May I not give birth, or Conflict of desires and public opinion
There is a whole category of women who can face such a complex configuration of their own fears. The fact that they exist and that they are all bound by unwillingness to have children is no secret for a long time. There is even a child free movement. But who can tell why it is there?
Why don't men give birth? "Rody yourself!" - it would be a worthy answer to these endless persuasions of theirs to give them an heir. But unfortunately, in the light of the total injustice, the proposal to have a child does not sound like a challenge, but as a reason for another conflict.
At the same time, the man confidently attacks, because behind his back is the public with its unshakable dogmas. And you, as a lone warrior, on the warpath against the whole world, and you cannot find allies even among women. But it’s too early to get the white flag, and give birth, because “it is necessary”, you certainly won’t. Who needs? Those who need it, let them give birth, and let them leave you alone.
An attempt to reach an agreement in a peaceful way using the iron argument "I do not want and am not ready" is not even considered. Clear justifications are required of you, and ultimately they were formulated.
What a mother I am
Maternity is a whole scientific field. Here it is just right to study and take exams, since it requires colossal knowledge. I'm not asking you to take and build an intergalactic rocket, while you are a chef in a restaurant. And the responsibility, my dear, is the same - both in motherhood and in space engineering. One mistake - and there will be victims.
But you didn't want to be an engineer, just as I don't want to be a mother. So let everyone do their own thing.
Counter-argument: what nonsense. Millions of women give birth, regardless of intellectual ability, social status and even religion. In villages, in general, 10-12 children gave birth, and no one taught them this.
There is nothing to say about our time of information availability. On the Internet, they will not only tell you, but also show you what's what. And then, don't forget - you have me, and together we will definitely cope.
Life will change forever
And my heart feels - not for the better. And I like my life, and if you just think that you will have to say goodbye to it, I am ready to die right now!
The child takes away freedom. I will completely depend on him around the clock. My life will be subject to his schedule, kindergarten, school vacations, and this is a prospect for at least twenty years. One transitional age is worth something!
Look, you love it when we suddenly spontaneously break off somewhere for the weekend or travel somewhere for a month. So - you have to forget about it! Are you ready? I personally - no!
Counter-argument: what nonsense. You are fighting dogmas, and you yourself live with some stupid stereotypes. Again, I urge you to remember what time we live in. Today everything is focused on mobility and ease of movement. You yourself have seen many couples traveling with children, even babies. Nothing prevents us from doing the same.
Today, you can do anything with your children: relax, play sports, study. This only makes the family stronger!
The last argument, the strongest
My figure. I will definitely never sacrifice this. To myself: I will become ugly, and no man will look at me! I'm not ready to jeopardize my own irresistibility. Out loud: you know that even the extra 100 grams is a disaster for me. I don't want to lose my human form.
Counter-argument: what nonsense. Do you think that something can affect my love for you? Moreover, in your training, you will bounce back very quickly.
How terrible it is to live
All of these attempts to drag him to your side always end in a hysterical dispute in which you never come out a winner. He has one answer for everything: "What nonsense, you're just afraid." Yes, yes, I'm afraid! Call it what you want, but have respect for it. After all, you would not force a person who is afraid of snakes to death to work in a terrarium ?!
On the other hand, it is scary to lose a man due to the fact that it is scary to give birth. So you live, trying to understand which fear is stronger. However, time is running out, and sooner or later a fateful decision will have to be made, but … it's so terrible to be mistaken.
Why is that?
There is a whole category of women who can face such a complex configuration of their own fears. The fact that they exist and that they are all bound by unwillingness to have children is no secret for a long time. There is even a child free movement. But who can tell why it is there?
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan allows you to look into the unconscious of women who are afraid of having a child. They have skin and visual vectors, in tandem of which a whole life scenario is born.
The heroine of our time
Nature itself creates this unusual scenario, which is always based on a lyrical and dramatic plot. The main character is a beautiful and sensual person, ready at any time to sacrifice herself on the altar of love.
And like any scenario, this one is also intriguing. It lies in its special difference from the absolute majority of women - the inability to have children. She is actually nulliparous by nature. In return, she was given exclusive mastery of the art of seduction and creating an emotional connection with a man. In other words, while all other women regularly gave birth to children, without being distracted by "whispering, timid breathing", the wonderful nymph invented a second way to keep a man - love. And I must say, very successful in this.
At the dawn of human history, she was prescribed by the script to be a seductive woman. Acting not intentionally, but according to the idea of nature, she always accompanied men on their numerous campaigns (her keen eyesight made her a daytime guard) and lured men into sweet nets of love, giving them the opportunity to know a woman before a mortal battle. The man helped her to survive, fed and protected.
It was from her absolute inability to preserve herself and the strongest fear of death that she first had a feeling for a man who, for a brief moment of "war", shared a bed with her. He gave her a sense of security, and she loved him in return. It was she who first gave birth to a reciprocal feeling in a man, an emotion, after experiencing which he returned to a "peaceful life" to someone else, not so tough, who received the first sensory experience of empathy. And this emotional connection, which evolved over time, became what we call love today.
Her colorful novel was given only one chapter of the play, for a man's desire to have an heir was stronger than a love spell. Therefore, looking for a new protector, she rushed into a new whirlwind of love experiences, leaving behind a smack of unearthly pleasure and eternal memory.
New version of an old play
But this was the case in the original version. The script has undergone some changes due to significant changes since its inception. Today's medicine is capable of working miracles, solving almost any problem, even such a sacred one as conceiving a child. Therefore, in the modern edition, the inability of skin-visual women to give birth has transformed into an unwillingness to do so.
Physically already capable of giving birth, she mentally continues to be nulliparous, has no maternal instinct. She has not yet got used to the opportunity to give birth so much as to feel confident in this matter. This part of her role is still so new and, frankly, poorly learned, that all doubts and fears are fully justified. Tell you suddenly that from now on you can fly like a bird, you are also unlikely to rush to the nearest cliff to check it out.
Fear on fear and fear drives
At a time when the skin-visual beauty is not making love in every sense of this expression, she is overcome by fear. He plays the role of a negative character in this scenario and by his appearance, as it were, says: there is no one to love - that means that no one will take care, then death is not far off.
And then she becomes scared from literally everything. With all the power of passion with which she is capable of love, she surrenders to fear. To love more than life and to be afraid to death she succeeds equally well.
And there are reasons for fear - literally at every step. This can be seen from the myriad of phobias experienced only by visual people.
Love, and I'll ask you to stay
So the poor thing would have suffered if Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology had not made its own adjustments. It gives a unique opportunity to rise above the familiar, worked out plot and get acquainted with the idea of the scriptwriter, that is, nature. It's so tempting to gain control over your own role and consciously change your life, and certainly not to suffer, tormented by the impossibility of realizing not your desires.
The main thing is to know where our thoughts and feelings come from. And then you can boldly face your own fears, take the steering wheel of your life from them and hand it over to love. You will get the determination and courage for this through getting to know your nature. To understand ourselves and each other, finding a solution to any issue - this is the magic power of self-knowledge. Many have already done so: they understood their true properties and desires and forever got rid of all obstacles on the way to happy motherhood. They are happy to share their results:
