are given to their child. Any psychological trauma, false setting or anchor damages the naturally ideal mechanism. And there is a mismatch: deliberately wanting one thing, we get something completely different from men. This can be seen with specific examples.
Perception of reality and the life we build
- People with a sound vector from childhood have a fine ear, are especially sensitive to the meanings of speech, intonations, sounds. If parents scream and quarrel, say abusive words - this is very detrimental to the development of a sound child. Being a natural introvert, he wants to focus on the world outside, on its sounds and meanings only in one case - if it is pleasant to the ear. And if not?
Gradually, a certain perception of reality develops, in which, from the slightest stress, the sound engineer "falls" into himself. It is more and more difficult for him to communicate with people and all the more to find a like-mindedness with them. And it happens that in childhood, his sound questions "Where did we all come from?" and similar adults simply dismissed, they say, do not suffer from nonsense! And then the perception of reality developed in such a way that the sounds outside are just "white noise", there is nothing worthwhile and meaningful in them.
Such a distorted perception of reality in the future gives an adult sound person the skill to see those men with whom she really has nothing to talk about. And so, deliberately wishing for like-mindedness and spiritual unity, she unconsciously attracts such a partner with whom it is impossible to realize. It is clear that the question will arise - why is this necessary? Indeed, there is absolutely no need.
- Women with a visual vector from childhood are more emotional, impressionable than others. They have a rich imagination, are easily frightened.
If parents frightened in childhood (they read scary tales or caused other damage - beat, shouted) - the psyche is "fixed" in a state of fear. A kind of life scenario of the victim arises. And already in adulthood, a woman will have a risk of attracting those men who can beat, humiliate.
If parents in childhood were ashamed for the manifestation of emotions, they forbade crying - other consequences arise. The feeling of love is "triggered" only to those men who can be pitied: to non-adapters, alcoholics, "inmates".
Who needs such happiness? Absolutely nobody.
These are just examples. The psyche of a modern woman living in a city is complex and can consist of 3-5 vectors simultaneously. Each of them may have their own breakdowns, which prevent you from getting what you want from a man.
Behind the question: why are they needed at all, these men? - there is a ready-made internal answer: no need. Because with mental breakdowns, we do not get what we want in a relationship. This means that we do not see any sense in a man, as in the giving principle.
But today there is a technique that allows you to reveal and correct any breakdowns in your unconscious. When this happens, the damaged receiving mechanism is repaired. And we attract those circumstances, those partners with whom a different future is possible.
The pleasure that a man gives you exactly what you want is the only answer to the question about the purpose of men. And every woman deserves such an answer …
I love her so much
That they move from the place of the constellation, To see how I
pull hot hands to her …
