How to stop being afraid of blood and learn to control your condition
The fear of the sight of blood is not a fear of blood as such. This is a projection of fear for one's life and health, fear of pain, fear of injury and painful conditions. This is a form of deepest powerful emotion - the fear of death. Therefore, it is so difficult to overcome the fear of blood for both a child and an adult with a developed phobia …
Johnny Depp is a talented and beloved actor. How many courageous characters he played! It turns out that the artist has a strong fear of blood. Because of this, in Tim Burton's musical "Sweeney Todd, the Demon Barber of Fleet Street", in which spectacular bloody scenes are present in abundance, it was necessary to use fake blood of an unnatural orange color, and then do the graphic processing. Otherwise, Depp simply physically could not play. The actor admitted that he never watched the entire film.
Fear of blood, also known as hemophobia or hematophobia, occurs in both women and men. Sometimes the sight of blood is simply unpleasant, and a person can easily cope with it. And it is quite another matter when a person cannot control himself, and fear greatly limits and reduces the quality of life. In this case, the question of how to stop being afraid of blood becomes burning.
How does fear of blood manifest
Becoming a witness of an accident, accident, injury, injury, you can hardly remain indifferent to the abundance of blood. And this reaction is natural and justified. After all, flowing blood is associated with a direct threat to life.
And if it starts to stir up from a small wound? Does the pallor appear from the thought of donating blood for analysis or getting vaccinated? And going to the dentist - and so dubious pleasure - becomes something completely unimaginable?
Symptoms that manifest a fear of blood may include:
- noise in ears;
- increased sweating;
- irregular heart rate and breathing;
- blood pressure surges;
- numbness of the limbs;
When blood is seen, a drop in blood pressure, leading to malaise and fainting, can be a defense mechanism in the body. It prepares the body for possible danger, so that if something happens, blood loss is minimal. But how to explain to the body that there is no direct threat and that there is no need to react that way?
Tips on how to stop being afraid of the sight of blood: work or not
The most common tips are:
- Rationalization. To understand that blood is just a natural component of our body, everyone has it and is nothing terrible.
- Breathing exercises. With the help of them, calm down, calm anxiety, bring physical indicators back to normal.
- Accustoming to the sight of blood. As they say, they knock out a wedge with a wedge. Allegedly, the more often you encounter a frightening factor, the less its influence becomes.
- Meditation, auto-training, spiritual practice.
- Communication with those who have the same problem, sharing experiences and ways to overcome fear.
Unfortunately, such methods can only help in mild cases, when the sight of blood is unpleasant, causes discomfort, but no more. Most likely, you know from experience that with a strong fear of blood, it is impossible to persuade yourself. You can breathe as much as you like using a special technique, give yourself logical explanations, but a person with such a phobia simply cannot control the physical reactions of the body. Tries, strengthens, takes a deep breath and … that's all … Cotton wool with ammonia.
The "wedge by wedge" method can be not only useless, but also harmful. Every time, being exposed to a stress factor in the form of something that scares so much (in our case, it is blood), we shake the emotional state, only go deeper into our fears, fixing them. This method is especially dangerous for children.
Communicating with unfortunate fellows can have a positive effect if you are genuinely trying to help them. Empathy can work wonders at times. More details on.
Causes of the fear of the sight of blood
Why do some people experience uncontrollable fear, feel unwell, faint from the sight of a drop of blood, while others do not? What features of the psyche are responsible for this? We get the answers at the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan.
About 5% of people have a visual vector. Their feature is high emotionality. The experiences are intense and leave a deeper mark. The feelings experienced are brighter and more intense. To love, show participation, kindness and compassion, communicate, build warm, trusting relationships, contemplate and create something beautiful - the natural desires of people with a visual vector.
If the innate properties of the child have developed correctly, and later find use for their intended purpose, then these desires are embodied. Owners of the visual vector often manifest themselves in life as people of art: artists, actors, dancers, pop singers, designers. They apply their qualities in areas that require live communication, understanding and empathy: in medicine, pedagogy and education, social service, volunteering, work with personnel.
