Big victories of teenage alcoholism over child psychologists
Alcohol is harmful to human health. Especially for a growing child's body. Who doesn't know these simple truths? However, the statistics of child alcoholism in modern Russia clearly demonstrates to us that postulates that are clear to everyone remain, by and large, only words.
Alcohol is harmful to human health. Especially for a growing child's body. Who doesn't know these simple truths? However, the statistics of child alcoholism in modern Russia clearly demonstrates to us that postulates that are clear to everyone remain, by and large, only words.
Why is it that more and more Russian children grab a glass instead of, say, playing football or doing homework?
Let us consider, with the help of modern methods of studying human behavior - Yuri Burlan's systemic psychoanalysis - the deep causes of child alcoholism and ways to prevent the degradation of the younger generation.
Bad example
- Bottoms Up! - encouraged the father of his teenage son, pouring him a glass of vodka.
What? Outdoors, fishing and in a good male company. Let him learn. It is better to let a high-quality product learn to drink under parental supervision than to taste the fuzz on the porches.
Some parents are reckless about the fact that the baby is trying alcohol at an adult feast. The young child, who, without frowning, drinks a glass of alcohol or sips from a beer mug from his dad, support them with cheers. Adults feel a sense of pride in a strong child, completely unaware of what troubles such an experiment brings to the child's body.
If we talk about the families of alcoholics, then the rumor of the people unequivocally states: the apple is not far from the apple tree. On the one hand, the genes (even during the period of intrauterine development, the child becomes a lover of alcohol), on the other hand, then absorbs alcohol with mother's milk, from an early age he only observes the drunkenness of his parents, therefore he considers this behavior to be normal.
However, such logical interpretations of how children become alcoholics break up against real practice: there are cases when children leading a sober lifestyle grew up from drinking families, and when an alcoholic emerges from a well-respected, prosperous family. The family has its black sheep, everything happens. Explanations of children's alcoholism are usually reduced to individual cases, the will of circumstances.
In addition, it is believed that the growth of child alcoholism is caused by the lack of competent government policy, immorality in society as a whole, and non-compliance with laws. From TV screens, computer monitors, advertising of alcoholic beverages in a stormy stream blurs children's ideas about a healthy lifestyle. A drunkard who collects empty bottles in garbage cans is a less pleasant role model for young people than a successful manager who drinks a glass or two of whiskey on ice after hard work.
In any case, the culture of moderate drinking, no matter how they try to oppose it to alcoholism in the very last stages, has a detrimental effect on the physical and mental health of the new generation. And the problem here is not that young people do not know their "norm", do not see the edge of the glass.
An accurate understanding of the causes of childhood alcoholism gives us a system-vector analysis that allows us to look into the unconscious of a person.
Surrogates of happiness
Alcohol for most of us becomes a substitute for happiness. Lightweight, affordable, fast. A way to get away from the oppressive reality, to soften, brighten up the current situation. Our mental deficiencies, mental voids require filling. But how we will fill them in, we decide for ourselves. At the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan, we learn that every person seeks to enjoy life and can feel happy in the full sense of the word if he has developed and realized the properties (vectors) inherent in him.
Lack of development and / or lack of realization of a person leads him to alcoholic beverages. Alcoholism is initially an attempt to experience the pleasure of life in a simple way, albeit for a short time, to get rid of a painful mental state. Further, other mechanisms are involved - the physiological addiction of the body to alcohol, advertising of cultural drinking, traditions.
Thus, psychological problems are at the root of alcoholism in both children and adults.
The quagmire of alcoholism
“I want to be an adult” - the child's natural desire often becomes identical with the desire to quickly start smoking, drinking alcoholic beverages, and having sex.
In primitive times, in order to become an adult, a teenager had to undergo a rite of initiation - initiation into adulthood through various trials. In modern society, the transition from childhood to adulthood is blurred, therefore, young people often perceive as an indicator that they have grown up, everything that is prohibited from doing under 18, including the use of alcohol.
The individual shortcomings of each person become a drop in the sea of collective shortages, frustrations and lead to the perversion of social values and ideas.
