My husband doesn't love me
It is not necessary all your life to speculate about your husband's behavior and consider him a creature from another planet. You can go the other way - the path of psychological literacy. Understand your own characteristics and the characteristics of your husband: why is he like that, and I'm different? Why did my husband suddenly say that he didn’t love me - is this really so, or is it something else? And what are the signs that the husband does not love his wife?
How to understand that my husband has stopped loving: it seems to me or is it the end?
You open wedding photos again and again - you are so happy and in love there! Tears welling up in your eyes - from happiness for what you were then, and from pain for what has become of you now. On that magical day, it seemed that you would be together all your life and his feeling for you would grow every day. But reality turned out to be more like not a happy fairy tale, but a drama with a sad ending. Increasingly, a terrible thought arises in my head - My husband does not love me. The farther back your wedding day goes, the worse your husband's attitude towards you becomes.
Perhaps you began to notice more and more signs that your husband fell out of love:
- He does not give flowers and gifts, does not make cute surprises, never asked for a date - as if you have been together for a hundred years and have become disgusted with each other.
- Began spending too much time at work. Almost never at home, and when he is, he continues to talk about work.
- Doesn't pay attention to family, doesn't spend time together.
- He does not talk about his feelings, does not show any emotions towards you. He is cold and withdrawn. Immersed in computer games or the phone.
Is this really the end and there is only one exit with a terrible name ahead - a divorce? Or is there still a chance to change everything and return her husband's love? What if my husband doesn't love?
I am sure that if there is even a small chance of saving the family, you will hold on to it. After all, you yourself love your husband with all your soul, with every cell and are ready to do everything for him. Despite all the disadvantages, there were so many happy moments between you! And there are many things that keep you together. But does HIM need this chance? If a man stopped loving, how does he behave? How bitter it is to live in this unknown. How do you know for sure how your husband is feeling? And how to understand that the husband has stopped loving?
Options are usually offered:
- create a situation in which he will show his attitude towards you (for example, make him jealous);
- ask mom or girlfriends for advice;
- consult a fortune teller or astrologer.
Caution: do no harm
There is a great danger in advice of this kind. At first glance, they seem to be simple and effective. But these actions can undermine the last trust in the family and cause great harm to your relationship.
And then you can finally lose his love. To prevent this from happening, you need to figure out what a strong pair relationship is built on. More details can be found in the article: Let's talk frankly.
Does he love or not?
It is not necessary all your life to speculate about your husband's behavior and consider him a creature from another planet. You can go the other way - the path of psychological literacy. Understand your own characteristics and the characteristics of your husband: why is he like that, and I'm different? Why did my husband suddenly say that he didn’t love me - is this really so, or is it something else? And what are the signs that the husband does not love his wife?
Each person has certain psychological qualities called vectors. They shape our character and habits, give their own characteristics to how we perceive the world.
For a woman with a visual vector, it is especially important that there is a lot of love in the relationship. For her, the very meaning of life is in love. And if she is not there, then life is not sweet. For a visual woman, it is very scary to lose the feelings of a loved one - this is tantamount to losing the meaning of life. If a suspicion appears in her soul that her husband does not love, it will endlessly itch and torment her from the inside.
“Love with eyes” is about us.
For a visual woman, romantic displays of love are very important: flowers, compliments, pleasant surprises. Words of admiration and eyes of a loved one full of tenderness. And if a man with a visual vector is a couple for her, it will be easy for them to understand each other. But there may be another situation - when the husband does not have this vector or there are other dominant vectors. And his displays of love will be different.
Signs when a husband does not love his wife: MYTHS and TRUTH
- If a man does not give flowers, does not behave romantically - perhaps he simply does not have a visual vector. It just doesn't occur to him that this is how you can express your feelings and that it is so important to you.
- If he spends a lot of time at work, often delays and takes work home - do not rush to suspect him of cheating or cooling interest. Often men with a skin vector behave this way - earners and workaholics by nature. For them, the main manifestation of love is to climb the career ladder and provide a wife and children at the highest level, so that the family has more than others.
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If your husband does not accept all these "calf tenderness", and shows his love by actions, taking care of the family and children - most likely, you got the owner of the anal vector. It is not easy for him to be gentle and show his feelings, but he is an ideal father and a reliable family man and will always be the strongest rear for you.
- If your beloved is often withdrawn and detached, immersed in his thoughts and can seem to forget about you - this does not mean at all that you are not important to him. This behavior could be a sign of a sound vector. Sound people can have a storm of emotions inside, but at the same time outside - not a single muscle will tremble on a stone face. They are often focused within themselves, on their thoughts. And if a person is not aware of his sound vector and does not realize himself, he can become more and more detached and depressed. At attempts to stir him up and pull him out of the cocoon of his own thoughts, he will react irritably and in a fit may even shout out that he hates his wife (or, in general, “all of you”). But in fact, he screams about his inner shortcomings.
Are we from different planets or not?
Many of the seeming signs that the husband has fallen out of love, in fact, are not. But, without understanding this, we interpret the behavior of a loved one in our own way, through ourselves: when I love, I want to do “something”. And if he doesn't want to do it, then he doesn't like it. We draw erroneous conclusions and take offense, we begin to wind ourselves up. And instead of hearing the other person, we move further away, hurting each other.
Fortunately, today there is a methodology that helps to accurately recognize and understand your husband. Solve the riddles of his behavior once and for all. Find the answer to the question yourself: does the husband dislike his wife or does it just seem to her? Moreover, help regain interest and affection for each other. Yuri Burlan's training "System-Vector Psychology" has already helped hundreds of women save their families and resurrect their husband's love:
