Domestic violence - what should a woman do in a vice?
A woman wants to be a husband's wife, to receive protection and safety from a man. This is the root of the female psyche. When the husband becomes the main danger, one would flee from him without looking back. And there is no moral strength for this. Why do women put up with beatings and psychological abuse in the family?
- Dear daughter, how did you leave us? So young, so beautiful. All life was ahead. If I knew he was beating you. If I knew …
An elderly woman bursts into tears at the monument, holding her orphaned granddaughter by the hand. Mother is in the grave, father is in the colony.
Every 40 minutes a woman in Russia dies at the hands of her husband or boyfriend. This ominous account of increasing domestic violence may end Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology.
Violence - what should a woman do? Choose to live. How - read this article.
Domestic violence - when there is no strength to change something
Hit me and bite me!
Cut with a sharp blade!
Just don't go forever.
Mara
The husband poured acetone on his wife and set it on fire, the man wounded the woman with a kitchen knife, a herring maker - on the head, a chair - on the lips, an iron - on the back, foot - in the stomach, and mockery - in the heart. Physical and psychological violence in the family is a heavy dowry that thousands of women receive, complete with a long-awaited life together.
A woman wants to be a husband's wife, to receive protection and safety from a man. This is the root of the female psyche. When the husband becomes the main danger, one would flee from him without looking back. And there is no moral strength for this. Why do women put up with beatings and psychological abuse in the family?
Victim of a domestic aggressor - life punishment to yourself
Reasons for women's tolerance of domestic violence in Russia:
- ashamed to go to the parental home - you will be known as an abandoned loser
- sorry for the apartment
- the child will be left without a father
- scary
This is understandable and systematically explainable. In our collectivist urethral-muscular mentality, we care about what people say. A woman without a husband is still somehow ashamed. Modern skin property values make you take care of acquired property. It is scary to imagine that the child will remain fatherless.
Isn't it scary that daddy will deprive the children of their mother? Or kill everyone together?
A woman HAS a choice. Children don't have it. Their hope for survival is mom. Only a woman herself can save herself and her children from psychological and any other violence of a domestic aggressor.
Watching domestic violence, children grow up in constant fear for their mother, for themselves. Stress prevents the child's psyche from developing adequately. Scandals, beatings, psychological violence in the family make your children masochists, losers, prostitutes, autists. It is in your power to prevent this.
Causes of Domestic Violence - What Should a Woman Do?
You fool, you need to
cut the potatoes into the soup into strips, not just at random!
Eat this stew yourself.
The burns from the soup poured onto my knees healed outside, but the trauma of the soul requires a deep psychological study. System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan shows the causes of domestic violence on the part of the aggressor and the victim and the way out of the deadly peak of domestic terror.
Sadist and masochist - "ideal" couple with a twisted psyche. The relief of domestic violence - masochistic recesses in the soul of one exactly coincide with the sadistic bulges in the soul of another.
Any system failure in the psyche is caused by:
- childhood injuries
- lack or lack of implementation of innate properties
This applies to both sadists and their victims, only the factors provoking a failure differ:
The reasons for sadism among the owners of the anal vector - where did the aggressor come from:
- Mom hurried, did not praise, did not thank → resentment against the mother and all women.
- Society underestimated, did not respect → resentment against the country, the president and the whole world.
- The state of resentment does not contribute to full sexual realization → tendency to violent actions.
The reasons for masochism among the owners of the skin vector - how the victim appeared:
- Dad brought up with a belt, and mom - with emotional pressure and moral humiliation.
- The ability to be needed by society with its best qualities has not been formed.
For these reasons, an unconscious mechanism of receiving pleasure is formed not from what is needed for a happy life. A man with an anal vector relieves stress, restores his "justice", punishing the family with violence, causing the woman moral and physical pain.
And the dermal woman unconsciously strives for pain. Her adaptive psyche has adapted to receiving endorphins from suffering. Domestic violence provides her with this "joy" without interruption.
We consciously want it to be different. But the unconscious colossus cannot be fooled. Only an understanding of the deepest processes of the psyche can put an end to the catastrophe of domestic violence.
Psychological abuse - what should the victim do if she does not consider herself as such
The unconscious conspiracy of the sadist and the masochist is not necessarily physical. Psychological violence can be no less dangerous, and it is many times harder to do something to a woman when she doesn’t recognize his insults even for aggression. He humiliates, she cries - and so on without end.
It is not easy for a woman to realize that her own states are provoking this unconscious conspiracy. It is not easy to admit to yourself that she unconsciously attracted the tormentor. We find many excuses that this is not psychological abuse at all, that nothing needs to be done about it. It's just that my husband got up on the wrong foot.
