Anal Child Training: Best Student or School Brake?
The specific role of the anal man is to accumulate information. The child receives the first skills of this property at school. But how deeply and competently he will be able to use this property depends on the success of his training. And this success is by no means an assessment. The development of the given properties largely depends on the teacher and the home environment.
Schoolchildren are different: active and slow, talkative and silent, obedient and not very. But each of them has one task - to study at school and take the knowledge base as complete as possible from it.
Children with an anal vector love to learn and, which they can not refuse, are able to do it well. This is the specific role of the anal man - to accumulate information. The child receives the first skills of this property at school. But how deeply and competently he will be able to use this property depends on the success of his training. And this success is by no means an assessment. The development of the given properties largely depends on the teacher and the home environment.
If your baby is the owner of the anal vector, then the school order for him is a complementary environment. Of course, he always adapts with difficulty, and every September 1 gets used to the new routine for a long time, just as he cannot get used to the holidays for a long time, by inertia collecting a portfolio for school.
To the end, to the point
The younger grades are the foundation for all schooling, and the school, in turn, lays the foundation for all life. It is at this stage of formation that you need to have time to develop his properties in the child. Anal children in the future can become real professionals in their field, the best specialists. But to do this, they need to develop the habit of bringing what they started to completion. And here the real experience that they will receive in childhood is of particular importance.
Good exercises for developing this skill are drawing and “clean up” tasks. They begin to be practiced in the educational program even before school and, as a continuation, are introduced into the school curriculum. Drawing figures and first writing are good helpers in developing the child's ability to complete work efficiently. All sticks, dashes, curves must be traced to the end, diligently and accurately, without cutting corners and not forgetting to bring the pencil to the end point.
When looking through the child's drawings with an anal vector, focus on this: take his hand with a pencil in your hand and bring it to the end, claiming that this is the only way the work is finished and well done. And if a skin child can trace these figures every 5 minutes - he both smeared with a pencil on paper, and will continue to smear, then the anal child will perceive this process positively. Repeating the procedure several times, he will assert that the task must be completed to the point (literally).
Tasks like "take away the excess" are also a good development of the properties of the anal child, since, in fact, they represent a process of cleansing - correct figures from incorrect, correct meanings from inappropriate, incorrect ones. The proper formation of the cleansing process, both physiological and psychological, is the cornerstone in the formation of the psyche of the anal person. These tasks are internally understandable to the little anal person, and therefore, on their basis, many new volumes of information can be perceived and memorized - in such a semi-game pleasant form.
Memory is a separate and very important property of the anal person. This is a tool for fulfilling its specific role, allowing you to remember and save huge layers of information.
Learning poetry and memorizing information read in books will help develop memory. Reading is one of the rich sources of new knowledge, the little analist reads a lot and with pleasure, and it is important for the parent to participate in learning to read. There is nothing more important for a baby than reading a book with his mother, when they begin to read a word together (it is always difficult for an anal child to start), and the child finishes it on his own. For each paragraph read independently - mom's praise. This is important for an anal child - timely and well-deserved praise.
This approach should continue in the lower grades. Parental participation in homework checking supports the anal child in developing his properties. Reading should be clear, consistent. This requirement is largely met by educational books on school disciplines, repeating the school curriculum and supplementing it. A child with an anal vector is able to assimilate large amounts of information, the question is what information will fall into his hands. And here it is the parents who are responsible for directing his reading in the right direction, carefully considering the choice of literature.
How to avoid getting stuck?
One of the important features of teaching anal children is perseverance and consistency: you need to repeat the material as much as the child needs to memorize. To paraphrase a famous saying, repetition is the mother of anal learning. Do not regret this time: the result of these actions will be long-term. Often, such a child begins to slow down on new tasks or topics. At the same time, he sits down on a chair in a characteristic "closed" position, fixes his eyes at one point and becomes silent. Shouts and attempts to stir up do not help: he becomes even more locked in one of his thoughts, namely, on what he does not understand.
In order not to let him get hung up on this, you should regularly contact him with the question of whether he understands, if not, then without further ado, immediately start over. If you start over too long, then ask what exactly is unclear and start over from that point. Express it kindly. Do not scold or rush. Until the child nods, don't go further. It happens that "it does not reach" or the parent (teacher) is impatient, then it is better to take a break and leave the child alone with the task. Often, upon returning, one can observe a smiling child, who quite consciously repeats what was explained to him in the previous 15 minutes. And this is the result.
In the process of each task, it is enough to disassemble 2-3 examples, the anal child does not need more, then he will cope on his own. The main thing here is not to rush anywhere, to repeat often, to maintain contact with the child and briefly praise for the task done independently. You don't need to switch frequently. It is possible to complete classes in different disciplines only upon the fact that we have done everything planned for today (the work is finished). Such a child is able to sit for more than 45 minutes on the same type of work, optimally one hour. Often anal children for the first 15 minutes just enter the topic, swing for a long time.
