Early childhood autism. The story of one family
If external sounds cause discomfort to a child with a sound vector, his psyche will be protected. An introvert by nature, he will withdraw more and more into himself, up to a complete rejection of contact with the outside world. This is how the symptoms of early childhood autism arise …
Clinical case: a family came to an appointment where a boy at the age of 6 was diagnosed with early childhood autism. Symptoms of early childhood autism appeared from 4-5 years of age: avoidance of contact with adults, with peers, behavioral disturbances, due to which he could not attend kindergarten, isolation, echolalia, regression of acquired skills. There was also a lack of development of speech and psychomotor skills, self-care skills, intolerance to loud sounds. The child stopped responding to the mother's speech, hid under the bed, as if he did not hear the words addressed to him.
Children with early childhood autism often begin to behave in a similar way - to avoid contact, delayed psycho-speech development is characteristic. The characteristics of the symptoms of early childhood autism can be varied, depending on the vectors, but in this child it did so as described above. He is now 14 years old. The child hardly speaks, he has 9-10 words in stock. At the everyday level, he communicates with gestures. He does not like the noise of household appliances, he turns them off himself, and also tightly closes the windows. He has a separate room where he locks himself. She is studying in a correctional school for children with weakened mental abilities. She is homeschooled, as she hardly leaves the house. Because of restlessness and restlessness, because of the inability to bring the matter to the end, he cannot cope with the school curriculum. Doesn't understand rules, doesn't understand requests. Tall,thin, restless, nimble. Doesn't sleep at night, runs on tiptoes. Likes to play, throwing objects, tearing paper, pouring sand, loves to play with water. From the age of 14 he began to talk to himself "in his own language", screams at night, touches and scatters all objects in the apartment, makes noise. I define a boy as a carrier of sound and skin vectors.
The boy's mother from the doorway does not allow to insert a single word into her monologue. She speaks and speaks, and it is impossible to interrupt her. It is impossible even to shout down. The voice is loud, speaks harshly, not to the point. He does not hear the questions asked to her, but simply continues his monologue. At the reception, he often shouts at the child: "Sit like this, you can't!" and to her husband: "Sit here, don't do that!" Despite the fact that the child does not perceive her, and the husband sits quietly himself. The mother is flexible, agile, slender. She sat at the proposed place for no more than a minute, then began to walk around the office and continued to speak. Tremor of the hands, rash on the skin of the hands. Previously, her work was associated with public speaking, after the birth of her son she became a housewife.
From her speech, I heard how difficult it is for her with a child, how hard it is to take care of a disabled person, and that “it would be better not to give birth” to such a person. Mom could not enter into a productive dialogue the first time. I had to ask her to leave and continue the conversation with dad. Dad is calm, quiet, assiduous. Very worried about the situation in the family. During the conversation he had tears in his eyes: "I want the family to be calm." My father leaves for a long time to work, works as a cook on a ship, is at home for 2-3 months out of 12. “I get tired of them, of her. I do not know what to do. She is always so talkative, there are always scandals at home."
What is the cause of early childhood autism syndrome in this family?
A child born with a sound vector needs proper development and education. The ear is his especially sensitive area, both to loud sounds (the incessant, loud voice of the mother, noises, screams, scandals), and to offensive meanings ("It would be better if she hadn't given birth!"). For a sound child, it hurts more than physical shocks. Under such influence, the child loses the feeling of security and safety that he should receive from his mother, and is inhibited in his development. If external sounds cause discomfort to a child with a sound vector, his psyche will be protected. An introvert by nature, he will withdraw more and more into himself, up to a complete rejection of contact with the outside world. This is how the symptoms of early childhood autism arise.
Not all mothers of children with early childhood autism symptoms are so talkative and loud all the time. For the formation of autism, sometimes there is enough noisy atmosphere at home, quarrels, screams and offensive meanings expressed about the child. At the same time, the mother as a whole can be calm and even affectionate - this also happens in my practice. It's just that my mother breaks down, can't stand it. "Everyone has their own problems, life is hard, so, again she yelled at the child." Sometimes a mother simply throws out the stress accumulated from stress on the child, and then regrets it. For a sonic baby, such an effect is especially traumatic. Therefore, it is important that the mother herself is in a good mental state, which means that she can realize her mental properties and be balanced. To my regret, parents do not know the psyche of not only their children, but also their own,to live stress-free.
