I trade a rude husband for a gentle lover. About the reasons for adultery
You received your portion of tenderness and affectionate touch, all that you in vain expected from your husband. You do not regret for a minute that you allowed yourself this intrigue. Cheating is like a cure for an acute lack of affection not received from a husband. But every meeting is accompanied by parting, and you are in thought …
You so want tenderness, affection and just the feeling that you are the most desirable for him, and instead he is rude. You were sick of his criticism and undeserved reproaches against you.
You try so hard to please him in everything, but for him friends and his beloved mother come first. For their sake, he is ready for anything, but he does not consider your interests. You are always in last place for him. You are tired of his rudeness and absolutely not funny jokes.
And suddenly your first trip to the resort. You notice that men like you, they look after you and, having forgotten the years of married life, you rush headlong into a whirlpool of a fleeting spellbinding holiday romance.
What to do next?
You received your portion of tenderness and affectionate touch, all that you in vain expected from your husband. You do not regret for a minute that you allowed yourself this intrigue. Cheating is like a cure for an acute lack of affection not received from a husband. But every meeting is accompanied by parting, and you are in thought.
What to do next? Forget how you felt like a happy woman and live with a hateful husband as if nothing had happened? Keep a secret about your resort hobby or honestly tell your husband about everything? Will he understand you? Will he be able to truly forgive? Without reproaches, threats and humiliation? And in general, why did it happen that for so many years of your life you still did not understand how to bring joy to each other?
Man is the principle of pleasure
The answers to these questions lie in the area of the unconscious, the secrets of which are revealed to us by the System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan. System-vector psychology examines a person through the prism of his innate desires. Groups of such desires and properties are called vectors. Each vector has its own characteristics that affect the behavior, values and life scenario of a person as a whole. Each person lives according to the principle of pleasure and tries to fulfill his desires.
Such different desires. Lovers of tenderness and change
Our heroine has a skin vector. The owners of this vector know how to adapt to any circumstances, they have a high pace of life, they are organized and rational. They have a pragmatic mind and often use ordinary everyday cunning.
The names of the vectors have their own psychoanalytic meaning and show the connection between a person's character and especially sensitive parts of the body. In this case, with the skin. A woman with a skin vector always has a desire for special effects on the skin, in the form of tenderness and affection.
The desire for pleasure does not disappear anywhere. Accumulating, it turns into a thirst for pleasure and is necessarily realized. When one or both of the spouses do not get what they expect from the partner, tension is released, sometimes in this way, through adultery.
Women with a skin vector are by nature great lovers of change, for them everything new is better than the old. Unlike people with an anal vector, for whom everything new is a lot of stress.
The best husbands aren't always gentle
The main value of a person with an anal vector is a good strong family. He himself is a strong man, the owner of the house. Such people have an analytical mind and a phenomenal memory. They are loyal and devoted husbands, the best fathers, reliable friends. They have other priorities: truth, honesty, decency, loyalty, purity, honor and respect for other people. Slightly wrong - fist on the table! What kind of tenderness are there?
Anal people have powerful libido and are monogamous in nature. For them, any family conflict is super stress. If his wife cheated on her husband with an anal vector, then for him it is a disaster, a crime against his highest values. He will feel betrayed, and his wife will be guilty of everything.
Skin women strive for independence. They are lightweight, flexible in body and mind. New impressions, new sensations, variety - this is what attracts a woman with a skin vector. And, of course, her delicate skin requires affection, tenderness and stroking.
If an anal man does not give her these gentle touches, then he will not hold the woman, especially if he is jealous and reproaches. And most likely, that is exactly what he will do if he has even the slightest suspicion of her betrayal.
Why does an anal husband take revenge?
A person with an anal vector lives in pursuit of cleanliness and order. If his mental state is in good condition, then he himself easily maintains order in everything. Everything is laid out on the shelves, he does not need to be asked to clean the house. He will do it many times better than his skinny wife, for whom the order does not matter much. Rather, she loves "creative mess." All her things are often scattered in different places, which, of course, cannot but annoy the anal husband.
The concepts of "clean and dirty" are key for his psyche. Everything should be clean for him: body, clothes, snow-white tablecloth. Internal cleanliness is very important, and reputation should also be spotless. A woman's behavior should be chaste. And in the case of his wife's betrayal, he receives a strong blow to the basic system of values.
If suddenly the wife herself confesses to treason, then he can kill her in a fit of uncontrollable anger. And to take revenge on such a woman for him is just a pleasure. To the extent that he will not regret his own children, if only she experienced the same severe mental pain as he did.
Forgiveness or Vengeance?
The usual reaction of an anal person to any stress is resentment that turns into revenge. He cannot survive such a treacherous destruction of his family and will stand up for his truth, his understanding of the relationship between a man and a woman in the family to the end.
In a stressful situation, he will not be able to save the family, with all his actions he will destroy it. He will interrogate with passion about the details, the smallest details of betrayal - this is how his natural ability to investigate the situation will manifest itself in an unhealthy way.
In good condition, such properties as love for detail, good memory help him learn and pass on experience to the next generation. And in a bad state, the same phenomenal memory haunts him, and he becomes vindictive and vindictive.
Is there an alternative to betrayal and revenge?
Cheating doesn't happen overnight. Usually, for a long time, various minor conflicts occur in a couple, and as a result, it turns out that the spouses do not understand each other. Obviously, for the best husbands, cheating is a huge overstress, a powerful blow to values and even health.
The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan helps us not only to avoid such negative situations, but also does not even allow them to arise in our life. When we understand each other's unconscious desires, a harmonious attunement of all properties occurs. And already instead of betrayal in marriage, the woman changes clothes, work, interior. Or he begins to make various compliments to his household husband, who gets his dose of pleasure from this.
A woman finds words and creates situations that encourage her husband to be gentle with her. The need for treason does not arise, which means there is no reason for revenge.
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