With the awareness of the problem, there is a choice - to do something worthwhile in your life or to exist under the yoke of psychological violence, afraid to admit it to yourself? You need the courage to find the strength to make a decision and take responsibility for your life. When a woman understands what unconscious desires are driving her, she has the strength to change everything.
Psychological domestic violence - understanding comes to the rescue
According to the husband, you are doing everything wrong, there is always a "but", you always fall short of his idea of perfection. Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology calls psychological violence verbal sadism and shows what a woman should do to stop being its victim.
Condemnation, humiliation, insults, sarcasm, nagging, threats, unfounded accusations - psychological abuse takes many forms. And the victim scenario (model of the victim's behavior) unconsciously pushes the woman to provoke the family tyrant into conflict.
If the husband sometimes finds fault, expresses dissatisfaction, criticizes, you can help him relieve tension by understanding what drives him.
A man with an anal vector wants:
- respect, and they don't even listen to him at home
- order, but his slippers are always scattered in different corners
- stable sexual satisfaction, and my wife always has a headache.
A loving and understanding woman can easily remove these annoying factors from a mentally healthy man who is in a stressful situation and stop psychological violence in the form of verbal sadism.
Read more about this facet of domestic violence and how to deal with the problem here.
Psychological abuse - what to do in an advanced stage?
Cow, what do you teach children?
The very idiot and you raise them as idiots.
A man always clings to words, glances, specks of dust, unevenly cut bread, a tablecloth that has slid down a millimeter. He seemed to get into your thoughts - everything is wrong there too. A fool, a prostitute and many obscene variations are now replacing your name. The husband constantly insults, and you are already responding to "affectionate" treatment.
Psychological abuse is exhausting. Psychological violence sucks from a woman the strength to act and defend herself - she already considers herself a fool, incapable of anything worthwhile in life. Psychological violence at home undermines the ability to trust people in principle - what to do when you expect a blow from everyone?
The domestic aggressor is not limited to insults in private, he seeks to humiliate in front of children, relatives, girlfriends. You feel ashamed to invite friends over. By isolating the wife from others, the sadistic husband becomes her only possible company. This means that getting rid of his oppression is more and more difficult. To endure psychological abuse or fight it - what should a woman do?
Not far from psychological abuse and physical. He beats with a word - he will be able to punish with his hands. Psychological violence, pressure on a woman by humiliation, insults, intimidation at the root has all the same desire of a man with a skewed square of the anal psyche to hurt a weak victim.
You can stop psychological and any other violence against you by protecting yourself with psychological knowledge.
Hits - means he loves?
From the first dates he hugged me so that the bones crunched. It seemed that here they are, real unrestrained feelings. Now it beats with the same ecstasy, but you still want to think that this is a manifestation of genuine love?
Domestic violence does something to our ability to adequately face our situation. We will immediately advise a friend to leave the villain, but our own case seems to be completely different.
Violence - what to do to be saved?
- Don't hit Vaska. You are welcome.
- You're sorry for the cat, creature!
Now he will feel sorry for himself!
What should a woman who is constantly living in fear do? At a life-threatening moment, knocking on the battery for neighbors, locking yourself in the bathroom, running away to your mother, talking on the hotline, calling the police is just a temporary solution for one evening. Tomorrow he will come back drunk and angry, and again violence will be the only factor uniting the family.
You once blamed his addiction to alcohol for his aggression. We were looking for ways to stop drinking for my husband. Previously, sober, he did not raise his hand and did not swear. But now, even without alcohol, he does not cease to be a monster.
It is scary to leave, because he will find and will beat until he kills. Only an understanding of the psyche of a man will help to choose parting words so that a person with an anal vector will remain with a feeling of his righteousness, which means that he will not take revenge.
Often, even leaving one sadist does not instill immunity to domestic violence. This infection is reaching for the woman again. It seems that the new boyfriend was so caring, but turned out to be even more cruel sadist. And no matter how much you change husbands, without understanding the inner unconscious mechanism, you risk getting caught by another tormentor.
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Changing Domestic Violence for Domestic Happiness
Darling, wake up!
I made us coffee.
The human psyche, without its awareness, makes us its puppets. The unconscious process of receiving pleasure, formed by childhood and adult psychological trauma, drags us into the clutches of a sadist, while the tender embrace of a loved one is intended for every woman.
The entrance to your family will be closed to violence when the mechanisms inherent in nature, and not by beatings and humiliation, are correctly tuned in the psyche.
Demand creates supply. As long as the female psyche unconsciously wants pain, there will be sadists for her who provide it. Domestic violence against women will cease to exist when a woman consciously chooses to live happily. Choose to enjoy life, be loved and loving, choose to raise healthy and happy children, choose BE. Register for free online trainings on systemic vector psychology by Yuri Burlan using the link.
