The child does not obey the parents
When parents ask a question about children's disobedience, they always expect a specific answer in relation to their own baby. Indeed, how to understand what is happening if this child does not obey his mother, is rude, throws tantrums, but this one, with the same approach, is obedient and quiet? What is the difference between them?
It seemed to her that she was going crazy. The feeling of my own powerlessness was exhausting so that I wanted to howl loudly. “Lord! Why did I give birth to this! The naughty little creature literally devoured all the time and energy, leaving a feeling of complete hopelessness. Nothing helped: no persuasion, no strict shouts. The beloved child turned into a source of suffering and pain, ignoring any attempts to influence his behavior.
Sound familiar? Then this article is for you. With the help of Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, we will try to figure out how to correct a situation when a child does not obey his parents.
Someone else's soul of darkness?
When parents ask a question about children's disobedience, they always expect a specific answer in relation to their own baby. Indeed, how to understand what is happening if this child does not obey his mother, is rude, throws tantrums, but this one, with the same approach, is obedient and quiet? What is the difference between them?
The answer lies in the very formulation of the question. The word "child", about which advice is given on forums and various sites, sounds generalized and impersonal. Which child? What exactly is his disobedience expressed? Who is his mom and what does she want from her baby?
Almost everywhere we are talking only about external criteria: a boy or a girl, age, visible signs of behavior - hyperactivity or slowness, etc. But this is a form that everyone sees. And what's inside, what's going on in your child's head, what makes him do certain things? What desires drive him? And most importantly, how to teach a child to obey?
Training System-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan invites you to get acquainted with the inner world of your child, his innate characteristics, values and desires - with vectors that mosaic his psyche. This will help you understand exactly which approach will be most effective for your child. You will understand what your kid will do with great pleasure. And you will find out what he will definitely not do, because he does not have the ability and desire for this.
Let's get acquainted with the most striking examples of naughty children and find a solution to the problem.
Faster, higher, stronger
He is unable to sit still, the energy is overflowing. In a second, your child turns into a rapidly rushing rocket, which is impossible to keep track of. It seems that he is in several places at the same time, creating noise and chaos around him. He is constantly on the move and cannot concentrate even for a moment.
All words, even if they manage to fly into one ear, immediately fly safely into the other. He doesn't remember at all what you said to him! Thinking, uncontrollable, always rushing somewhere! He doesn’t listen, he’s almost annoyed. If this description suits your baby, then it means that he is the owner of the skin vector.
Nature gave him a lot of wonderful qualities - activity, striving for leadership, purposefulness and the ability to think logically. The list of gifts of fate also includes ambition, the desire for competition, superiority and excellent organizational skills. All these are talents that need proper development.
Children with a skin vector have a great need for constant movement, so they will happily go in for sports, especially those types where you can compete, strive for victory and achieve success. The discipline, the daily routine necessary for sports training, will be perceived by them naturally and in the future will be enjoyable.
These children love to play war and command their troops, showing the talent of a military leader. Therefore, in the process of playing, it is quite easy for a child to instill respect for a higher rank and teach him to follow the orders of the “senior in rank”. At the same time, it is necessary to give him the opportunity to show the abilities of an organizer and manager, entrusting him with the performance of any team task.
His innate desire to look for benefits and benefits in any business will help you negotiate with the little businessman about anything. When he learns to understand the logic of any of your requests and feels some benefit for himself, then many problems associated with disobedience and bad behavior will simply go away.
“You will read in order to study well, and then go to college and become the chief designer who will build a rocket for a flight to Mars” - By showing your child why he is doing this or that task, you teach him to think logically. The ability to invent, design is also given by nature to your baby. And if you ask to assemble a robot or a rocket from a construction set, then, rest assured, he will do it brilliantly.
How to negotiate with a little stubborn
A completely different approach should be to a child who has naturally opposite properties. He is very slow and easily vulnerable, even touchy. You are pissed off by his unwillingness to do everything quickly, it seems that he deliberately slows down even more. All requests are ignored, and your little bull is stubborn, becomes aggressive and stops doing anything.
He doesn't like fast movements at all. Attempts to get him to play competitive sports are met with resistance. Even worse, if you start pushing such a child, do not let him finish what he started. Not feeling support from his mother, he stops obeying, begins to be rude, contradict everything and even fight. His constant “I don’t want, I will not, I will not go” is so infuriating that you involuntarily break into a scream, you start to jerk him and … nothing changes. Everything only gets worse and goes in a kind of vicious circle.
Yes, this baby is a real test for a mom with a fast pace of life. Here knowledge of systemic vector psychology helps to know the desires and characteristics of a child who has an anal vector. You have already seen that this is a stubborn and touchy child. But he is capable of being a golden child!
His talents from birth are excellent memory, the ability to learn and transfer knowledge to others, the desire to do everything efficiently. He will happily learn to read, clean the house and make something with his own hands. He has analytical thinking and amazing perseverance. And also the desire to be the best for the most important person - mom. These are the most obedient and easy-to-educate children. Let's figure out how to educate a little stubborn in his rhythm according to his abilities and in the most pleasant way for both of you.
A child with an anal vector does not understand the benefits-benefits, but it is very important for him that his efforts are appreciated. He is waiting to be praised for his efforts and a job well done. You can get a lot out of your little one with reasonable praise. He'll even try to do everything as fast as he can. Give him more time, start packing early.
There will be no room for stubbornness and resentment if you manage to adhere to just two conditions:
- Do not rush the child and give him the opportunity to develop at his own pace.
- Praise for the effort shown and the assignments well done.
End of the feast of disobedience
There are eight vectors in total, and each has its own disobedience. Moreover, a child, as a rule, is the owner of not only one vector, which complicates his character, while simultaneously increasing his capabilities.
All you need is to understand the vectors, which means, to understand who was born in your family, and you will forever solve the problem of disobedience for yourself. You will know how to behave in any situation better than any psychologist. With the help of Yuri Burlan's System-Vector Psychology, you will know everything about children, their innate abilities and upbringing. You will look into the soul of your child, find out what talents are inherent in him and how to develop them.
The upbringing process will be unmistakable, in the best and most pleasant way for both of you, without irritation and anger. The question of how to make the child obey will not even arise, your understanding will be so complete. Thousands of parents share their results.
The holiday of disobedience will end already at the first lectures of the free training System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan. Register here.
