The head is a rag. How to learn to control with a firm hand
Not all people are capable of being leaders, although in modern society this thesis is often refuted: they say, if you want to be a leader, be one! The ability to lead people is today a sign of success, so many people try, although they do not have the inherent properties for this.
She remembered that day from her childhood for the rest of her life - the day when she first picked up the phone and dialed the number. On the other end of the line, she heard the unfriendly and imperious voice of her friend's mother: “Hello! Well, why are you silent? Speak! " And her breath caught, the words stuck somewhere in her throat. With difficulty collecting all her will into a fist, confusing and distorting words, she squeezed out of herself: "Call Ira, please …"
Then she burned with shame - disgraced herself! How embarrassing it is to be so shy and indecisive. From now on, the mere thought of talking on the phone with strangers caused heart palpitations and nausea.
In the revolutionary 90s, she was already a graduate with the intention of becoming the best in her profession. But professionals were no longer required at that time. Other values came into vogue, and specialists, scientists and simply masters of their craft moved in a dull stream to trade in markets and retail outlets, and the profession of a sales manager became the most popular.
She, too, repeatedly tried to get such a job - there was no other. The most difficult thing was to "huddle" potential buyers over the phone. She gathered herself for a long time, with a trembling voice trying to offer something. But when faced with the first objection or discontent, she immediately retreated. After two or three calls, she felt like a squeezed lemon. There was no sense in her.
The joy of being in the right place or being promoted is not always equal to pleasure
As time went. She still managed to get a job in a specialty, where she could finally feel the pleasure of work. Over the years, experience and the much-desired professionalism came. Her self-confidence grew every year. She was very diligent, accurate and did her job really well. This was appreciated by the management, having appointed her the head of the department.
Several people were subordinate to her, and soon she found that there was not a trace of her confidence. She again felt like a trembling girl with a telephone receiver clutched in her hand. She discovered that she could not control people at all.
Being too delicate, she was afraid to offend, to be firm, to be not good enough with people. She was uncomfortable forcing someone to do something, so she somehow "got out" all the time. She tried to do everything herself, not delegating the assigned work to anyone and justifying it by the fact that they would not do it as well as she did. Before asking a subordinate about something, I thought out for him ten times how this work could be done, that is, I still did part of the work for him. She chewed and perhaps didn’t swallow for him.
She lived in some kind of constant fear that squeezed everything inside and made her come to work every morning with a nauseating feeling of disgust at what she was doing. If she could understand what kind of fear it is, then, most likely, he would have expressed himself by questions: “What if they“run over”at me? What if they disagree, but I can't answer them clearly and reasonably? What will people say if I do something wrong, make a mistake? They will whisper about me on the sly … What if they won't listen to me? What if I can't keep people subordinate? What if they feel my weakness as a leader and will use me?"
If something didn't work out for a subordinate, she felt guilty - I didn't explain it well enough, I didn't follow it, I didn't teach. The huge burden of responsibility that she shouldered on herself finally deprived her of the joy of life. She felt like a rag and could do nothing about it.
Out of place
Not all people are capable of being leaders, although in modern society this thesis is often refuted: they say, if you want to be a leader, be one! The ability to lead people is today a sign of success, so many people try, although they do not have the inherent properties for this.
Our heroine is one of those. According to Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, she is the owner of the anal-visual ligament of vectors. Difficulties with managing people arise primarily in a person with an anal vector, since he is completely not intended for this.
Our distant ancestor with an anal vector never went hunting and did not participate in the production and distribution of food and material wealth. Remaining in the cave, he guarded women and children and passed on knowledge to the younger generation. Such was his specific role, and in fulfilling it, he received his piece of food from those who obtained it. He did not need the ability to organize and lead people, since these functions were performed in the ancient human pack by the urethral leader and skin commanders.
Being an excellent professional and a true specialist in his field, a person with an anal vector sometimes finds himself in a situation when he is asked to lead some work, organize and control other people. It is then that problems begin for him, since he does not have such desires, which means that he cannot enjoy his work.
In such a situation, he loses self-confidence, becomes dependent on the opinions of others, falls into a stupor when making important decisions, and is afraid to be disgraced. If there is a visual vector in the bundle, then such a person can be shy, overly delicate, kind, compassionate, sympathetic, that is, possess qualities that are most often inappropriate in managing people.
If such an owner of the visual vector had emotional trauma in childhood, he may experience fear of people, which will not even allow him to fully communicate with them, let alone be firm in relation to them and achieve the fulfillment of the assigned tasks. Fear is irrational - you are simply terrified of talking to people, and this cannot be overcome.
