Emotional addiction or love - trap or wings?
Fly away in dreams of love, dream about it, sweetly anticipate happiness together, give this feeling and wait for it in return - only the owners of the visual vector raise love to the rank of the highest value in life. Emotions such people need more bread. And if "they don't feed"? If the sensory bridge with other people is not built, the fragile visual heart pounds madly with fear.
How to stop being afraid, overcome emotional addiction in a relationship and learn to love in a way that brings endless happiness to both of you?
For so long, each breath was equal to the painful thought of you. And suddenly the acute emotional dependence went away and did not say goodbye. How is this possible?
For several years every day they starved her, only occasionally giving nourishing crumbs of attention, once they showed her a cake, but did not even let her taste it. They told me to forget. And she, unhappy, does not obey everything. And as if she even learned to feed on denials, silences, indifference. For breakfast - no answer under the sauce of an imaginary wish of happiness with someone else, for lunch - not meeting with a side dish of a non-kiss, for dinner - a non-call, disregard, lack of embrace, and you can wash down all the dishes with a cocktail of icy loneliness. Is it possible to bend with such a menu? So this stupid hope of being loved by you does not die.
I reread my diary - a concentrated heartache for many years of love for you. And suddenly I realized - it doesn't hurt anymore!
How to get rid of emotional addiction? Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology was able to cure a painful wound in the soul.
Emotional addiction to a person is so scary without you
Imagine: we are looking at each other, for example, in the subway, you are at one end of the car, I am at the other. We look and cannot tear ourselves away, but we cannot come close - people. And we all continue to look without taking our eyes off. Someday all the obstacles will come out of our carriage, we will be left alone. Two. You and me. Close, close.
Fly away in dreams of love, dream about it, sweetly anticipate happiness together, give this feeling and wait for it in return - only the owners of the visual vector raise love to the rank of the highest value in life. Emotions such people need more bread. And if "they don't feed"?
Emotional connections are the only guarantee of an inner sense of security for a visual person.
If such a connection is created, inner tension is removed from the viewer and the life in sensations is filled with happiness. If the sensual bridge with other people is not built up, the fragile visual heart pounds madly with fear.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan explains that the specific role of a supersensitive visual person is to reduce hostility in society with his love and sensitivity to others, to make relationships between people more penetrating, colored with positive emotions, sympathy and empathy for each other. Fulfillment of this role creates not only warmth in a couple, in a team, in society, but also inside the visual person itself is poured with satisfaction and joy.
When this role is not fulfilled or manifests itself insufficiently, fear envelopes more and more, and instead of creating emotional connections and emotional response to others, the visual person begins to demand love only for himself - hysterics, emotional blackmail, plaintive pleas or breaking dishes.
Salvation from fear for a while is in a pair relationship. But when they are created in this state, emotional dependence on a man cannot be avoided. It seems as long as they love me - it's not scary. So love me more! What if love ends? The scarier we are, the more we are emotionally dependent on our partner, the more we demand love for ourselves. But for some reason she is not enough all the time.
How to stop being afraid, overcome emotional addiction in a relationship and learn to love in a way that brings endless happiness to both of them?
Emotional addiction and unconscious desire for pain
Calm down! He made a decision. Long ago accepted. With your outbursts of feelings, you sometimes made him pay attention to these amusing lights. Logs are not thrown at them, they still burn, they are flooded with rain - they burn, they even trampled them (albeit apologetically) - and they burn like that. Goof! Your fire is not needed.
Visual emotional dependence in the presence of a cutaneous vector can be aggravated by a scenario of failure in a relationship.
You consciously understand that the relationship is doomed, but you continue to stand in front of a man with an outstretched hand, or rather, with an outstretched heart, which for some reason he does not need.
Why? It happens that from childhood we endure the wrong principle of receiving pleasure - from pain. So, the flexible psyche of a skin girl, due to stress, humiliation or beating in childhood, learned to adapt pain and turn it into a source of unconscious pleasure.
It's time to replace the dried bouquet of emotional dependence and scenario for failure in a relationship with bright and fragrant flowers of real feelings and breathe spring into your life with a smile!
With knowledge of Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology, a woman understands her inner nature and is able to pinpoint a caring candidate for such a valuable gift as her love.
Reviews of girls who managed to overcome emotional addiction and become happy inspire:
Emotional addiction and the morass of the past
I barely remembered the word you said. Maybe not the most important thing, but I really want to keep all the grains of what we had. And they are inexorably filtered through the sieve of time. But the sieve is over the cup so that nothing is lost. As long as I can, I will keep my cup and sieve from spilling. The word was teaser.
Emotional addiction can take deep roots on the basis of the unconditional value of the past inherent in the owner of the anal vector. An emotion that flared up for a man in the past acquires exaggerated importance, is recalled, embellished, played again and again. Real life is replaced by a revision of the recording of past feelings.
Thoughts about you eat away the insides, crunch with memories hidden in the recesses of the subconscious. Knocks in my head: “You yourself, yourself, yourself are to blame for everything! If you gave him the opportunity to make a decision without haste, perhaps we would still have a chance!"
Somewhere deeply there can be resentment towards a person who did not give enough love in return, and a feeling of guilt towards herself for somehow spoiling the fairy tale about the prince.
Training in systemic vector psychology helps to understand your inner content and understand how to get rid of resentment and emotional dependence from the past and let yourself into new happy love relationships.
Love or emotional addiction?
I loved seeing myself through your eyes. I liked it so much to like you. Look at me. On the picture. In a dream. In passers-by. In the head. In the sky. In the office. In the underground. In the bed. In the bathroom. Everywhere. Look at me. Look into me. Maybe you can see yourself.
In relationships, we want to be loved and understood. Do we understand a loved one ourselves? System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan clearly defines the difference between the concepts of love and emotional dependence. And the basic difference between them is in the direction of emotion.
When I want, ask, demand self-love, this is emotional dependence. When I protect, calm, direct, envelop, inspire, inspire a person with my feelings, then love.
With emotional addiction, relationships are needed as a dose that temporarily provides tranquility, relieves fear. Such an emotional drug works only at first and only directly in the arms of a loved one. And then everything is according to the standard scenario of any dependence - the dose for an increase, and the effect is zero. And the fear does not go away, and the relationship falls apart from constant tantrums, scandals and mutual dissatisfaction with each other. At the same time, it is not possible to break the vicious circle of suffering without understanding the reasons.
Emotional dependence can be not only on a man. A visual person of any sex in a state of fear unconsciously seeks to attach to another and draw emotions from him. For example, the owner of the anal-visual ligament of vectors often experiences a strong emotional dependence on the mother. Skin-visual young man - from a woman or from a man who volunteered to protect him.
Effective treatment of emotional dependence on a person, a memory, a cat, a dog and even a teddy bear occurs when the roots of the problem are revealed in the psyche of the spectator floating in love clouds.
Repair work at heart - getting rid of emotional addiction
An experience of active love.
(Fedor Dostoevsky)
If only I could make happy those whom I love.
The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan allows a big visual heart to reveal in itself the readiness and ability to give love to all people on the planet. You can start with those closest to you and continue outside your own little world.
The pleasant taste of the realization of innate properties pushes to the quivering creation of emotional ties and an increasing manifestation of the sensitivity of your heart in relation to other people.
When I myself fully show love for a person, when I myself put into the relationship what the partner needs for joy, only then I get peace of mind and happiness in a couple. The owner of the visual vector, like no one else, is able to feel the lack of his beloved and give him deep understanding and participation in his experiences.
When a person with all the strength of his immense visual heart is concentrated on giving love to another, he gets rid of fears and emotional dependence.
Such a sincere message will not go unanswered. A man always follows a woman, it is his nature to bring a woman booty at her request. If you want a mammoth, he will get it. Hunting skills have been developed by a man for thousands of years. And if you want love - tell him first by your example how inspiring it can be.
The first steps towards an emotional connection are made by a girl. Speaks with a man, listens to his words, thoughts and heartbeat, dreams and inspires. Gives his love and knows how to accept it.
System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan shows that the love that we are able to give to others already includes a reward for visual people in the form of getting rid of fears of any spectrum and emotional dependence of any severity.
Getting out of the dead end of emotional addiction is possible.
Treating emotional addiction with love
Maybe we will meet by chance in ten years and be dumbfounded? How you want this stupor and how you don't want ten years!
It's time to become happy now! System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan reveals how to avoid emotional dependence and learn how to give such love, which a man will accept with trepidation and respond to it with a multiplied wave of tenderness.
Man and woman are created as complementary forces. You need to make each other happy consciously and unmistakably.
Do you want to get rid of the painful emotional addiction? Do you dream of inspiring love as a couple? So let your heart beat in time with its sensual nature. Mine now chirps year-round in the spring. Register and you for free online trainings on system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan at the link.