Vector diagnostics of parents. What can be done when they have a child with early childhood autism symptoms?
I diagnose my father as a carrier of the anal and visual vectors. No wonder he is so worried about his family. “I support them as best I can, I try very hard, but what else can I? I am respected at work. I only want the child and wife to be healthy, and I try only for the family. " From interaction with his wife, he begins to have arrhythmias, bad heart. It often happens when a husband with an anal vector is harassed by a wife with a skin vector.
I diagnose the mother as the owner of the cutaneous and oral vectors. The skin vector is clearly not implemented (rash, tremor, restlessness, irritability), the oral vector is also. Mom speaks incessantly, constantly. She needs someone's ears, all the time. Since the mother lives with her son most of the time and deals with him, a close interaction of the vectors of mother and son is obtained. And it lasts from the age of four. It turns out that she indiscriminately reprimands the child, who locks himself away from her in his room, but she shouts at him through the wall.
Mom, being at home, within four walls, cannot realize her cutaneous and oral vectors. The skin vector strives for change, earnings, social superiority: “But I am sitting with my son and cannot go to work because of him, although I want to! Hire a nurse - no money, everything goes to the son!"
The oral vector is involuntary speaking. Previously, before the birth of a child, she led social events in different cities. Then her skin vector was satisfied with the novelty and earnings, position, and the oral one - with speaking. After she became a housewife, everything changed. The mother began to accumulate unfulfilled desires of her vectors, which she involuntarily, not out of malice, splashed out on the child. “I had a sick child. Now I'm chained to him! Why is he like that to me! It would be better not to give birth! " - she complains to me. "It would be better not to give birth!" - these words, causing such pain to the sound ear, she said to her son.
After the appointment, I heard my mother start a fight in the lobby of the clinic. Something she didn't like, and she screamed. The scandal lasted about an hour.
Not always, but according to my observations, it is extremely common for patients with early childhood autism or schizophrenia to have a screaming or scandalous mother.
Correction of early childhood autism. Family advice
The implementation of the mother's cutaneous and oral vectors can significantly reduce the negative burden on the child and, accordingly, improve his condition. If the mother realizes her skin vector, she will stop flickering, stop pulling on the slow anal husband and his arrhythmia will go away, her rash will go away, she will become more stress-resistant.
The implementation of the oral vector will affect speaking incessantly, she will speak more to the point, and not in a continuous stream and will stop scandalous. This means that the house will be quiet and calm, which is what her child with early childhood autism needs so much.
When a mother understands how the psyche of her child is arranged, she will be able to create favorable conditions for his development. And he will have progress. There will be an opportunity to improve contact with the child, teach him the necessary skills, develop interaction with other people.
Up to 6-7 years old, the mental state of the mother directly affects the psyche of the child. He unconsciously reads her stresses, and then he himself has various deviations, up to diseases. When a mother undergoes Yuri Burlan's System Vector Psychology training and evens out her condition, there is a high probability that the baby's health will improve, especially under 6 years of age. It is even possible to remove the diagnosis of early childhood autism at this age - there are results! Watch one of the video reviews:
If the child's age is more than 6-7 years old, then here too one can expect significant improvements, when the parents begin to understand themselves, the child and their interaction with each other in the family.
At the age of 14, as in this case, if the mother improves her condition, her realization and awareness of the child's psyche, the causes of early childhood autism will disappear, and the course of the disease may improve. Improving the sound and emotional environment in the family will create favorable conditions for the development of the child. He will no longer have the need to hide from the outside world, and this will improve the skills of self-service, communication and interaction with people. 14 years old is not too late. According to my examination, the child has not yet begun the transitional adolescence, when development is complete, but he is close, this is the last moment, and correction of early childhood autism is still possible.
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