From a conversation at a parent meeting in one of the elementary grades: “Your child has always been so obedient, he pulled the handle regularly, just lovely. A little inactive, but it's not scary … And now everything has stalled: he is constantly stubborn and silent! He must be somehow pushed in his immobility. Give it to the sports section. He will start to move physically and will be more mentally active! Alas, in the case of an anal child, this does not work.
Do not offer tasks for speed and agility
The anal child does not have the ability to solve problems for speed and logic. He does not strive to be the first, he wants to be the best. Moreover, if urged on, he may fall into a stupor: he does not accelerate, he stops doing anything at all. Often this can be observed at the blackboard: the surprised teacher urges a capable child, shouts, and he rests and stands silently with chalk in his hands. This situation causes ridicule of classmates, bewilderment of the insistent teacher and resentment in the anal child. In such a case, if the teacher has already been unsuccessful in rushing the child, then it is best to sit him down, promising to ask him another time. Both at home and at school, this condition can be corrected if you stop insisting and help the child start over: return to the original task and solve it in the usual order, while encouraging him,that nothing terrible happened.
In comparison with others, the anal child looks a little slow, less often inhibited. It seems to many teachers that he needs to be "stirred up", this gives anal children a grudge against teachers, even to the point of complete unwillingness to answer in the classroom. Due to the inability to respond in cases of "harassment" in front of the whole class, the child experiences a feeling of humiliation caused by reprimand, this is a great stress. After such a case, depending on the severity of the stress received, such a child no longer wants to repeat the painful and humiliating experience, and it will be difficult to force him to answer to the class, and later (if this experience is established in his head) it will be completely impossible.
There is nothing unusual about getting stuck in an anal baby. It is important to understand how to react to them correctly in order to help him get out of the stupor.
Sitting half a day with a book, staring at one letter, and never starting to read is inherent exclusively in the anal child. Trying to help him get started by raising his voice or coaxing is also not an option. Here it is better to either start doing another task, or even pause in the lesson.
Analytical mindset, or how to properly organize information
Each of the eight vectors has its own thinking. A child with an anal vector has an analytical mindset. An anal person can analyze information, decomposing it into its components, and then put it in an understandable order in his memory immediately upon receipt of new data. This determines some of the features of perception. Firstly, the assimilation of information takes longer than in other children, and it often needs repetition, because analysis and systematization occurs immediately. This takes time and careful rechecking, however, the result of such memorization is long-lasting.
Secondly, the primary memorization of information by an anal child follows the same pattern. Having learned to perceive one type of information in a certain way, he also tries to process other received data. New information and the absence of a template for processing it causes the anal child to loop, slow down. This can be seen in the example of ordinary mathematical problems, when the solution described by the teacher in the lesson is taken by the student, and the tasks presented in a different way, selected according to a different method of solution, are no longer perceived and solved, respectively. You cannot solve all the tasks in the lesson, but there is no way to learn from only one typing. If there are difficulties with different approaches to mathematical problems, this means that the approach to learning should be replaced.
To analyze means to go from the general to the particular (as opposed to synthesis). The anal child breaks what is given to him into particulars and puts it in a certain sequence, creating a system. Any material once analyzed is remembered by him, and he can use everything that is part of this information in different versions: once laid out on the shelves, it can be reproduced in the form of separate elements. But when the anal child is given only an already existing particular of the general, then he cannot approach another particular, this causes difficulties, since there is no general approach.
Thus, the educational approach should take into account the characteristics of the anal child: if he breaks down into particulars, it is necessary to teach more general, within which the particular also changes. That is, taking a certain topic, you should give it a general description and, within the framework of the general, show all possible solutions. In practice, it is not necessary to count, but it is necessary to show the different formats. By repeating this approach verbally with each decision, the child over and over again puts together a picture for himself.
For example, algebraic tasks in grades 6-7 generally have one base: equations, inequalities, systems with two unknowns. Equation building problems assume the general principle of dividing a value into halves, where some relations between them are preserved and a prerequisite is the correspondence of one half to the other. Moreover, in any case, you need to take something for the unknown and find its meaning.
There is no need to give up before the task, we keep talking about the same thing: "Do you remember, once we went through this." A common base against which the methods of solving problems are the particulars that were discussed, when he catches these connections, he will succeed. Many textbooks for school disciplines of the times of the USSR are written with just such an accent: this chapter is new, but in fact we have already gone through this. This statement already relieves half of the stress in the anal child. This is actually so: the beginnings of mathematics are based on a few logical statements that overlap in different areas of the school curriculum.
For an anal child, the textbook should always be with epigraphs and digressions: "It is important to remember from previous chapters", "Questions on previous topics", "Interesting to know." The book will go easier and more enjoyable if its pages contain images of key anal values: books and writing utensils. There should be cross-references to other topics to refresh the memory of the material covered.