After the collapse of the USSR, collective disappointments, dissatisfaction, aggression are increasing every year throughout the post-Soviet space, fewer and fewer people find their place in life and reveal their potential, thereby creating a fertile ground for the spread of alcoholism and the adoption of the stereotype “drinking is normal”. Moreover, our society conditionally agrees even when a pregnant mother drinks beer, champagne, wine, or when teenagers sip cans of low-alcohol drinks in the yard. Relieve stress after school, cheer yourself up, get away from the boring lectures of parents, be like everyone else in a teenage company …
It is clear that the growth of alcoholism is beneficial to producers and distributors of alcohol, but not to the health of the child and the well-being of the whole society.
To encode, hypnotize, broadcast about the dangers of alcohol, to pass harsh laws - the fight against windmills, with the consequences, but not with the causes of alcoholism.
Is everyone drinking? Yes in different ways
It's no secret that we are all born different. Meanwhile, how different is shown at the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan. Eight vectors, eight directions of the personality that determine desires, value orientations, the type of human sexuality.
Due to the change, complication of the landscape, modern children are born multi-vector, often combine contra vectors, with a greater temperament than previous generations. Accordingly, they have greater potential, greater power of desires. However, vectors are given by nature, but not provided. Correct upbringing, conditions for their fulfillment and realization are required. This is where the difficulties begin. If earlier in some families the upbringing of a child was not ensured, then this function was assumed by a society that was healthy in terms of values and morality.
Today society is "sick", unable to fully socialize, to raise children from disadvantaged families (a good example is the broken lives of orphanages), so raising children, in fact, is left to the parents.
So, it depends more on parental upbringing whether the child will receive a kind of vaccination from the negative influence of society. Everyone drinks, but he is not, and, moreover, he is not an outcast among his peers. He is happy, contented with his life without "taking on his chest" alcohol. By his positive example, he gives hope for recovery to all of us.
Is it hard to bring up a child like that? Yes, not easy, in the sense that it requires parents to know clearly about the vectors of their baby, the patterns of development of the child's psyche.
So, a skin child gets real pleasure from self-restraint, saving time, energy, material values, health, status are significant for him. If he is overly pampered or, conversely, if he lives in conditions that threaten his sense of security, he does not get the opportunity to develop his properties. This means that it will be more difficult for him to achieve wealth, achievements in his career. In such conditions, there is a predisposition to alcoholism.
As an adult, an undeveloped skinner seeks to benefit at the expense of others, loves freebies. Drinking at someone else's expense, selling moonshine or soldering fellow villagers with low-grade cheap alcohol, making a profit, are some of the manifestations of an undeveloped leather man. In a developed state, dermal people adhere to a healthy lifestyle, take good care of themselves, can drink elite alcoholic beverages to confirm their high position in society, as well as in a company to establish beneficial relationships.
Muscular children begin to drink alcohol for the company, it is important for them to be like everyone else, to feel part of the whole. Parents of a muscular child need to monitor the environment in which they communicate.
Visual children use alcohol to get new impressions, emotions, communicate with peers. If they are provided with the need for emotions, for example, through caring for loved ones, caring for people in need of help, through trips, excursions, productive communication with parents, friends, then they will not need alcohol. Adult spectators tend to drink beautifully: a glass of wine in a romantic setting.
Anal children, whose values are family, observance of traditions, are dependent on parental behavior. Do parents drink or drink - what and how? They are conservatives - they will repeat. In the kindergarten, it is the anal toddlers who, when playing “Meet the Guests,” arrange chairs, fuss around the table, pour something into mugs, clink loudly. Everything is as they saw at home.
Oral children want to be the center of attention, they want to be listened to. Looking for any ways. Parents do not want to listen, so friends-friends in a drunken shop are always happy to listen to his endless stories, tales, anecdotes.
Thus, parents need to be mindful of what they are doing and how they are raising their children. A wrong step in raising a child today can turn into a negative life scenario for an alcoholic tomorrow.
Unhappy children are those who did not receive satisfaction of their true desires and were forced to look for a surrogate for happiness in alcohol.
The growth of alcoholism in society occurs primarily for psychological reasons: adults grab a glass due to their underdevelopment and lack of fulfillment, children - due to improper upbringing.
Is it possible to save our future, to break the vicious circle: grew up in a family of alcoholics, without having received the proper development of vectors, the necessary conditions for the disclosure of abilities - he himself became an alcoholic - gave birth to new alcoholics?
With knowledge of "System-vector psychology" - yes. Only by changing consciousness, both at the individual and collective levels, will we stop needing substitutes for happiness. Each person, knowing himself, being able to distinguish other people, and what is especially important - the natural inclinations of children, will know what he really needs to feel the fullness of life and how to achieve this.