While a person with the anal-visual ligament of vectors performs the individual work entrusted to him with his inherent diligence, accuracy and scrupulousness, he feels in his place. But after moving to a leadership position, he loses his self-confidence and experiences tremendous stress. If a person has only an anal vector or an anal-visual ligament of vectors, he should not be in charge, even a small department.
Who should try
However, there may be a situation when this ligament occurs in a polymorph, which, in addition to these vectors, also has a skin vector. The owners of the skin vector are characterized by a desire for leadership, management and organization of other people, for a career and material superiority. And if he does not fulfill these desires, then he may experience frustrations in the skin vector.
Let's say that during his life such a person relied on the properties of the anal-visual ligament, and then he was offered to become a boss. For a long time he did not turn to his skin properties, therefore he does not have the skill to use them in full. As a leader, he may feel uncomfortable. It seems that there is a desire to control, and the more familiar anal-visual behavior prevents it from being realized. It is necessary to see the rigidity of the anal psyche, which does not allow it to be done, and to realize the presence of skin properties in oneself. All this will help to rebuild.
When there is a temptation to go into the routine of anal "digestion" of the problem, which, due to the exaggerating visual vector in this case, "seems not a fly, but an elephant", you can recall skin "indifference", in the good sense of the word - let go of the situation a little. The leatherworker does not take offense and does not carry guilt with him, therefore he is not afraid of conflicts. He has a flexible psyche. I took a shower and forgot.
The distribution of responsibilities is a skin function. He is able to delegate matters to others, delegate responsibilities. You just need to reveal these properties in yourself and learn how to apply (in the presence of a skin vector, of course). The success of a modern person largely depends on the ability to switch their properties depending on the requirements of the landscape.
How to make people want to work on their own
It seems that the hardest part of managing is getting the person to work. Vector Systems Psychology greatly simplifies this task by giving an understanding of what best motivates him to work.
A person gets the greatest pleasure from the realization of his properties. It can be made to work only through the pleasure principle, only through the realization of its specific role. Distinguishing the properties of people depending on their vectors, you can learn how to competently and usefully manage people for everyone.
A boss with a systematic thinking will always correctly place workers in their workplaces, depending on their skills and abilities, because he sees right through them. And then people also get pleasure from work, without feeling like forced slaves, and management ceases to feel like Sisyphean labor, becoming an exciting game.
A higher level of workflow management is the realization that when you force a person to work, you are not doing it for yourself, not in order to assert yourself in the role of a boss or achieve personal success. You do it for people. This removes the painful obsession with personal results, in some incomprehensible way gives more freedom of action, emancipation.
There is nothing surprising. People only survive together, and everyone must fulfill their role well for the common good. Anyone who contributes to the survival of the species has a lot of pleasant bonuses - from a high financial position to good internal states. He feels happy, and this is transmitted to others.
In the presence of a visual vector, a person may be too compassionate and soft to control with a firm hand, to force the employee to do something. He can be helped by the understanding that by making people work, he does not do them badly, he helps them to do what they are disposed to and to experience the joy of realization. In addition, creating the conditions for engagement helps the whole community. After all, this contributes to the preservation of jobs for adults who raise children - our future. A successful business pays taxes that increase the level of well-being of the whole society and help support socially disadvantaged segments of the population.
Systems thinking completely changes the approach to management and even allows people who never thought of being bosses before to become great leaders. Among more than 18,000 reviews on the portal of system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan, this is indicated by the reviews of those who have managed to achieve significant results in disclosing their managerial abilities:
Before the start of the first course of the SVP, I was promoted, for almost two years I have been the head of a large department. I managed to significantly develop the team, implement significant projects, develop the image of the department and create the right working atmosphere largely thanks to the systemic understanding of the mental properties of my guys.
For anals - time for "swinging" and analytical work, for leatherworkers - competition and quick logical tasks, for spectators - creativity and empathy, for sound specialists - silence and complex projects that require concentration. And everyone is very important to me, because what am I without them? Only a collective result gives the maximum effect.
Elena U. Read the full text of the result WHAT WAS. I could not overcome the fear of communicating with customers in business. It was a terrible, indescribable horror, if asked to tell what we can do and what we do, as if it is very shameful …
WHAT NOW. For me now the greatest joy is to talk with the Customers! I look at a person … yeah, I think … such and such a type of psyche … I start talking. And then I tell about myself not through myself, but in the way that is more understandable for him !!! Plus I am completely relaxed and I am constantly smiling !!! Everyone relaxes … let's make a joke … let's decide, agree … and … the contract is signed! HURRAH! We have a job !!!
Olga V. Read the full text of the result
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