The problem for the anal person is often the rigidity of memory: we remember everything in the same sequence as we remember, more often in chronology. With the increase in the amount of information received in the modern world, this approach takes a long time and sooner or later slows down the thought process. In order to move away from this, it is necessary to teach the child from childhood to work in different directions: not only from the general to the particular, but also vice versa, not only fully reproducing the knowledge gained, but also partially. Information can be systematized according to various criteria, and time is not a key factor here.
If you project this onto the mental properties of the child, then it will turn out like this: you need to arrange the known information in order, but what is the order? And the order can be different. This can be shown to the child with the help of various exercises on letters and numbers: in problem books there are always a lot of tasks to establish the order between the rows of numbers and formulas, where the order is set in advance, or it needs to be found (established). Concerning the letters: take the words known to the child and "stir" the letters in the word, changing their order. For children with anal-visual ligament of vectors, such tasks will be complementary and developmental. Don't confuse logic and order. No causal relationships, only separation and ordering of information. What follows what does not interest the psychic of the anal child - only the correct arrangement of the parts.
A child held captive by resentment: no more school!
Anal children are not only ready to support the educational process and learn at any time, but they can also show themselves withdrawn, offended. What does it look like in training? Stubbornness and stupor. The child does not perceive what he is told, often does the opposite, and does not do the task at all. When a teacher for him is a source of reproaches and grievances, then he has only a feeling of hostility towards her, a desire to do spite. At home, the same thing happens. How to approach such a child?
The reasons for this behavior are revealed at the training "System-Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan and answers are given on how to fix it. The offended anal child is no longer up to learning: he stops reading, teaching, perceiving. He opposes everything that can develop him, any new business. Trying to teach something to such a child, you often come across a wall of deaf rejection. He will not ask clarifying questions or complain about a misunderstanding, he will simply resist and be silent. It is important to understand what is happening to the child, and to approach him without irritation, gently but persistently.
First, you need to speak slowly, clearly and clearly show that he takes all your attention. It is advisable to call it from a closed state by drawing and reading aloud. The more consistently and focused he draws, the more chances he will be positioned. If attention can be captured, then with a prolonged explanation of the task, a response will go from the child: through the grumbling, you can make out the denial. It should be answered in a friendly way. He does not agree with the obvious thing - let it be. Here you can find out why, or you can conditionally agree with him and assume that it is, but then there will be no necessary order. The analnik best understands the categories of order and disorder - clean and dirty. And on the received contradiction and with your support, he will gradually come to an agreement.
If in such communication he agrees with you on something, consider that half of the victory has already been won: the child makes contact and begins to accept the information coming from you. Often, at this confidential moment, the child can say out loud, at first glance, obvious stupidity or something that has nothing to do with the task. Be kind to this. Most often this is his association with the information received. If, for example, they say that he has already heard from the hated teacher, he may mutter what she said about this topic or what happened in the class at the same time. For someone who is not in the know, this will sound like an inarticulate empty grunt.
It is sometimes useful to listen to these associations: the child will easily say what outrages or offends him, he gives out the most vivid association, what lies on the surface. In any case, you do not need to scold him. Regardless, continue to explain the task and its solution. Nod, agree, do not blame, and the child will begin to analyze the information. Slowly, maybe wrong, but he will start doing it. And this effort should be adequately rewarded with praise. In the process of solving, children often stumble, slow down - be patient, do not drive or scold, he moves, this is the main thing, and acceleration will come with experience.
Often offended children are confident in advance that they will not succeed. They simply do not start reading and understanding, giving up in advance. So he could be influenced by criticism, humiliation, or even simply lack of praise commensurate with his efforts. How to dissuade him? Ask him to do something and, having consistently walked with him all the way of solving (writing), show that everything is working out for him. He will immediately find an excuse: "It's not me, it's us together, and I myself can't." Continue to give the child the same tasks of the same type, gradually participating in the process less and less, giving him independence. A diligent anal child can handle it. And when for the 10th time he succeeds, praise him, emphasizing that he did it himself. Giving a child confidence in his abilities is a matter that takes time. But if this is not done, then, even as an adult, the anal sex will remain weak,a passive sofa-sitter with lowered arms, unable to realize himself and receive joy from life.
It is important to maintain self-confidence in him, to focus on this. If you do not calm the childish resentment that has arisen in the relationship with the mother, then such an approach, unfortunately, will only give short-term results. At any moment, the child will again switch to a closed and frowned state, and these games of the child with resentment can lead to extremely sad consequences.
In general, in everything related to learning, there should be a positive and supportive attitude, taking into account the mental characteristics of a particular child. The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan helps to understand what is favorable specifically for your child. And this article reveals the basic points in teaching the best potential students - children with an anal vector.
To be continued…