Or, if their activity does not imply the use of sensory potential, they use it as much as possible in communication with others. The latter is necessary in any case, regardless of whether there is a manifestation of visual properties in work.
Fear is the initial emotion in the visual vector. The fear of death is basic, on the basis of which the rest are formed. A visual child is born with him. Growing up and developing, he learns to switch to emotions of a higher order - sympathy and love. Retarded in development, remains in fears, gets emotional disorders.
It is important to understand: a fearful child cannot be frightened! Neither screams, scary tales, nor films with eerie or cruel scenes, nor "educational threats" (give to someone else's aunt, send to prison, leave alone, etc.). Even ordinary stories that emphasize something that may scare a child sometimes fix a scary picture in memory, spiced up with excellent visual imagination. And they become the reasons for the development of a wide variety of phobias.
For example, a girl, asking on the forum how to get rid of the fear of blood, describes the history of the formation of her fear as follows:
“… Mom's stories about how the elder brother courageously endured the blood sampling from a vein, how huge the syringe was, how much blood was taken and how the girl lost consciousness. The result is the gradual development (with each subsequent sampling) of an uncontrolled light-headedness at the sight of blood. Now I feel uncomfortable even from reading the paragraph about this phobia …"
A child with a visual vector is very lively, in all colors will present a terrible picture. It is not surprising that later the medical attributes for taking tests and the type of blood itself are subconsciously associated with danger. And you have to run away from danger, even if you faint.
The fear of the sight of blood is not a fear of blood as such. This is a projection of fear for one's life and health, fear of pain, fear of injury and painful conditions. This is a form of deepest powerful emotion - the fear of death. Quite often from a toddler with a visual vector, who has injured a finger, you can hear the question: "But I won't die?" Therefore, it is so difficult to overcome the fear of blood for both a child and an adult with a developed phobia.
Dealing with fear
The use of emotionality for the benefit of other people is a natural task for the owners of the visual vector. Compassion for others is where they are truly strong. It is almost impossible for a visual person to keep the streams of feelings inside. And if they are not directed at others, at love and empathy, then they appear at the other pole - in fear for oneself, which takes on a variety of forms.
Therefore, the more the owner of the visual vector focuses attention on others, the more fully manifests good feelings for them, the less emotional charge remains to be afraid of something. Fear formed in childhood and staying with a person for many years is difficult to get rid of completely. The deep mechanisms of the psyche are involved. You can't do without accurate, systemic knowledge of how it works.
A few basic tips on how to stop being afraid of blood or anything else can be given now:
- Analyze the possible reasons for the formation of fear - most often they arise from childhood experiences. Understanding the causes is half the job.
- To study the features of your psyche: how it differs from the psyche of other people, how it manifests itself in various conditions, what is good for its harmonious state, and what is bad.
- Use your innate qualities to the maximum. Realization of natural potential is the key to a full, rich and happy life. The more it is directed at others, the greater the return. And as a side effect - stress resistance.
And here are the most important concepts for the correct development and upbringing of a child, excluding the formation of fears:
- Provide the child with a complete sense of security and safety. This also applies to family relationships, and the atmosphere in society (kindergarten, school, playground in the yard), and the information received by the child.
- Emotional connection with loved ones, especially with mom. The more trusting and warm the relationship, the easier it will be for the child to talk about what worries him, and for you to understand him and how to help him.
- Development of his sensuality. Create all conditions so that the child's emotionality is directed towards high feelings - compassion and love. A competent choice of literature is invaluable. It is she who to a large extent shapes the life guidelines of the child.
- Understanding of his individual characteristics. The approach to a child differs depending on the temperament: what is good for one, can harm another.
The most complete picture of the structure of the psyche with all variations and nuances is provided by the training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan. Developing fears and fighting them is just a small part of what you can learn about in class in a comfortable, trusting environment.
The effectiveness and relevance of the training is confirmed by over a thousand results in getting rid of various fears.